Grief support groups, condolence advice, funeral etiquette and more
A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
Latest Conversations: Jan 17
This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Dear Todd ... You are such a sweetie and I enjoy your posts. I am so happy to hear you are beginning to live and moving forward. We all are here to encourage each other. I wish you the best New Year ever and that you stay healthy and are at peace with yourself. I know, I know, some days are tough, but I find I just slap myself on the cheek and get moving. Hey, I have more than 2 cheeks! I also kick my butt when I feel I'm dragging my feet.
Love & Hugs
HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU ALL! I wish you all good health, practicing smiling and get up and get moving! This old Irish/Scottish gal doesn't give in to sitting around and I'm up and at 'em. I'm so sick of Covid I ignore not seeing friends who want to see me. Life is so precious and I'm not missing out. Making snow angels in the snow right now and I think my neighbors figure I've really lost all my brain cells. Be a kid, flip that fear button OFF and LIVE! 2022 is going to be good for all of us.
I love you all and you are all in my prayers.
Love & Hugs to all
Sara ... It's so good to see you posting again. Hope you are doing well. I know Covid has struck all of us as far as taking part of our freedom away and the worry of it all, but, it is another day and one step at a time. I wish you health, happiness in the New Year. Don't be a stranger on here. I think of you often as I do others on here.
Hi Todd....It's nice to see you post as well. It seems you're in a good place now and I'm glad to see you smile :)
Chuck and Steve...please know I think of you all nightly...and I don't mind you being a mother hen Chuck. It just means you care. I'm doing ok. I never felt the anger that some of you have felt. I skipped that step in my grief journey. I obviously think of Ken daily and would love for him to walk back through the door but I'm living my life as he would want me to. He would come back and kick my ass if I wasn't. Steve.....I'm so sorry to hear about your Aunt and Uncle. I know it's not easy but try to focus on the happy times spent with them.
Mary Jane...I'm glad you had a great Christmas but sorry to hear of your other difficulties. As you know, this is a place of safety and no judgement. It's hard enough that we lost our life partners but now we have to deal with the restrictions of Covid. It's possible you may be angrier with Covid than Bob. I certainly hope the physical pain you're experiencing will ease up.
Love all of you, my Legacy family. I only wish it were possible to meet in person. Wishing you peace, happiness and health for the New Year.
Thank y’all so much. I had forgotten the solace coming here brings thank you for the nice comments, and for sharing your stories. .
I hope all of u have a great New Years...and we forget this crappy year, filled with illness and fear.
Wasn,t there a book, or movie years back that had a world like this one has been this year? One of these end of days stories?
ok the hell with this negativity. I am SOOO happy to be back among friends...I wish you all everything wonderful.
A big shout out to you all :-)
I feel comfortable saying "Happy New Year"! It will be six years on Valentine's Day 2022. But I can honestly express that "Happy New Years" is now longer just a old platitude!
So don't forget to smile! Have some fun and may happy and healthy times be upon all of us here on Legacy!
Sara, so good to see you post!
Chuck, you make for a great Bard! Love your writing!
Steve, Debra, Marsha, Trina, Chicago, Steve, Steve G., Mary Jane, I wish you all a blessed Happy New Years!
Well, guess who is not getting any updates from Legacy, me. I have tried all the tricks I know of to get updates into my email. Oh well, one of life's little bumps. Anyway, Chuck is now my mail alert.
Hope your New Year is just that, a very good New Year for you and everyone on Legacy.
Take care and may the joy of a New Year fill us all with wonder and hope.
Well now, another new year is upon us all, what shall we do with it?
I for one plan to take it as it comes, so much easier that way. My days of trying to control time and life events seems to take too much energy away.
Thank you one and all for posting, seems like old times here on legacy.
Sara, glad to hear you are ok, Mary Jane, your posts are so honest, and heart felt, you always help us all in ways you do not realize.
This past Christmas my Aunt and Uncle who are both in their nineties spent the holiday in the hospital and then rehab (still there). They were the ones who helped my grandparents after my mom died. I know no other parents than my grandparents and my Aunt Betty and uncle Joe. they were there for me as a baby and all through my adult life. I am saddened by the fact that they are suffering from the ravages of time with so many health issues. I cannot get to them right now, bust their children (my cousins) are very attentive to them and keep me updated. Sometimes I really feel that they would be better off if they quietly passed on. But, even having just typed that brings tears to my eyes.
So, we just keep on keeping on as time goes by.
Wishing you all a better New Year and hope for all of us as we move forward in this timeline. May God bless and keep you all safe and healthy.
Just a quick "Hello" to let you know how much my heart smiled when I read your post - not just for what you said, but for knowing that you are well and still following us here.
Even if you are behind in reading or keeping up, just an occasional word is all I ask to know you're OK - just can't stop this mother hen from clucking, as Steve refers to me - but it's only because i love you -
Happy New Year,
Dear Mary Jane,
I always greatly appreciate your humor, honesty, and insights you share with us - I am drawing much strength and balance from the reawakening of conversation here, and I do feel I need it.
Good for you that you had a great Christmas - ours was stress-free, quiet, and very pleasant. I am packing away the small room decor I did, just feeling over it already and wanting to begin the year without that chore facing me.
The way you express your anger and the thoughts it has led you to offer me such insight into my own anger, so thank you for that. Sometimes I don't know what to do with it all, and that can lead to getting a little manic, so I'm very grateful for Steve's tolerance and understanding when I make things unpleasant here - he just rides it out like a soldier, God bless him.
I understand how your feelings have changed since your first reaction to your move to today, when we're still dealing with Covid and political division worse than I remember in my life. "Why bother" runs through my brain more often than I like, but somehow I distract myself with menial chores, meal prep, and my sewing projects for my dolls. They are silent, obedient, and never bite me when I accidentally stick them with a pin, so they are good companions when I need to disconnect from the negative news of the day.
As you know, I am an alcoholic who stopped drinking when hospitalized only weeks before Larry passed. Your frankness about breaking your own long sobriety invites me to be frank also. I was clearly told that, should I drink again, It would kill me - my liver won't tolerate any more deterioration. Honestly Mary Jane, in my darker moments I almost feel like saying the hell with it and getting a bottle - then I imagine what the reality of that would be for me, and especially for Steve. I just am so grateful for God having given me strength, guidance, and most of all loving companionship to get me through the nightmare of being so sick and losing Larry simultaneously that to throw it all away would be unforgivable. Not to mention the incredible gift of bringing me to this group, or family as I see you, to support, comfort, and sustain me all these 6 plus years. You are adult, aware, and completely honest in what you are doing, and I have no judgement or disapproval in my heart, only love and the same prayer I have for us all - that we continue healing, sharing, and remembering why we came here in the first place - to lift and support each other.
I'm so sorry you are dealing with the amount of physical pain you are having - this no doubt contributes to your feelings of not having your stuff together, and the futility you express - who wouldn't feel that way in your position? Please continue to come here and talk, no matter how briefly or how trivial you may feel are the things you want to share - by doing so you let us know you are still here with us, and that alone is a great comfort to me.
Have a pleasant New Year's Eve, which I wish to everyone, and stay well and safe -
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