I am so sorry for the loss of your husband of 20 years. You must have a lot of wonderful memories together. But I can also see the pain in between the lines of your comment. I truly don't know exactly how you feel, but I can empathize in that I have lost a loved one too. But what helped me and my family through is the hope that God holds out through his Word, the Bible. We are assured that "the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his [Jesus'] voice and come out" (John 5:28, 29). Then they will have the opportunity to live forever on a paradise earth as Jehovah God had purposed it from the time He created mankind (Psalm 37:29). We can also be there to welcome back our loved ones when they are waken up from their sleep-like condition (Ecclesiastes 9:5). This hope is guaranteed by the fact that Jesus himself was resurrected back to life as well as many other account of the resurrection in the Bible. I hope you can find comfort in the scriptures.
Hi Barbara Jean
I just read your post I lost my husband Bob 2 years and 2 months ago. He was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer on Oct 25 2007 and lost his battle on Dec 21 2007. He was my true soul mate. We had been together for 30 years. It is still very hard to get through some days. You learn to live with the pain but the loneliness and sadness seems to always be there. Maybe we could help each other in some way even a small way just by emailing or posting.