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Permalink Reply by Francis Valente III on May 14, 2011 at 3:05pm

Hi again Mellissa! I lost my Mom last September as I said! I am 49 but I feel like a little boy again with this life-altering event. I had grandparents but they are gone. I have no children so this is a tough time as you know!

All I can say  is that the mourning process(for me at least) changes every day. Sometimes I am okay (if that is the right word?) with my Moms passing-- some days it is unbearable! We all seem to deal with the mourning in our own special way! The feelings we have with mourning a lost loved one are most private and personal fellings I think we can ever have. So we do the best we can do!

BTW- Mellissa-I have a lovely photo of Mom (she had a great smile!) on my dresser and I look at it every day and still feel her spirit with me! It does help alot! And I think of happy thoughts of her then.

 

Take care!--Frank.

Permalink Reply by mellissa odell on June 8, 2011 at 8:50pm

Hi Frank,

Good to hear from you again : ) sorry havent been keeping up with this site lately working too much, but i love the advice you give me and i can offer some of my own for you, God first of coarse, but healing process does change in time better?? i dont know maybe a little more comfortable or maybe just a little less uncomfortable, but do know that your mom is with you always and i like to think like with my dad when i get sad or suddenly think of him thats when i know hes there with me at that moment : ) It still hurts to look at oictures of my dad but i love the memories i have and i try to hold on to them as tightly as possible. I remember when i was younger im no too sure where i heard it but i heard someone say i just wanna be able to remember their laugh and it never meant anything to me until my dad passed and what i would give for that laugh one more time : ( but what we are left with are memories and i try to keep them alive sharing them with my children and family members : )This site is a great outlet to discuss feelings with others who have similair stories and im glad that we have connected and hope to continue to support eachother!!!

      Take care, Mellissa : )

Francis Valente III said:

Hi again Mellissa! I lost my Mom last September as I said! I am 49 but I feel like a little boy again with this life-altering event. I had grandparents but they are gone. I have no children so this is a tough time as you know!

All I can say  is that the mourning process(for me at least) changes every day. Sometimes I am okay (if that is the right word?) with my Moms passing-- some days it is unbearable! We all seem to deal with the mourning in our own special way! The feelings we have with mourning a lost loved one are most private and personal fellings I think we can ever have. So we do the best we can do!

BTW- Mellissa-I have a lovely photo of Mom (she had a great smile!) on my dresser and I look at it every day and still feel her spirit with me! It does help alot! And I think of happy thoughts of her then.

 

Take care!--Frank.