I lost my younger brother 4 weeks ago

Hello, I am new to this site. My name is Jamie. My younger brother, Chad, died 4 weeks ago, the day after his 34th birthday, due to a tragic accident. I don't want to go into details, as it is too hard for me, but he took his own life. We are only a 1.5 years apart in age. He lived with me, and leaves behind 6 beautiful children under the ages of 11 years old :( My family and I are just devasted, never would we have thought we would be dealing with losing our Chad. I am so lost and lonely, it has been a nightmare.

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Permalink Reply by T.C. Goodwin on May 30, 2014 at 8:29pm

Sorry for your loss. You will find this site both encouraging and strengthening. Depression is our worst enemy. I weep with you and your family ( Ecc3:4)

Permalink Reply by Karen Liller on May 31, 2014 at 7:35am

Hello Jamie-

I am so sorry for your loss. My sister Lisa went to be with the Lord on November 7th, 2013 and I still feel as though the whole world has changed, strangely off course, and I have such an empty spot in my heart. This is a very difficult time for you but please know that you have friends on this site and we have experienced deep losses. My sister had cancer and she was 49 years old with two beautiful children. She was my best friend. I hang on to the fact through my faith I will be with her again someday. Please hang on and cherish your time with your brother's children. They are an extension of him. I have come to realize that in this life we may most likely will never know why things happen but can only do our best each day. I wish you peace in the upcoming months.

You and your family are in my prayers,

Karen

Permalink Reply by Kimberly on May 31, 2014 at 6:41pm

I'm so very sorry for you loss. Losing a sibling is at terrible thing to experience. I lot my oldest sister this past October. She left behind 3 children and a step-son. You and your family are in my thoughts during this very difficult time. hugs

Permalink Reply by Jamie Ann on May 31, 2014 at 10:40pm

Thank you everyone. It just happened 4 weeks ago, but it hits me really hard at any given time, more so when I am driving and listening to music. I just don't know how to live in this world not hearing from my brother :( He lived with me for the past 2 years nearly, he was trying to get back on his feet from a bad divorce with his ex wife, He was not able to see his kids and it really hurt him, more so then we ever imagined. He just turned 34 on May 1st and he died May 2nd. It is very unfair and I am just a mess :(

Permalink Reply by Phyllis on October 14, 2016 at 9:54pm

I'm very sorry for your loss. I hear ya. Just know we can help each other thru this!

Permalink Reply by Kimberly on May 31, 2014 at 11:13pm

Aw hun, that's terrible. Divorces are bad enough without them getting bad, and with kids involved. Was he your only sibling? Your grief is still so new. I lost my oldest sister in a different way...but I'll listen if you need to talk. Feel free to message me. No one really understands the loss of a sibling like someone else who's been through it. hugs hang in there.

Permalink Reply by Jamie Ann on July 22, 2014 at 7:10pm

It has been 3 months and the pain is just as raw if not worse then it was when I first lost my brother :(

Permalink Reply by Carrie Swearengin on September 3, 2014 at 3:41pm

Oh Jamie, my heart is sad for you. Devastation, pain, broken heart.....it is all unbearable at times. Telling yourself to breathe is a task in itself.

Keep talking about your sweet brother, Chad. Talk about him with your nieces and nephews. He is so much of your life and always will be. Sometimes the days and nights are excruciating long and painful. But you will find times when you laugh, giggle, swear he is there with you and times you will talk outloud to him. :-)

Someone asked me a couple of months ago about this board online and if it has helped me at all. My response is....Yes, it has helped me.

I read a posting on New Years Eve last year and it hit me like a ton of bricks. It doesn't matter if your brother has been gone 3 weeks, 3 months, 3 years or 30 years. We will always miss them. We will never forget them, but we will learn to live without them being physically here with us.

Take your time, Jamie. Hang in there and don't let anyone dictate your grief, sorrow, happiness or joy.

You will laugh again.

Carrie

Permalink Reply by Deb on November 7, 2014 at 8:39pm

I understsnd what your going through I just lost my sister 13 weeks ago the pain is unbearable

Permalink Reply by Lisa Akpinar on November 19, 2014 at 5:10pm

Jamie, I am so sorry for your loss. My younger sister passed away 2 years ago next month. The pain never really goes away, it just becomes part of your everyday life. I hope your heart can start to heal soon. My thoughts are with you at this diffult time of year. Sending hugs yours way.

Permalink Reply by Robbin R. McManus on November 24, 2014 at 11:23pm

Jamie, I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a sibling is so difficult, I know. I pray you can find a real life grief group to go to. I had to go to 3 before my loss eased some. Then when I lost my brother last May, it opened up issues about my dad and left me with unresolved issues about my brother and me. I could not find a support group about my brother.

Coming here is a good thing. I have found a lot of support here. I hope you do too. I hope you find the support and friends you need here. Again, I am so sorry for your loss. You are in the right place here.

God bless and I will hold you and your family in my prayers.

Permalink Reply by Margaret Lopez on November 28, 2014 at 5:59am

Hello Jamie,

I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.

I lost my oldest brother in Feb and its like yesterday. Only by drawing close to God and family am I able to cope. This support group is also a strengthening aid. knowing that you are not alone in your grief. May God strengthen and Bless you and your family during this difficult time. (Rev 21:4)