dear brittany

after you lose a child no matter how old, your baby is beautiful.. the pain a forever torture and i havent had much relief at all. i have not had hardly any support from anyone,  they tend to shy away from you, not wanting to talk about your child  -  dusty was my only child he was 25 and my heart is shattered.   sometimes i get mad at dusty because we were close and discussed his drug abuse, i told him how it would utterly shatter my life, and then he passed from a overdose.. i am mad that he left me here on this crappy earth.   anyway enough of rambling on,  write to me whenever you need to.  hugs, valerie

dear brittany

i am so sorry for your loss of your beautiful baby.  grief of losing any child is like being given a long long death sentence that makes every day a nightmare. my son,  dusty ,was 25 and was my only child.  he passed of an overdose, its been 2 yrs and 1 1/2 months.  i have had no support.  my mom told me to "get over it"  my family has deserted me because i used cocaine for awhile-before my son passed away.;  i have no friends.  i feel so alone and sad.  i am here for you.  please write to me at anytime.  we all understand your pain.  sending hugs your way.   valerie

Brittany,

I am so sorry about the loss of your precious baby girl.  I lost my 21 year old daughter December 6, 2010. 

I totally agree with you, I found this list for the same reason you did.  No one that has never lost a child can say they know how you feel.  There is NOTHING comparable to losing a child.

It's been almost 11 months for me and I still can't listen to a lot of songs, watch certain movies or tv shows or go in the girls department at a store.  My daughter was just learning to cook and early on, I even would cry at the grocery store. 

It has gotten somewhat better, I have more good days than bad now, I'm just much better at pushing it to the very back of my mind.  I won't lie to you, there are days still where I do nothing but cry the entire day.  I think we need to do that in order to heal.  I don't think it would be normal to never cry.  We miss our kids.

Hang in there and come to the list as much as you want to vent, cry, ask for advice, whatever.  It has helped me so much. 

I'm sending hugs your way and hoping today is a better day for you.

Brittany,i am truly sorry that you lost that sweet,beautiful baby girl. I do indeed know everything that you are thinking and feeling. I wish you didnt have to go through this--I wish none of us did.

My own daughter died many years ago,she was 3 years old and she died in a house fire. It was like having to crawl my way out of HELL...hand over fist,with every demon in hell on my heels. I too had no one then that I could turn too or talk to. My family lived very far away,and none of my friends had ever lost a child. Even after all these years,I still love her and miss her.I have thought of her every single day for over 30 years.

 Fifteen years ago I list my first grandchild. He was the delight of my life! I never would have believed that I could possibly ,ove anyone as much as my own kids--intil one them had a child,and WOW!! I was there fir his birth,and my son and daughter-in-law lived with me so he was totally part of my life. When he died(SIDS) I was devastated. I grieved for my own loss,but I also hurt so bad watching my son suffer--he loved that baby so very much.People tell me that I didnt smile, or talk unless spoken to first for two years after he died. It was iver 2 years before I could force myself to go down the baby food aisle,or into the infant department if a store, When I would accidentally wander into one I would litterally stop breathing.

Last year I lost that babys dad too.my oldest son. He died just over a year ago . He was hit by a careless driver while on his motorcycle going down the street for a hot dog.

I know that when most people tell you.."I know how you feel"--or "I can imagine the pain you are in",that it makes you angry. You just want to punch them and scream and tell them that they have no idea what you feel,and they cant possibly imagine what its like. But when it is said to you here--it is the truth. Everyone here cares about you,and knows exactly what you are dealing with.