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Crisis of Belief

Started by Theresa Sweaney. Last reply by Anna May Sep 28, 2013. 4 Replies

The loss of my 26 y/o son last year to suicide has affected my faith and beliefs in profound ways.  I had certain beliefs about God, and expectations of what his promises and "responsibilities"…Continue

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Comment by dream moon on April 11, 2015 at 3:17pm

i feal lk i cud hit god coz of loss multu loss non stop

sorrry if im ofendn any 1 so sorry

Comment by Anna May on November 28, 2013 at 6:17pm
“A parent may try to soften her language when explaining death to her child,” say authors Mary Ann Emswiler and James P. Emswiler, “but by doing so, she may plant ideas in his head that weren’t there before and that may be frightening or harmful.” For instance, simply telling a young child that a deceased loved one is only sleeping may cause the child to fear that if he goes to sleep at night, he may not wake up again. If told only that a deceased loved one has “gone away,” a young child may feel rejected or abandoned.

When trying to explain death to a child, many parents have found that children understand simple, direct words more readily than they do abstract concepts or euphemisms. (1 Corinthians 14:9)

Researchers recommend that you encourage your child to ask questions and talk about his concerns. Frequent conversations may help you to clear up misunderstandings and could reveal other ways to assist your child.
Comment by Anna May on November 27, 2013 at 10:45am
Help for Children Who Grieve

It is certainly not easy to break the news to an adult about the death of a loved one. But imagine having to tell a child.

FOR many children the experience of losing a family member or friend can be confusing—even frightening. Helping a child through this period presents a challenge, especially for grief-stricken parents. After all, they too need emotional support.

● Encourage questions. Create an atmosphere that will allow your child to talk about death and its meaning.
● Avoid using vague, abstract phrases—for instance, saying that the deceased “left us” or “went away.”
● Explain death in simple, literal terms. Some simply say that the loved one’s body “stopped working” and “could not be fixed.”
● Tell the child what to expect at the funeral; explain that the deceased will not be able to see or hear what is happening.
● Do not hide your emotions. In this way your child will see that it is natural to grieve.
● Remember, there is no “correct” way to grieve. Each child—and each circumstance—is different.
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Comment by Anna May on September 28, 2013 at 9:37am

Sometimes I honestly believe that people have no clue what grief is - it is a journey and not something we can wash off our hearts with soap and water. Maybe, some have never experienced the death of a person close to them. When it happens in their life stark reality will hit.

However, you would think, that those claiming to represent God, would be like the tender, compassionate shepherd that the Bible says religious leaders should be like.

(Acts 20:28-30) "Pay attention to yourselves and to all the flock, among which the holy spirit has appointed YOU overseers, to shepherd the congregation of God, which he purchased with the blood of his own [Son].  I know that after my going away oppressive wolves will enter in among YOU and will not treat the flock with tenderness, and from among YOU yourselves men will rise and speak twisted things to draw away the disciples after themselves."

They should be “gentle” and treat the flock with tenderness, as 1 Thessalonians 2:7, 8 says, "To the contrary, we became gentle in the midst of YOU, as when a nursing mother cherishes her own children.  So, having a tender affection for YOU, we were well pleased to impart to YOU, not only the good news of God, but also our own souls, because YOU became beloved to us."

Your question is valid - WHY?

Comment by Baby-daughter on September 18, 2013 at 11:47pm
! Why do church members and even the Pastors not understand severe depression. Why do they criticize.

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