Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Charles E. Nelson on December 4, 2020 at 8:47pm

Hello everyone,

 Just wanted to let you know that Steve is fine and his surgery went very well. We actually had a very pleasant day at the hospital, 100% due to the caring compassionate nursing staff who recognized us and went above and beyond to keep us calm and comfortable. It didn't hurt that I brought a huge box of homemade cookies for the staff! Thank you Chicago, Trina, Jeanette, and everybody for your support today and always - we love our dear Legacy family

Stay well and safe - 

Love, Chuck

Comment by Trina Mamoon on December 4, 2020 at 3:53pm

Dear Chuck,

Keeping you and Steve in my thoughts and prayers as your go through this difficult experience.

Sending love to you both and healing vibes to Steve.

Hugs, Trina

Comment by Chicago Beard on December 4, 2020 at 3:31pm


Hope Steve's surgery is successful and completes what needs to be done. Stay safe and take care!

Comment by Jeanette McSherry on December 4, 2020 at 9:00am

Please tell Steve he's in our thoughts and prayers. So sorry both of you have to go through this. I know how emotionally draining it can be. Call if there's anything I can do. Love Jenni

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on December 4, 2020 at 8:51am

Hi everyone,

Just letting you all know that Steve is having out-patient surgery this afternoon. This is the second in 2 months, and while there is no major cause for concern, it's still surgery and I hate seeing him go through this again. We are managing, but as you all know this brings up for us all kinds of "background noise" surrounding illnesses, hospitals, etc. I will post again tonight to let you all know how he is - how we both are - and can already feel the support and strength coming our way from everyone who reads this. 
Hugs and love to all from us both

Love, Chuck

Comment by Sara Murphy on November 30, 2020 at 3:54pm

Steve....Thinking about you on this 6th anniversary.  I'm glad you re-posted this poem.  I remember reading it before but now I'm going to copy it so I'll have it.   It's a nice reminder that our loved ones are right by our side



Comment by Trina Mamoon on November 30, 2020 at 2:03pm

Dear Steve,

Thinking of you today and sending you love and prayers as you give thanks for your soulmate and best friend Mark today. He will always be with you.

Hugs, Trina

Comment by Steve G. on November 30, 2020 at 10:27am


Me and Mark were together for 26 years, he always saw the silver lining in everything, I was worried about too much.  He would always tell me "we will get thru this" and he was right, we always did.

You are welcome and I thank you for sharing,

Comment by CHAYA SPECTOR on November 30, 2020 at 9:56am

Thank you Steve G. 

in 15 days it will be a year since Bridgett died.  I feel her with me most of the time... standing next to me whispering...You can do it.. especially wound the many technology issues that have risen up this past year.  I feel her closer by me  as the days move into months into a year. She will always be a part of me... As you said so wonderfully. Bridgett too taught me to how to love, how to as i say "sit and stay" in a relationship. For 24 years  i sat, i stayed  and i am so so happy i got to have her in my life for as long as i did.  

Comment by Steve G. on November 30, 2020 at 7:08am

Six years have passed since my best friend, soul mate and the one person that taught me how to love and trust someone so completely, Mark William Cava.  He is now at peace and in my heart forever, now I remember all of the good memories with a fondness that I never thought I could.

I found this poem during the first year of his passing, it puts into words exactly how I feel this day:

For those who believe:

I wish I could tell you of all that God has planned
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn’t understand
But one this is for certain though my life on earth is o’re
I am closer to you now than I was ever before
And to my very many friends, trust God knows what is best
I’m still not far away from you, I’m just beyond the crest
There are rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb
But together we can do it taking one day at a time
It was always my philosophy and I’d like it for you too
That as you give unto the world so the world will give to you
If you can help somebody who is in sorrow or in pain
Then you can say to God at night my day was not in vain
And now I am contented that my life was worthwhile
Knowing as I passed along the way I made somebody smile
So if you meet somebody who is down and feeling low
Just lend a hand to pick him/her up as on your way you go.
When you are walking down the street and you’ve got me on your mind,
I’m walking in your footsteps only half a step behind
And when you feel the gentle breeze or the wind upon your face
That’s me giving you a great big hug or just a soft embrace
And when it’s time for you to go from that body to be free
Remember you’re not going you are coming here to me.
I will always love you.



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