Bereaved Spouses

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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.


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Comment by Charles on December 14, 2009 at 11:55am
Hi Sharon
Like you I feel out of control.I do ok for a few hours then it hits me with full force that she is not here and will not be here.My kness go weak, I cry and that sick feeling hits me.Most of us here are new to this.I know people say it gets better with time but I am not so sure.I kiss her pictures, I go outside and touch her flowers, anything I can think of to make contact with her.I love that lady with every fiber of my being.Do you just get a balloon and blow it up and let it go?I need to do something
Comment by Sharon Stricklen on December 14, 2009 at 7:34am
Hello all, the seasons are here and it is really gonna be rough this year without my husband here, but I will try to be strong.I have been doing rather well but this last week it has hit me again, almost 9 months and it all came rushing back to me like it was yesterday. I suppose that these are normal feelings but sometimes I feel so not in control of them so I usually find something to do to keep my mind going in another direction. I will however send up another balloon to him for Christmas and that makes me feel a lot better. Maybe you all could try to do that
Comment by Donita Jo Scott on December 12, 2009 at 3:59pm
I can't believe I just lost my best friend and love of my life....My husband just passed away December 2. It was so sudden, I don't know if it has sunk in yet. He went into the hospital 2 months ago, and we learned a week later that he was dying from complications from Crohn's. Both his liver and kidneys were shutting down...He came home, and after only 9 days he passed away. I just found this it's my first post. I really need to share and be with others who know what I'm going through. It's so hard...he was so young, just 45. We never had children and sll of our family lives out of here I am-all alone to go on.....
Comment by heartbrokenintexas on December 12, 2009 at 1:54am
I just found this site. My husband died suddenly & unexpectantly on 9/10/06. (he was 54). We were married 24 yrs. He was my best friend, soul mate & love of my life.
You have to take it step by step, one minute at a time. The grief changes , but it's till there. My son just died(11/8/09, he was 23) also suddenly & unexpectantly. As of today , from causes unknown. My son's death brings back all the pain & grief.
I dislike the Thanksgiving & Christmas holiday. ( my dad died on Christmas eve & my mom & I spent Christmas @ the funeral home).
Things remind me of the ones who have gone. Crying comes when you least expect it.
Comment by Brigitte on December 11, 2009 at 2:59pm
I am finding this Christmas to be very difficult. How does one get past the decorations, the music, the smells of Christmas without thinking of our loved one? Douglas died in July 2009 and I thought I was out of tears -- guess not! I wish all of you a blessed season. We need to take care of ourselves and hold on to the wonderful memories we have of our loved one. They are watching us -- and loving us from afar!
Comment by Jan on December 10, 2009 at 11:25pm
Just found this site accidentally and its my 1st time here. My husband passed away in May. I thought I was doing ok, until the holidays closed in. Now it just seems as though I am screaming inside each day with pain. How is everyone else handling the holidays?
Comment by Cindi on December 8, 2009 at 9:21pm
I lost my husband on 11/16. It is a very difficult time for me. Words cannot describe my feelings. It was a sudden loss, one that I was not prepared for. My husband was my world.
Comment by sheryll on December 7, 2009 at 1:55pm
Charles I knw how you feel. I too was married for almost 23 years ,my wonderful husand died in June of this year,he traveled alot in his work and I kept thinking he would be home soon.I would have such a feeling of depair and panic when I would realise he would never be coming back again,and I would never hear his voice when the phone would ring. Six months is almost here and some days are a little easier, but the pain is still there and I just want the Holidays to get over with,I know that I will never stop missing Dan , but I have had days where I do laugh because of friends and family. This site has given me great comfort.Hang in there It may not seem like it but things do get a little easier as time goes by.I alwasy feel like Dan is with me always in my heart, and I talk to him every day as strange as sounds , but it helps me get through the day .
Comment by Charles on December 7, 2009 at 11:55am
I see so many of us so broken hearted here.Its been nine weeks now since I lost my beloved and I think its getting harder each day for me.There is so much I want to ask her, so much I want to say to her.When I realize I will never see her in this life again I just lose all control.My knees go weak, I get that sick feeling.I do get some comfort reading how other people cope with their loss.I would never have believed you could miss and hurt for someone this much.We had a great life, great marriage and I miss that so much.Its just so hard to believe that she is gone, she is not coming back and I have to go on in this life without her.I try to be thankful that we did have 23 wonderful years but Im so selfish.I want 23 more years with her.I miss her so much.
Comment by judy on December 7, 2009 at 8:54am
when my husband,rich passed away on 2-10-09 that was the beginning of the end for me.he had 4 married brothers and 1 sister. i have not seen, spoken to or got a call from any of them since the funeral on 2-13-09. we wre married for 37 yrs. and i thought every thing was fine between all of us. we had many visits from them and they all came to visit when rich went into hospice. i have no other family, they kept saying we are here for you we are family,what went wrong? i honestly dont know.what would cause them to shun me?if i didnt have my son, i dont know what i would was stage 4 when we found out it was cancer, i loved him with all my heart and soul, and i was devestated. he survived 14 mos. ,his family was there all the way,little did i know they would desert me!the aloneness is almost unbearable. i dont know what to do.

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