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Permalink Reply by SUE on October 10, 2009 at 1:18am

Im so sorry, I cant even imagine the horror..I know that this may not sound like much right now, but it really is one day at a time. I sought the help of my doctor when I couldnt stop bawling my eyes out. I reached out to strangers on forums and surrounded myself with other survivors.I leaned heavily on my husband.There isnt any real answer except whatever works for you. You are in shock Im sure, and it takes time. Getting out of bed for me on some days was a Real accomplishment. I looked a the picture of your son which you posted. He was a very handsome man. I hope you have the support of your family and friends.
Im sorry for your loss,
Sincerely, Sue

Permalink Reply by shaun lakoh on October 10, 2009 at 9:06am

Thank you for your kind words. Not to sound funny but my son was the man of the house. I am a single mother and looked for him to be my protector. The helpful thing for me is i went back to work the following week. I am a nurse so being around my patients really helped.

Permalink Reply by TXMOM on October 10, 2009 at 2:05pm

Thank you for your words of comfort. I am trying to tell myself the same thing that GOD needed him back and I only had him on borrowed time and that he is in a better place. YET there are days that i cannot stop crying for everything in my home reminds me of something about my son. I am living from day to day and just praying that the pain eases as time goes by.

Permalink Reply by Becky on October 11, 2009 at 8:19pm

I am so sorry for your loss. I have viewed the picture you have enclosed. He is so handsome. I can still remember the pain and great loss I felt when my loved one died. He was my Dad and also my best friend. How long had he been home from Iraq? I have worked with several vets that have returned from Iraq. I don't think we have any idea of how much our soldiers give for us and our country. I have a great respect for all they do and continue to give. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and I am thinking of you at this time. Keep in touch.
Becky

Permalink Reply by Bunny on October 14, 2009 at 12:00pm

Shaun I lost my son in July, He too was a soldier who had served in Iraq. I know he was suffering from PTSD. It destroyed his marriage and she had left him so he was alone. I am so sorry you had to witness losing your son. I struggle with mine being so alone. As a soldier he made sacrifices that many will never understand until they have to experience them for themselves. The army is admitting that the number of cases with PTSD is growing. It comes as no surprise to me as depression all to often is treated mostly by medications. Medications all to often are merely a means to mask the situation. If noone gets to the cause the problem still exist. All to often people cannot afford the proper counseling and are never treated. The military treats their incidents within but I can see how that would fail. If I had to walk among my neighbors and co-workers with the label depressed I would have all the more reason to be depressed. I'm angry and wanting to blame I'm stuck on blame and can't get past it. I welcome replies