I'll just share that when my 35 y/o cousin died suddenly, he had a 3 y/o daughter, and the mother did not take her to the funeral home. She told the child afterwards, and that child had no closure. She was scarred and isolated herself for years, was very introverted and shy. She didn't have the visual experience to link to the loss, was told daddy wasn't coming home from the hospital. Do not let this little girl "4get on her own." Kids process death very differently than adults; they are very innocent, and very beautiful. Keep her reality-oriented, and talk to her on a level that she can understand. When my dad died, my niece explained to her 4 y/o little boy that grandpa's heart and brain went to be with Jesus in heaven, and his body was left behind. Since my great-nephew had a concept of heaven and God, he was able to gain closure to what had happened to grandpa. Don't just let her "4get."