CHAYA SPECTOR
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  • Ithaca, NY
  • United States
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Charles E. Nelson left a comment for CHAYA SPECTOR
"Hi Chaya Thank you for the friend request. I am kind of old-school at age 67, and don't partake in any other social media platform such as Facebook, etc. I do find that communicating with my Legacy family is very comforting and I don't…"
Dec 4, 2020
Charles E. Nelson and CHAYA SPECTOR are now friends
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CHAYA SPECTOR commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Thank you Steve G.  in 15 days it will be a year since Bridgett died.  I feel her with me most of the time... standing next to me whispering...You can do it.. especially wound the many technology issues that have risen up this past…"
Nov 30, 2020
CHAYA SPECTOR commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Thank you Steve G. Yes... all losses pale compared to losing Bridgett. It took me until I was 45 to meet the woman of my dreams and 25 years  just wasn"t enough time... I didn't see myself alone and in grief  and turning…"
Nov 13, 2020
CHAYA SPECTOR commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"THANK YOU Deborah.. Yes, I am glad to have found this site... someplace I can come to when I need that extra sense of belonging and shared experience.  We are all different, have different faith beliefs, but i think that loss and grief …"
Nov 13, 2020
CHAYA SPECTOR commented on Denise Lefas's group lesbian partner loss
"Hi.. I lost my wife of 25 years  Dec 2020... Coming up to a year, and what a strange year of loss and grief on so many levels between losing Bridgett and  the Covid pandemic.  Someone here wrote something and it reminded me of a…"
Nov 10, 2020
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CHAYA SPECTOR commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Thanks for the acknowledgment Chicago..  Your statement reminds me of a song and you tube I have been using quite frequently..its Willie Nelson singing  "Its not something you get over, it's something you get…"
Nov 10, 2020
CHAYA SPECTOR commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Hi..I have been feeling the need to connect with others in this grieving process. I lost my wife in Dec  2019. For 25 years she was my soul mate, partner , lover , go grandparent and best friend. I miss her. In this time of covid i feel so…"
Nov 9, 2020
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CHAYA SPECTOR posted a status
"Close to year since my wife of 25 years died Grieving in this time of Covid hasbeen hard. Looking for connections to share feelings with."
Nov 9, 2020
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Oct 26, 2020

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At 8:24am on December 4, 2020, Charles E. Nelson said…

Hi Chaya

Thank you for the friend request. I am kind of old-school at age 67, and don't partake in any other social media platform such as Facebook, etc. I do find that communicating with my Legacy family is very comforting and I don't feel any "exposure" to negativity or attacks - in other words, it's safe here. I need that - I've had enough attacks in my life to last forever, as I am sure you understand.

I do know that as you approach this one year anniversary of Bridgett's passing your anxiety and grief will multiply, as it did for us all. I can only offer that I personally found the lead=up to the day I lost Larry was actually worst than the day itself, mostly because I was so emotionally exhausted that I felt almost nothing. Also, my friends here were a brick wall of support and I leaned on them heavily - I hope you will do the same, because talking to someone who gets it is probably the only thing that keeps us sane after our lives imploded.

Be gentle with yourself, and spare a thought for Steve G> and I today as he is having out-patient surgery today . The story of how we connected on this site would take volumes, but if you'd like to hear it I will gladly share our amazing experience with you. I know Steve won't mind, and all the "old-timers" here already know. There is the ability on this site to go back through past posts for a long time, but it's time consuming and I have saved most of the stories I wrote here during that time. Again, I'd be happy to share them, but don't want to be pushy.

Wishing you peace today, and sending a hug your way from Steve and I

Love, Chuck

 
 
 

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