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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
Latest Conversations: Feb 15
This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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DJ ... What a great memory you have and thanks from the bottom of my heart. It's been 8 years now since Ernie passed and slightly easier, but do miss cooking his special meal and b/d cake. Seems for all of us all the old traditions leave a big hole in our lives.
I hope you are doing well my friend.
Diane C ... How wonderful to see you post and always when I do post you are right there my friend. Thank you! I imagine many people are having issues and I'll live. I hope things are going well for you?
Miss you too!
Marsha, happy birthday to Ernie.
Good to hear from you! Based on your post you have had one heck of a month.
Happy to hear you have a new pet, hope you post a picture when you get a chance.
Not much news to report from me, still taking my shots every 3 months, side effects are minimal and my arthritis in my right hand is improving.
Sending hugs and lots of love your way.
Hey Marsha, long time no see; welcome back!
Many parts of the U.S. for decades relied on guns. Try taking a gun from a Texan! It is part of history. That's the start of it. When a person can go into Walmart and buy a semi automatic weapon there is certainly something very wrong with that. Also fake ID's and under the counter money crossing palms to get whatever guns a certain person wants is rampid. Also it's to do with the Mexican Border and Drug Cartels and here is a link one should read: https://themazatlanpost.com/2019/02/21/u-s-government-and-top-mexic...
Canada has strict gun laws, but not saying that during the night they can't get their hands on semi automatics bought from a seller on any dark street or in an alley. Our gun laws are very strict and anyone who sells guns and is taking money under the table without proper waiting time has a hefty fine, can lose their business license and do prison time. Still the crime is beginning to getting worse here as well. Not as bad as the U.S., but it's getting there.
Most Canadian families do not have guns in their homes and those that do are rifles for hunting and locked away. Still, we've have had some drive-by shooting in Vancouver and Surrey to name a few places and getting worse. There has to be an answer somewhere to stop this, but unfortunately the powerful get the say in this matter. If one goes back in history the crime rate involving mass shootings started shortly after the Vietnam ware was over. Even before the Government ordered that security open fire on Burkly Students. I feel crime is here to stay unfortunately.
Dear Jan ... My condolences on the loss of your husband Ron. It's such a deep loss, but Legacy is a wonderful place to come and the people on here know exactly what each other feels. You speak candidly about what you are feeling and many of us have heard it all. No judgments are made. We are all very supportive of each other.
My husband Ernie passed April 27, 2011 of pancreatic cancer and he truly was my soul mate. We knew each other 45 years and we just missed our 40th Wedding Anniversary. The day he passed in Hospice I came home my girlfriend wanted to stay, but I told her to go home. I found myelf in a state of shock and wandering aimlessly through the gardens and all of a sudden a Blue Jay (I live in British Columbia, Canada just outside of Vancouver and we don't get a lot of Blue Jays) came swooping down and dropped a beautiful blue feather. I have had many signs since then. I honestly believe our loved one comes to check on us every so often.
This site and the people in it saved my life literally. I am always so grateful to all of them and some have moved on while some have stayed. I feel I owe something to help others so every so often I come and post. I miss everyone here and yes, we are family and now you are part of our family.
Be kind to yourself and grief when you feel like it and cry when you want to. Eventually your deep grief will ease where you can reinvent who you are and find some peace in life. We are all here for you.
Hugs (because you need it)
My dear family I apologize to all of you and I have not forgotten you. Please forgive me. It has been a difficult summer and more unhappy things happening than good days. My girlfriend of over 40 years lost her husband in April and the odd thing of it all was her husband passed on the same date Ernie did, April 27th. Her daughter is also fighting cancer as well so she's had a double whammy and I've been out often to visit her so she can gauge and ask questions about grieving, but we always manage a laugh or two. I think it helps when both friends are widows. My other friend is still fighting cancer and it's not looking good. I am trying my best to be there for her as well. It means a lot to me to see them as much as possible because one never knows. Always hugs, sometimes tears and sometimes laughter. Suddenly last week my younger brother (my only sibling) was rushed to hospital with a very leaky appendix and it was touch and go. He is a high risk diabetic, on Warfarin and has high blood pressure and Sleep Apnea. It was high risk surgery and thank God he made it, but very sore. Then my next door neighbor who has been an angel helping me fix things around the house has suddenly become ill. I am helping his girlfriend and she is helping me do some yard work. I never knew how difficult it was to replace a burned out light bulb high up in the ceiling and I'm going to have to wait until this young man who helps me out comes on Wednesday to replace that. Getting old sucks! LOL Of course you know I had to put my little 16 year old Tootsie to sleep and I was devastated as most dog owners are. In six weeks the lady who owns the shelter where I help adopt dogs out every Sunday and instead of charging like she does others she gave me an 8 year old Bichon named 'Lulu.' Lulu acts like she's 4 years old and smart as a whip; loves to play and honestly smiles a lot. She is gentle, loves kids, people and so comical. At first my 13 year old male Cockapoo Booker T was jealous, but now they are fast friends. Thank heavens for the comfort of pets! We walk every single day and it's peaceful and fun and sometimes you meet some nice people along the way.
I am just very soul weary these days, but feisty and keep moving ahead. Bring it on world!
Love you all
Unfortunately, the countries that do not have the gun violence that we do; have stronger laws in place.
These same countries do have crime, racial injustice, grief and all of the social problems as any other Free society.
Those countries that are governed by dictators, in most cases do not have freedom of choice.
Love can conquer a lot, however, without laws to protect the populace then we are no safer than a small town with no sheriff.
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