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Permalink Reply by Denise on May 18, 2010 at 1:08pm

Kara,
I am so sorry for your loss. My Dad died January 11, 2010. His heart got out of rhythm and they never were able to get him back. He died quickly and quietly. Dad was 71 years old. It is the hardest thing I have ever been through. I was shocked and remained that way throughout the week. We had a funeral for him 2 days after he died, then the next morning we took an 8 hour trip to where we were going to lay him to rest. 2 days after we got there, we placed him in his grave. I spent so much time looking at him in his casket. I wasn't ready to let him go. I am 51 years old. Dad had been in and out of the hospital over the last few years but he was not terminal. Each time he went into the hospital, I believed that he would come home. The last time, he never made it to the hospital alive. I thought that knowing he was older and had problems with his heart that I would expect it when it happened. Oh, was I ever wrong. You are so young to have to deal with the death of your father. I don't know who is telling you that you have to be strong for your mother, it is good advice, however, she probably has more strength than you know. Dad always told us to take care of our mother. That has weighed heavy on me since Dad died. Some days I am not up to that. When I finally let my mom see my grief and how it was affecting me, I realized that she could help me. What I mean is, let your Mom be strong for you some of the time. It will give her a new purpose in her new life.

Heaven is our reward, we go there to worship God once our life is complete. When someone leaves this world and has believed that Jesus Christ is the Savior, then he/she is immediately in God's presence. God does not call us home for Him but rather because we have fulfilled the tasks He had for us to do. Some people complete there tasks way too early. As much as you need your Dad here, God knows best. Even at 51, I was not ready to give up my dad. I still need him. I miss him so much yet I must accept that God has a plan for me. He does for you too. Turn to God now for those things that your dad fulfilled in you. He can and will meet those needs. It may be in the form of bringing other people into your life... Only God knows. Rest in His love for you.

Permalink Reply by kathy on May 26, 2010 at 6:40am

Kara, Sometimes it's hard to understand, why things happen as they do especially when your so young and lose a parent to death. I was 25 when my mother fell asleep in death and no words can express the hurt and anguish I felt however your tears are not unnoticed by the Creator of Life, I can't say I know how you feel because we all grieve differently working through grief takes patience, you may feel that you are on an emotional roller coaster, but however long your ride I pray you endure. You should feel angry when people say "God must have needed him in Heaven" I know I would be. I have never read in the bible that God needs us there in heaven. But I have read these encouraging words from the bible you see God promises a resurrection hope where your loved one will live forever on this earth and never have to worry about dying again. God says: "He will actually swallow up death forever, and... will certainly wipe the tears from all faces." (Isaiah 25:8) But he also promises a bringing back to life those who have died, a time when we can enjoy life together forever. The Bible makes the promise: “Your dead ones will live . . .. They will rise up.” And the Bible also says: “The righteous themselves will possess the earth, and they will reside forever upon it.”—Isaiah 26:19; Psalm 37:29. Just imagine, in the Paradise earth, all sicknesses and physical infirmities will also be healed! God’s Word assures us: “No resident will say: ‘I am sick.’” (Isaiah 33:24) God’s Word also promises: “He [God] will actually swallow up death forever.”—Isaiah 25:8. Because I have confidence in the resurrection, my sorrow will not be unrelenting. As the Bible says, you will “not sorrow just as the rest also do who have no hope.” (1 Thessalonians 4:13) Kara draw close to God in prayer, and the Bible promises that “he himself will sustain you.”—Psalm 55:22 I hope it brings you comfort as it has for me.

Permalink Reply by *DaDdYs LiL gIrL* on May 26, 2010 at 8:24pm

kara,

I'm am so sorry to hear what has happened but i just recently lost my dad on the 11 of may 2010. i feel the exact same way i mean i feel like my world and life fell apart i was always with him.. and i as well feel angry with him that he left me at a early age but i have no regrets...we did an oil change together about a week before he passed away and i completely lost it when i received the phone call about my dad.. my dad drank a lot for my years but we never saw it coming this soon.. and that morning i was asleep at 9:12am and my grandmother called me saying they had found my daddy at his residence.. i started screaming and crying and i basically had no clue what to do when i got there i couldn't see him or anything and i had just spoke to him the night before he was going to meet with me at my grandparents house to give me my mothers day gift the next day and well the only call i got was saying he was gone...i am going to graduate from college on June the 4th and well I'm going for him because the only reason i finished school was for him..i literally feel like I'm dying inside without him.. i have a husband and daughter but i just cant seem to get it through my head that i lost my daddy my one and only daddy.. and about this " People say, "well God must have needed him in Heaven." Well I need here... people tell me that is the way things had to happen i think the same way you do.. i do need him.. i have a 18 yr sister and 13 yr old brother but i was the daddy's girl...I'm only 21 and he was 44.. e-mail me if you'd like and please do stay strong that's what he would want "missing my daddy dearly"..