If this discussion is elsewhere I apologise for repeating it.  I am now at 14 months out from my husband's death. So far everyone has been correct, in that the first year is an awful, horrible fog of shock.   Now I am finding it very extremely hard (as the magical thinking is slowing down) to "think of" my husband's remains being in the ground.  I think to myself 'he is supposed to be here!', a…