Heather, My Dad passed in 1999 It took me 5yrs. to find Peace within...I would scream Daddy I want you back!!! I was a wreck!!!

I didn't want to hear how other people healed! Or how they passed or there age young or old.  I would not even do our favorite things that we enjoyed in life. Like swimming in the ocean, or boating, fishing, going out for icecream.  After a long time dreging, I finally swam in the ocean...and it occured to me that I was "His Heart is your Heart, His Soul of his Soul...He had never left me, he had been with me all the time.  Finally Peace came to me...I lost my Dear  Mother and Best friend May 2010...I'm more at peace knowing there together again!

I find peace in doing things they taught me, and each and every day I think of them both they are my drive and determination.  For everyday I live is one more day closer to seeing them again...

But untill you figure things out in "your" mind & heart & soul...it is there where you will find peace...you will connect with him!

Heather, My Dad passed in 1999 It took me 5yrs. to find Peace within...I would scream Daddy I want you back!!! I was a wreck!!!

I didn't want to hear how other people healed! Or how they passed or there age young or old.  I would not even do our favorite things that we enjoyed in life. Like swimming in the ocean, or boating, fishing, going out for icecream.  After a long time dreging, I finally swam in the ocean...and it occured to me that I was "His Heart is your Heart, His Soul of his Soul...He had never left me, he had been with me all the time.  Finally Peace came to me...I lost my Dear  Mother and Best friend May 2010...I'm more at peace knowing there together again!

I find peace in doing things they taught me, and each and every day I think of them both they are my drive and determination.  For everyday I live is one more day closer to seeing them again...

But untill you figure things out in "your" mind & heart & soul...it is there where you will find peace...you will connect with him!

Hi Heather,

I totally understand how you feel and I'm so sorry for your loss. It's a pain that no one can understand unless they've been through it too. Anyone that thinks you should have snapped out of it by now doesn't understand what you're going through. It seems like the sadness comes and goes in waves, and gets worse before it starts to lessen. I lost my father 6 months ago and am finding it to be unbearable. Sometimes the pain is paralyzing. I empathize with you and pray that as you struggle to deal with your grief you will find healing. May God bless you and comfort you.

A month for me too..on the 7th.  Such a short time, and yes, so many people wonder why you still feel like time has stopped.  Time stopped for me on the 7th.  I am going to Grief Support on Tuesday again, and hope it continues to help me.  It is Christian based, which doesn't really matter, as long as there is someone who "gets it."  So between that, Church and this Grief Support, hopefully I will feel somewhat better.  I lost my Dad also .. five years ago, and it was a horrible death.  It affected me in an awfully bad way.  He had a colonoscopy, and they cut his colon...so everything spilled into his stomach, causing peritonitis.  It was just awful..he was in ICU for two months..in a coma.  His stomach could not be closed because of the swelling.  He had a bag on his side for as long as he lived..which was three months.  I took care of him when he went home to die.  I mean cleaning him up and everything.  I wanted to help him.  Nobody pushed me into that.  I just wish he would have gotten better.  But Daddy knew he wasn't going to, and he just gave up.  He made me promise I would be with him in Heaven one day, and so I did.  I will see him, and Chad again.  Sooner than we all think, this life will end.  It is "But a vapor"..so the Bible says.  I find myself longing for that day.  Heaven is beautiful the way it is described in revelations.  I wait for the day of a reunion with them.  We can only imagine.  Right?

Hope to talk again soon Heather.  Hang in there.  "Try" to be strong, I know it is so very hard.

~PHYLLIS~ Chads' Mom