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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Hello everyone. Just dropped in to to let you know things are good with me. I am getting married next year this time. Of course that does not mean I miss my Rose any less.
Just wanted to wish everyone happy holidays and hoping that next year is a good year for everyone.
Yes, we do love looking at the lake and it's ever-changing looks throughout the day. I think Larry and Mark are always around making sure that we find the right people to help us and to make sure that we take care of each other.
I find myself looking at the lake often, using it as my anchor to stay focused on the important things while not forgetting how we got here.
Take care Sara,
your friend Steve
So glad to hear from you, my friend. Life in general can be demanding without our help at all. So sorry to hear about your neighbor passing and your friends' family passing. That would be too much for anyone to bear alone, good that they have you to help them thru this. I know from experience first hand, that you have a way of putting things into perspective and how to make someone feel comfortable, at ease and know that you are listening while comforting them. I shall always remember how you helped me through my grief as well as so many others on this site.
I love living in this small village by the lake and watching the sunrise, sunset and all the changes during the day that the lake makes. I am told that this winter the lake will be busier than the summer. Seems like there is a lot of ice fishing that will take place. Lake Oneida is a shallow lake but a very big one that freezes over for all kinds of activities.
Today, we have 17 new windows being installed. So far, I have wallpapered two rooms, remodeled part of the kitchen, repaired plumbing and built and installed a barn door. This winter we will finish painting the inside of the house and refinish the living room floor.
I think of you often, as well as so many others on this site, hoping that they are well and getting through each day as it comes.
Lots of emotions and memories packed and unpacked getting to this point of my life. Getting older and believing that it was all necessary so that I could become the person that I should have been. No regrets, just the wonderful memories of a life like no other. Each of our paths criscross so many other paths and we meet very special people such as yourself. You are a good friend, and I shall always love you as a sister. Take care, sending many hugs your way.
What a beautiful sunset for you and Chuck to look at. It is good to see both of you on the forum. I think of both of you often. I've been very lax for months due to some friends passing away. My dear neighbor Dan who was my go-to man who would fix things for me and his girlfriend too have always been so good to me and unfortunately, Dan became ill and passed in September. It was a shock for his girlfriend and also myself and I still miss him. His girlfriend and I still keep a close eye on each other and have been out for dinner once and planning to go out again soon.
My best girlfriend had her husband pass away 3 years ago; then her 46 year old daughter from cancer and 6 months after that her son who was 51 passed away from a brain bleed. We keep in touch every day and just talk and I get her laughing sometimes. I know how horrific it must be for her so I've visited her several times and once got her to a nice pub by the river during the summer and sat outside and ordered dinner and drinks. She seemed to enjoy it, but I still know that '2 masks' a happy face when out and sad when you get home. Grief just takes time.
Hope you and Chuck are having the time of your lives and as I said always think of you both even though I haven't posted.
Dear Sara ... It is so nice to see you post and to see others post.
I'm doing about the same thing you are. I have a landscaper who does work for commercial companies, but a Christian so he takes one day a week and does Senior landscaping and does mine for such a low cost. I have a huge garden rockery, bushes and I just can't do it anymore. I also have to get my eave troves done as we've had so much rain and they are over-flowing with leaves. Still, we had a very late Fall and now the storms are coming in. We've had a bad power outage here and across BC and of course Vancouver Islands. I felt like the Goodyear Tire kid with flashlight in hand grouping my way throughout the house alone with the exception of my dog Lulu. I do understand that you know Ken was sending people for you to make things easier because I feel Ernie is around doing the same thing. I can't believe it's going on almost 12 years since he's been gone, but every so often I do feel his presence.
October was a bad month for me and nothing seemed to go right. I had to put my 18 year old little Cockapoo Booker to sleep and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. He was my 'little man' taking over after Ernie passed away. He had a good life and I was witth him to the end. I still can cry off on. I miss him dearly. I try to think positively and that he is with Ernie and they're waiting for my time. Now I just have my dear 12 year old adopted shelter dog (adopted her at 10 years old) to keep me company, but wow! She sure doesn't act her age and she's so playful and frisky. Since Booker has been gone she is still looking for him so I'm keeping an eye out to adopt another smaller dog as a pal for her. Lulu is a Bichon Frise'.
My nephews have moved to Calgary and my one nephew who is married with 2 children I do miss them and Christmas just isn't going to be the same without them. My brother and his wife still live here and haven't moved to Calgary yet. If they do then I'll have no family left here even though my nephews really want me to move to Calgary, but at my age and little help it's just too much for me to move so I'm sticking to staying here where I do have some friends and things I'm use to.
As low as I can feel at times Christmas is always my favorite time of year. So here's a laugh for us all; I ordered 5' flocked artifical tree from a company and when I got the box it must have weighed in at over 70 lbs. I could hardly get it into the house and had to slide it into my kitchen and there it stays! I looked at the box and lo and behold it's a wooden, carved room divider with a carved Elephant in white/gold. What???? Not my tree and had to reorder, but they told me I would have to keep this huge box for 2 weeks until they are sure no one claims it and if not it's mine to do as I like with it. I'm not East Indian! LOL I don't know how to sell it on E-Bay so I may just give it to these nice East Indians who own our corner store. I just want it out of here!
Sorry this couldn't be a more cheerful post, but I just had to get it off my chest.
I hope all of us continue to keep posting. I think of all of you often.
Steve....that's a beautiful sunset. It's nice that you and Chuck can sit on the porch and watch it set every night with Mark and Larry standing right behind you
I also get a message that the site is not secure but it's been like that for years.
This was taken a couple of nights ago, from our front porch.
Good to hear from you and that you are still going strong. We all have had to go through this as if we had any choice in the matter, I can now add lol...
When Mark passed, I stopped listening to music, that was something we both enjoyed together, going to concerts, plays etc... That changed once I met Charles, he to enjoys music as much as me. We have been to a couple of plays and musical concerts. At first it did not seem the same, I felt a little guilty until halfway through it I felt comfortable, I actually felt that Mark and Larry were right there with us. k
Moving has been a journey just as any other episode in this life good and full of twists and turns.
I love it up here in NY, the weather is actually Autum, pleasant temps during the day and cooling off at night.
Our home has a beautiful view of Lake Onieda facing west, so we get spectacular sunsets.
I too am wondering about Marsha; this site is so quiet, and my McAfee account has labeled it not secure.
Glad you are doing well, take care my friend.
Hi Chuck, Good to hear from you. I think of everyone here often but it's been so quiet lately. I'm glad you and Steve are settling in . A New York winter is no joke but summers in Texas are not easy either.
I'm doing ok, just plodding along doing life the best I can. I've been getting some things done in the yard (and when I say I'm getting things done, I mean I'm paying other people to do them). Oddly enough I asked my landscaper if he could pull out some overgrown bushes around the deck and the friend of his that he brought to do this is the son of the woman who worked for Ken. I knew he would do a good job and I knew Ken was looking out by sending him my way. The people who haven't experienced this may not believe but our loved ones are always there, always looking out for us and send who/what we need when we need it. Ken did the same thing a few years ago when I needed to replace the roof. He let me know who he wanted me to use and they did a good job.
Today I'm doing something that I told myself I would never, ever do for the remainder of my life and that's make a banana bread. Crazy I know but Ken loved banana bread, I made it a certain for him and decided that if he could never eat it again, then I would never make it again. There's no real reason for me to make it today other than I want to get past that train of thought and I'm calling that more progress.
Ok, last thing.......has anyone heard from Marsha? I haven't seen her post in quite a while.
Take care my friends and remember, I'm always thinking of you.
Great to hear from you! Steve and I are doing well, preparing for winter in upstate NY which will be a big change from TX. We'll try to post photos here once we figure out how to get them from phone/camera to email access - gotta love technology.
I think of everybody here often especially as I'm always telling people we meet our story of how and where we met.
Mostly I just find myself pausing throughout the day and reflecting on what we've gone through to get here. The journey has been full of twists and turns, and these will continue I'm sure - but we're still here, still looking forward even as we describe Larry and Mark to folks, and being grateful for what has been given to us - a new life.
Sara, I deeply sincerely hope you are happy, and want you to always know that your love and support is one of the reasons I'm still around.
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