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Permalink Reply by MissingMyMom on July 28, 2010 at 9:38pm

Hey Brandy I don't really have any words of wisdom but I do know what you are going thru. Although we knew my mom would die she was only 59 and I still can't get over it. Mothers are our rocks and if ur mother was as great as mine than I can truly understand how hurt u r. My mother was my best friend and I can't even describe how it feels to have her gone. I personally just look for little signs to know she's around. Everyone always just tells me to think my mom would want me happy so what's what I try to do. If u ever want to vent pls let me know :)

Permalink Reply by Brandy M Creech Mullis on July 29, 2010 at 1:47pm

I am always looking for something everyday to make it better and make me stronger to be able to deal with my grief. I am the only girl out of 7 children and the youngest. I feel so much pressure to keep them family together. I ask my mom for the strength to do it every day but it feels very over whelming at times. My mom always knew what to do and would tell me nothing is imposable and I am trying to keep that attitude but it’s so hard to pull that type of strength sometimes. Thank you it is so much better to be able to talk to someone that understands my grief. Brandy

MissingMyMom said:

Hey Brandy I don't really have any words of wisdom but I do know what you are going thru. Although we knew my mom would die she was only 59 and I still can't get over it. Mothers are our rocks and if ur mother was as great as mine than I can truly understand how hurt u r. My mother was my best friend and I can't even describe how it feels to have her gone. I personally just look for little signs to know she's around. Everyone always just tells me to think my mom would want me happy so what's what I try to do. If u ever want to vent pls let me know :)

Permalink Reply by MissingMyMom on July 29, 2010 at 9:19pm

Yea I hear ya I def have some hard days as well-theres def no fun in any of this. Sometimes I just find myself wondering what is the point of life-we are given these amazing mothers to get attached to then one day they die-it honestly makes no sense to me sometimes. I just keep hoping that I am as good a mother to my son as my mom was to me. She taught me so much that I have passed onto my 4yr old but I knows there's so much more I needed to learn from her. Sorry just in a bad mood about losing her tonite

Permalink Reply by Barbara H on July 30, 2010 at 3:43pm

I feel your pain. I too lost my mom but on July 2. She was 69 and I feel too young yet...She had been battling lung cancer for the past year....Life will never be the same....The best you can do is cry when you want to and remember the good times and laugh at those too...Perhaps in time it will get easier....She will always be in your heart....

Permalink Reply by Ann on July 30, 2010 at 3:54pm

Brandy, I'm very sorry for your loss. No words can take away what you're feeling. For me, its not better after 7 months, its different. There are some days when I can't even beleave its really happened, every movement seem futile and meaningless. Then there are days when I try to do as much as I can- to be a better person, to do something helpful and worthwhile, to help someone else, to be nicer and turn the other cheek..... so her love will continue through me. Life is much harder, but its all that's left, trying to live a life worthy of having had such a loving, kind, gentle and giving person as my mom. I'd wadger you miss her so much because your love for her is infinite. A love so full and grand has too stand for something wonderful and lasting, right? So, I've tried to figure out how to go on, to build, to move forward and get unstuck-inspite of how hard it is- because she means so much to me. I feel lucky to have had such a loving mom, nothing can will ever change that. Hang in there. I hope this helps

Permalink Reply by Chasity Huston on August 9, 2010 at 10:09am

Brandy I lost my mom suddenly on July 14th, she was only 48. We still don't know what caused it, but we do know she was taking some medications given to her that we found after the fact, that if mixed could be fatal. This was unexpected and I have still not come to terms that my mom is gone. I feel like and orphan and that no one understands that I am feeling right now. I was unfortunately an only child and feels like to me I am going through this alone. If you ever need someone to talk to, I am here for you cause I know I could definitely use a friend that knows how I feel right now.

Permalink Reply by Bobbie Rasmussen on August 9, 2010 at 6:19pm

I just lost my mom 19 days ago i thought i could deal with it since i am 45 yrs old and all i can say is it is the hardest thing to just wake up these days , i cry all the time, everything reminds me of her, and i want just a little of the pain to go away, it literaly at times hurts to breath. With that said i felt the same way when i lost my dad 11 yrs ago and the only thing that helps is time and lots of it, eventually the pain subsides and life goes on. But the place we are in now, even though i have been here before with my dad feels like your never going to see a light at the end of a very dark tunnel and i am struggling to remind myself it gets easier. I am sorry for your loss.

Permalink Reply by Claire on August 14, 2010 at 7:03am

Dear Brandy,

I am very sorry about the loss of your mother. Mothers are one of a kind and can never be replaced. Grief is something unavoidable and difficult.

Our loving God offers to help us in our grieving process. Psalms 34:18 says; "Jehovah is near to those that are broken at heart". And 2 Corinthians 1:3,4 says; "The father of tender mercies and the God of all comfort who comforts us in all our tribulation". Always know you can count on him and tell him all of your feelings just like you would a best friend.

I would like to share another comforting scripture that has given me hope. It is found in John 5:28 &29. "Do not marvel at this because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out". Not only does God help us cope but he offers us a wonderful promise for the future where he will bring back to life those we have lost in death. You will have the opportunity to be reunited with your mother again.

I hope these scriptures give you some comfort and hope. My deepest sympathy.

Claire

Permalink Reply by Tryingmybest on August 18, 2010 at 4:20am

Hello Brandy,
I am sorry for your loss. I can understand how you feel because i lost my dad to cancer on feb 27 2010. I am 23-years-old and often feel very lost without him because he was my rock. There are days when i am totally fine and then others when i feel totally sad and alone. His birthday is on 21st august and these days I find myself crying and kneeling on the floor praying to my dad to give me strength to keep living my life well. It is just too overwhelming at times but I have decided to take it one day at a time and hope for the best. I am sure it will never always feel like this because your mom and my dad would want us to live happy full lives.
I really don't know what to say or if my words are of any comfort. All i can say is i feel your pain and i pray it gets better for you.
Hugs

Permalink Reply by Tonya on September 5, 2010 at 9:04pm

Im sorry for your loss and please know your not alone cause you have all of us we'll make it somehow i just believe that May god bless you and ease our pain.