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Comment by Charles E. Nelson on November 6, 2020 at 11:59am

Dear Deborah,

Wow, do your words ring incredibly true and familiar to me. Yes, indeed I felt at one time like I was stuck  - a very appropriate word - and wasn't getting or going anywhere. I second Steve's sentiment that you are going to be alright - this feeling is normal and will if not pass, at least morph into something you can manage to live with. 

The month of November, and the Fall in general, for me  brings a sense of slowing down, reflecting on the past as thoughts turn inward, and preparing for bad weather. Perhaps this is because i grew up in a northern climate where the approaching winter was taken seriously as more than just Holidays but a time to prepare for storms, cold, and shoveling snow - times before snow-blowers. 

Mentally I still find myself preparing for storms and trouble -  it just seems now to come from my grieving and missing people and places gone.

Be gentle on yourself, and follow your instincts - if taking down photos or putting away items feels right then do so. Nothing will remove our love or memories of our loved ones from our days - or our hearts. I talk to Larry daily, still find tears surprising me with certain pieces of music playing or movies showing on TV. This is who I am now, and I can't be anybody but me so I won't even pretend to try.

Sending a big hug and much love to you - 

Chuck 

Comment by Steve G. on November 6, 2020 at 9:53am

November 30th will be 6 years since Mark's passing.  I still keep his photo on my night stand, along with my Sister and Mom.  I still think of him daily and always will.  There really is no norm for how we pass thru grief, the truth is we will never get away from it.  We do however, allow it to change us as we decide and we are forever changed.  I find life is a never ending story of lessons that continue to make us who we are today.  All the bad and hurtful memories are replaced by the blessings and good memories, which helps us to grow and change.

You are doing fine, allow subtle changes to occur no matter how small.  Good to hear from you, hope you and your family and friends are well.

Sending hugs to all,

Steve

Comment by deborah peck on November 6, 2020 at 9:42am

Its been 3 1/2 years since Greg passed away, all this time Ive been kinda pretending hes still here, not fully acknowledging the fact hes not here. I went thru my house yesterday and took down all the extra pictures that I had put up of him, I feel like I need to move on so to speak and maybe this will help, my life just seems stuck in a falsehood I cant get out of, I try but just cant climb that hurdle , did anyone else feel this way and how did you get past it

Comment by Trina Mamoon on September 29, 2020 at 5:44pm

Dear Steve,

What you say is so very true! That you are not the same person you were 6 years ago, and yet, you are very much that same person. This is very true for me too! In so many ways I do not recognize the person I was six years ago when Joseph passed, and yet, in other ways I am that very same person. Perhaps part of the difficulty of our "new" life lies in this conundrum? There are echoes of us inside of us from our past life, yet we are very different today... I am grateful that I can come here and share my thoughts and know that I am to alone in this.

Sending you good thoughts and love as well. Stay safe and stay well. 

Hugs, Trina

Comment by Steve G. on September 25, 2020 at 7:04am

Thank you Trina,

We help each other in ways no other person outside of this small circle will ever understand.  I am not the same person I was 6 years ago; and yet, I am very much that same person.

I had to find the scarred little Steve so wrapped up in barriers and mistrust and let him become the me I am now.

It has been and will continue to be a journey for us all.

Peace and love to everyone to my Legacy family,

Stay safe and be not alone.

Love, Steve

Comment by Trina Mamoon on September 24, 2020 at 4:38pm

Dear Chuck,

Your facility with words and the way you can express the emotions and feelings that many of us continue to feel on this forum even after five, six (for me), or more years after the loss of our beloved spouse is a precious gift to us.

Your musings and contemplation on grief and how it touches us and changes us importantly and permanently, remind me of my conversations with Joseph, who you might recall, was a professor of Philosophy. The depth of your words, the philosophical foundation of your thinking moved me greatly as it reminded me of my conversations on similar topics with Joseph. Joseph was not only a beloved teacher, he was also a mentor and friend to his many students. And when once in a while, a student faced some tragic loss or even the death of a parent or friend, Joseph would console them with engaging in conversations like you engaged in here. So thank you not only for baring your soul to us so honestly and beautifully, but for also providing me with the wonderful opportunity to be transported in time, to go back down memory lane and remember my philosophical conversations with Joseph when over time I was grieving the death of my father, my mother, and my aunts.

Even though I cried buckets reading your two posts, it was therapeutic. It brought relief to be able to have a good cry.

Stay well, dear friend and come back again and share your thoughts with us again.

Hugs, Trina

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on September 24, 2020 at 4:32pm

Dear Trina,

We heal each other here, and in so doing find that we are healing ourselves. I have found this true since the first time I posted. I am glad my words are helping to bring you some comfort my dear friend - yours have done so for me more times than I can count.

Be well, and stay safe - this goes for all our family here!

Love, Chuck

Comment by Trina Mamoon on September 24, 2020 at 4:18pm

My dear Marsha, Steve, and Chuck,

I cannot thank you enough for your loving and compassionate responses to my message reaching out to you for help and sympathy. Your understanding, empathy, and kindness have helped me more than you can imagine. Your kindness told me that I am not alone in this, and nor am I crazy or self dramatizing my situation when millions of people all over the world are feeling the negative and tragic impacts of COVID. Thank you for reassuring me that it is okay to feel the anxiety and dread I have been feeling these past six months or so.

I could not speak of my current situation too openly even with my siblings for two reasons: first, I didn't want them to have to worry about me and secondly, I didn't want them to think that I am trying to get attention. So your words brought me the much needed comfort and reassurance.

I know that each of you are coping with your own set of anxiety, concerns, and worries and are doing your best to find ways and outlets to cope with the situation and bring some amount of normalcy to your life. I admire and respect your courage and resilience! It takes a great deal in this time of pandemic to stay positive and to keep your sanity intact. And yet, the three of you have reached out to me even when you have your own battles to fight in these unprecedented times. Stay well, my dear angels, and stay safe.

And to the rest of our Legacy family, I am sending positive and healing thoughts your way as well. Stay safe.

Hugs, Trina

Comment by deborah peck on September 23, 2020 at 8:01am

I love this Chuck, its so on point

Comment by Chicago Beard on September 22, 2020 at 12:35pm

Well said Chuck!

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