Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.

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Comment by Judy on August 5, 2009 at 11:54pm
Hi everyone, my husband died suddenly 8 months ago. It was just before our 40th anniversary. We married very young and did everything together. I read the books and know the terrible pain and emptiness I'm having is normal. That doesn't seem to help much even though I keep reading. My story is similar to many of yours. I feel lost also. I'm told I should be grateful for the 40 years we had. I am. But we were planning retirement and making plans and now I've lost him. Still too soon for me. I've never lived alone and I don't know how to do it. I have family with me now for awhile but I'm in constant fear of being left alone. My heart aches constantly yet people tell me how great I'm doing. What? That's ludicrous. I either think I'm dying or I'm thinking I want to die. Yes, I have the structure of a job, long time friends, and grown children but I still feel so alone. I know I have to choose to either be paralyzed by my grief or find a way to go on. Alot of the time I don't want to go on. I want my husband and our life back. How do you get used to coming home to an empty house? The pain seems to have gotten worse. People keep telling me it will get better with time. Maybe. It doesn't help me in this moment. He was my best friend and soul mate.
Comment by Deidre Couch on August 5, 2009 at 10:58am
Hello my name is Deidre and I am 22 years old. In the last 2 and a half monthes my whole world has been turned upside down. On June 10th 2009 me and my husband lost our baby girl the day we delivered. I was 7 monthes pregnant and had an ultrasound and there was no heatbeat, i delivered her naturally and she was so beautiful!! she looked just like her daddy!! Laying her to rest was the hardest part. My husband was my rock after that. No matter what he would always be there for me and he was so strong. Exactly one month later July 12th 2009 my husband was fatally injured in a motorcycle accident. My family is gone. We were so happy, I found my soulmate.I actually got to feel love and now i just feel completely lost.
Comment by Judy Smiley on July 31, 2009 at 7:11pm
My though is that working through loss is easier for women. After retirement age there are so many single women, that join together to go to events, travel etc. Males are not apt to be such a group joiner. Loss is dreadful for either gender.

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