Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by julie thomas on October 29, 2009 at 10:19pm
i understand exactly how you feel. i lost my husband of 32 years almost 2 years ago. i went through what your feeling now, i used to not care if i died or not, i look back at that sometimes and i dont feel that way now, i do care, i have grandbabies and my daughter whom i love and cannot leave them, but for a long time, at least a year, i didnt care. it does get better eventually, but it is a long road. i am sorry for your loss, it is probably the most painful thing that will happen in your life, i know it is with mine. it is very hard, you feel you've been cut in half and there is a very big part of you missing. you have to only take one moment at a time. you are here for a reason, as i am. i'm not really sure what that is, but i know it to be true. please, allow yourself time, dont worry about anyone else, only you can take care of you. hang in there, i will be here if you need me
Comment by ted hausermann on October 27, 2009 at 11:05pm
i understand how you all feel i lost my wife of 12 years together 18 about 2 weeks ago everyone tells to hang in there things get better but they have someone to come home to i dont so how are things going to be better it really sucks to wake up in the morning you realize no one is there so how does it get better you really miss someone when they are gone and it does hurt i dont care what anyone says because it does i thought about ending my own life that will make it all right
Comment by Tresa Sampson on October 25, 2009 at 12:40am
I lost the love of my life on August 13, I really don't know how to go on. He was my everything, We had been together 12 yrs married for 8 of those. We were never blessed with a child, but, my two beautiful daughter's he helped me raise will always remember everything he ever taught them. He was a Sgt. in the MARINE corp, he served from 1978-1984, he was so proud of that.
Comment by stu on October 24, 2009 at 11:32pm
I just lost my beautiful wife of 26 1/2 years to metastatic inflammatory breast cancer on Oct. 17th. It only took this insane form of cancer 6 weeks to rob her of life. She had thousands of friends,and was the sweetest most loving person ever. I am crushed. I cant go into our bedroom anymore. I miss my best friend terribly. I cant figure out how to go on without her. I am sick with sadness. I hate how quiet the home we built (and she filled with love) has become.
She blessed us with two great sons. They seem to have found thier own peace with this tragedy. To any woman reading this please get a mammogram,if you have not done so already.
Comment by BoLynn on October 24, 2009 at 9:32pm
Just a thought.....If a person can die of a broken heart, why am I still alive?
Comment by Deean on October 24, 2009 at 12:22pm
I too have lost the love of my life after 8 short years of the greatest time of my life. He and I fit together like the many puzzels we worked together. We had been in bad marriages and some how we found each to begin the best years of our lives. It was a sudden death and I am having a really hard time of it. He was all I prayed for. I prayed to have one great relationship before I died and my prayer was answered. Being human it just wasn't long enough. We had such great plans for the future. All gone now. I do miss him so................ I have the urge to tell every couple I see to enjoy every minute because you never know when it will be taken away. So many people waste so much time not being happy with their spouse. If I could only make them understand.
Comment by Margaret Clare Sanders on October 20, 2009 at 12:12pm
Hi Lorrie
Please accept my condolences on the suddden and unexpected tragic loss of your husband.
The jealousy thing is very real for me. I see couples who are really getting up in years and they look so happy and contented and I feel it is unfair that my darling died before he retired and we could not spend our later years together.
Sometimes I see couples that clearly are not in good health and I find myself criticising them unfairly.
The truth of the matter is that none of us know the why of any of it. We just have to accept it as a fact.
It is only natural to feel envious. The world is very much like Noah's Ark and it is hard to be alone. Be kind to yourself. Stay strong. He would want that for you.
Comment by LORI E RIGGIO on October 18, 2009 at 11:25pm
It was a year ago, yesterday, 10/17/09, that my husband while working fell over 40ft. to his death. I still can not believe it happened. I know that I have to try to make some sense of it, but I can not. I do not think that I have grieved enough for this man, the love of my life, my first boyfriend, my best friend who I have known for more than half of my life. I do know that I am feeling resentment for people who still have their spouse. I know that I should not be jealous, but I am. Can you let me know if anyone has experience this jealousy, and if they have does it ever go away. Thanks for listening. Lori Riggo
Comment by Margaret Clare Sanders on October 16, 2009 at 12:12pm
Hello Geoff.
Please accept my deepest sympathy on the sudden and unexpected loss of your beloved Tara. Both of you so young and in your prime.
I think that it is a good thing to cry even though it is harder for most men to do.
It looks like you really believe in God and that should help you on your journey forward.
The mystery of life is that we do not know why some leave the world early and others live very long lives. We cannot predict anything. All we can do is be good to one another each and every day so that when the final moment comes our memories of happy times will help us through.
I also believe that your beloved Tara was the kind of person that would want you to be happy. There is no statute of limitations on grief. Take your time. Talk to Tara everyday. Ask her advice when things get tough. She will always walk beside you.
Be at peace
Comment by Geoff Vines on October 16, 2009 at 5:19am
My 41st birthday was May 18. The 17th I took my wife to the hospital as she complained her shoulder hurt from moving furniture to our new homespread our nuevo vast expanse. Tara my everthing died Wed May 20 at 1:14pm. I miss her so bad that the flood of tears pouring from my eyes is the only sanity of expression I can affect. 08/21/09 She was so much more than just a girl. She left me with so many lessons and taught me so much about life and how we should treat each other as human beings. She was so special that God needed her up in Heaven faster than he needs most of us so he took her home early. In those times when I am amidst the toughest pain resulting from her loss I wonder what it was about her, which of her many assets that God needed so badly that he had to take her?

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