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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
Latest Conversations: Oct 10
This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
Started by Tim's Mom, Vickie. Last reply by Terry Kent Mar 7, 2022.
Started by Julie. Last reply by DJ Dec 6, 2020.
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Steve, I remember your post when Bella died..and have thought of it often. I found it very comforting..that somehow our beloved pets stay with us, hopefully to join us in our next lives. (Yes, I believe in reincarnation…the short time we are here never made sense to me, even as a kid, discovering we return and possibly be with the ones we love, including our pets, was a gift I cherish. I learned that by reading books on Edgar Cayce..way back in the 1960s. NOW there are a gazillion books on his life…at the time there were only TWO! If u have never read anything about him..it’s kinda awesome..
Hi everyone. Something WONDEFUL happened late last night when I was in bed asleep..each night, I sleep on my side, on the LEFT side. The right side was always Bobs..for 7 years, I have NEVER slept in “his place”. RUDY my cat sleeps next to me on the right..in his little bed. I woke up around 1 am..petted Rudy, then NOTICED BOB WAS SLEEPING IN HIS USUAL PLACE. which made me smile…I watched him sleep..and even thought..”Oh, Bobs here! This is nice”
And then I remembered…Bob had died..but I wasn’t sad, or upset, just ACCEPTING..and then he was gone..and I fell back asleep. I KNOW it was really him.I felt SAFE and cared for.
Has anyone else had a visit? Thanks guys..bye for now.
It is great to see so many of the gang checking in. It's been an especially long time that you've bee silent Pete. I'm glad I do get the email notifications. All is well in my neck of the woods. The kids keep me busy with remodeling, IT support, and now babysitting.
Take care, all.
OMG, I see a post from DJ on August 4th about Joseph's anniversary. You have such a phenomenal memory, DJ! Thank you so very much for remembering and for posting. Your thoughtfulness and kindness mean a lot to me.
How have you been? Okay, I hope?
Sending you hugs,
I see you sent me a message for Joseph's anniversary on August 4th (and yes, it was the nine year anniversary), but I didn't receive the notification. I am so sorry!
You are such a wonderful and thoughtful friend, you remembered and wrote to me. Thank you, thank you.
My heart breaks for you that the small family you had, they all moved thousands of miles away leaving you behind and not helping you move with them. Totally unconscionable on their part, especially when you are such a good sister, aunt, and great aunt.
I am sorry I am not a good correspondent on email and can't write often. I truly appreciate your kindness and thoughtfulness and wish I could do something to help you in your time of need. All I can do is pray for you. You are a very strong person, and I know you will endure.
Take care, my dear friend.
Big hugs and love your way.
I am scrolling down the posts and see that this forum is active. For some reason, I don't get the notifications anymore. Only Steve's post from yesterday was in my email Inbox. I am so glad that Steve's post came through, otherwise, I wouldn't have known of the activity on this forum.
Hello You All Wonderful People!
It was incredibly comforting to see the post by Steve yesterday (for the first time in more than year?), followed by Sara, Chuck, Marsha, Pete, Chicago, and Mary Jane. Just the other day, I was thinking of this forum and of you all wondering whether this forum is still active. And here we are, so many people chiming in and sharing their experiences of the difficult and challenging journey that we are on.
It's been nine years for me on August 4th since Joseph left this earth. My grief has changed. Like Steve's post notes, grief is not something you complete, it's something you endure, adjust to and absorb. It's so true!
My grief is much less acute than it was say, maybe 4 or 5 years ago; now I can enjoy family time (sisters, brothers, nephews and nieces and their adorable little kids), conversation with a friend over dinner, a good book, a song, a walk in the park on a beautiful day. I am thankful for being able to enjoy these simple pleasures of life again. But one thing that hasn't changed over tie and never will until I breathe my last, is I will never stop loving or missing Joseph. Everyday when I open my eyes, my first thought is about Joseph, and at night I say goodnight to him before falling asleep. He is a part of me, and that feeling time will never erode. Like Mary Jane, my consolation is in the hope of meeting Joseph on the other side when my time comes.
I want to thank each and every one of you for continuing to reach out here, to try to help lessen our grief, to help us find some measure of comfort and hope. And to each of you I send love and warm wishes to endure in your journey, at whatever point you find yourselves in in that journey. Hugs and love.
Mary Jane....I'm glad they figured out what was wrong and that it's treatable. Unknown medical situations are so scary and our minds fill in the blanks with worse case scenarios.. Good luck with your surgery. Be sure to check in and let us know how you're doing
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