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Comment by Marsha H on December 31, 2021 at 7:17am

Dear Mary Jane ...  I'll be emailing you girl.  I've been busy shoveling snow and what a workout!  Haven't even been able to take the dogs out for a walk and they're bored like me.  

Mary, if you drink too much beer your lips are going to be sucked right into one of the bottles.  LOL  I know it's Covid making people do strange things.  I have to look in the mirror to figure out if it's me or not!  Sometimes the dogs growl at me and I know I have to get it together and get moving.  Covid has turned people into drinking more and if not that since it's legal in Canada a joint or two and if not eating all the time.  My wish for this New Year is you try and stop that drinking and hope your daughter does the same.  Get out of the house!!!!  Get moving; meet people; learn to laugh at yourself and snuggle up with your kitty.  Life is worth living and get some fire under your butt and don't let our Governments ruin our lives.  I'm going to go down in flames and better that than giving in.  I love you Mary and care.  

Here is to a Happy New Year to you and your daughter and wishing you good health, good life and peace.

Love & Hugs

Marsha

Comment by Marsha H on December 31, 2021 at 7:08am

Oh my dear Steve ...  I've had that happen to me too.  Glad Chuck is picking things up  re the posts for you.  

Like Christmas, I will be spending New Year's Eve alone with my dogs as we have so much snow here.  That Arctic front hit us.  I'm tired of shoveling snow, but my girlfriend also helps me so I can't complain.  Most people are staying home and our Health Canada (the Grinches) have closed down most things for bringing in the New Year.  Oh well, I'll  put the fireplace on and have one of my White Russians and then kiss the dogs on the lips.

I hope your New Year is full of good wishes my dear friend; we all deserve it.

Love & Hugs

Marsha

Comment by Marsha H on December 31, 2021 at 7:02am

Dear Todd ...  You are such a sweetie and I enjoy your posts.  I am so happy to  hear you are beginning to live and moving forward.  We all are here to encourage each other.  I wish you the best New Year ever and that you stay healthy and are at peace with yourself.  I know, I know, some days are tough, but I find I just slap myself on the cheek and get moving.  Hey, I have more than 2 cheeks!  I also kick my butt when I feel I'm dragging my feet.

Love & Hugs

Marsha

Comment by Marsha H on December 31, 2021 at 6:58am

HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU ALL!  I wish you all good health, practicing smiling and get up and get moving!  This old Irish/Scottish gal doesn't give in to sitting around and I'm up and at 'em.  I'm so sick of Covid I ignore not seeing friends who want to see me.  Life is so precious and I'm not missing out.  Making snow angels in the snow right now and I think my neighbors figure I've really lost all my brain cells.  Be a kid, flip that fear button OFF and LIVE!  2022 is going to be good for all of us.  

I love you all and you are all  in my prayers.

Love & Hugs to all

Marsha

Comment by Marsha H on December 31, 2021 at 6:52am

Sara ...  It's so good to see you posting again.  Hope you are doing well.  I know Covid has struck all of us as far as taking part of our freedom away and the worry of it all, but, it is another day and one step at a time.  I wish you  health, happiness in the New Year.  Don't be a stranger on here.  I think of you often as I do others on here.

Hugs

Marsha

Comment by Sara Murphy on December 30, 2021 at 9:43pm

Hi Todd....It's nice to see you post as well.  It seems you're in a good place now and I'm glad to see you smile :)

Chuck and Steve...please know I think of you all nightly...and I don't mind you being a mother hen Chuck.  It just means you care.  I'm doing ok.  I never felt the anger that some of you have felt.  I skipped that step in my grief journey.  I obviously think of Ken daily and would love for him to walk back through the door but I'm living my life as he would want me to.  He would come back and kick my ass if I wasn't.  Steve.....I'm so sorry to hear about your Aunt and Uncle.  I know it's not easy but try to focus on the happy times spent with them. 

Mary Jane...I'm glad you had a great Christmas but sorry to hear of your other difficulties.  As you know, this is a place of safety and no judgement.  It's hard enough that we lost our life partners but now we have to deal with the restrictions of Covid.  It's possible you may be angrier with Covid than Bob.  I certainly hope the physical pain you're experiencing will ease up.

Love all of you, my Legacy family.  I only wish it were possible to meet in person.  Wishing you peace, happiness and health for the New Year. 

Sara

Comment by Mary. Jane on December 30, 2021 at 6:08pm

Thank y’all so much. I had forgotten the solace coming here brings thank you for the nice comments, and for sharing your stories. . 

I hope all of u have a great New Years...and we forget this crappy year, filled with illness and fear. 

Wasn,t there a book, or movie years back that had a world like this one has been this year? One of these end of days stories?

ok the hell with this negativity. I am SOOO happy to be back among  friends...I wish you all everything wonderful. 

Comment by Todd B. Goodrich on December 30, 2021 at 5:07pm

Hello all!

A big shout out to you all :-)

I feel comfortable saying "Happy New Year"! It will be six years on Valentine's Day 2022. But I can honestly express that "Happy New Years" is now longer just a old platitude!

So don't forget to smile! Have some fun and may happy and healthy times be upon all of us here on Legacy!

Sara, so good to see you post!

Chuck, you make for a great Bard! Love your writing!

Steve, Debra, Marsha, Trina, Chicago, Steve, Steve G., Mary Jane, I wish you all a blessed Happy New Years!

Love ya,

Todd

Comment by Steve G. on December 30, 2021 at 4:29pm

Marsha,

Well, guess who is not getting any updates from Legacy, me.  I have tried all the tricks I know of to get updates into my email.  Oh well, one of life's little bumps.  Anyway, Chuck is now my mail alert.

Hope your New Year is just that, a very good New Year for you and everyone on Legacy.

Take care and may the joy of a New Year fill us all with wonder and hope.

Steve

Comment by Steve G. on December 30, 2021 at 4:20pm

Well now, another new year is upon us all, what shall we do with it?

I for one plan to take it as it comes, so much easier that way.  My days of trying to control time and life events seems to take too much energy away.  

Thank you one and all for posting, seems like old times here on legacy.

Sara, glad to hear you are ok, Mary Jane, your posts are so honest, and heart felt, you always help us all in ways you do not realize.

This past Christmas my Aunt and Uncle who are both in their nineties spent the holiday in the hospital and then rehab (still there).  They were the ones who helped my grandparents after my mom died.  I know no other parents than my grandparents and my Aunt Betty and uncle Joe. they were there for me as a baby and all through my adult life.   I am saddened by the fact that they are suffering from the ravages of time with so many health issues.  I cannot get to them right now, bust their children (my cousins) are very attentive to them and keep me updated.  Sometimes I really feel that they would be better off if they quietly passed on.  But, even having just typed that brings tears to my eyes.  

So, we just keep on keeping on as time goes by.  

Wishing you all a better New Year and hope for all of us as we move forward in this timeline.  May God bless and keep you all safe and healthy.

Steve

 

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