Hello Daniel,

I just happened to be reading the posts for today and read yours about the "grand parents rights".  I am sure you have found out there are none. In my situation I lost my adult (39) son and he has 3 daughters that we had a huge part in their everyday life.  We lived within miles from each other and were a very close family.  He and his wife were going through a very bad divorce when he died in his sleep.  Within a couple of months his wife packed up and moved from CA to Idaho.  Not only did I lose my son, I lost half of my family and my grand kids.  The oldest one stayed in CA with my daughter (her aunt) she was 18 but her sisters were not of age to stay with us.  Talk about a broken heart, I don't know how I survived the first 2 years.  Quite a lot I think of my other grand daughters and how I missed out on the last 3 years of their lives.  The youngest one will turn 18 in June and after that time I will no longer have to have contact with their mother and ask and beg for them to come for a visit that I pay for.  She can now come on her own decision when we ask her.

I know exactly what you are going through, the only advice I can give you is try and keep the "friendly" channels open so you can keep in contact with your son's son.  Don't give up.  My heart goes out to you and your family, your son was so young and handsome to lose his life.

Hugs is all I can say.

Susan  Donny's Mom

'life will never be the same - how can it be?' 

Your words are so true. To trust in God's plan is what we do. 

I plant flowers, and write, in Bernie's name. The tears come and go.

Please look at my page , in case you find some words of comfort.

Thank you Daniel. Thank you for your reply. Sucks pretty much covers it, doesn't it. There really are no words to describe the experience.

I'm not sure how to navigate this site yet. Could I add you as a friend?

Perhaps you could tell me a little about your son, if you would care to. I would feel honored.

Hi Daniel, I am new to this site too.  I am sorry that you, and I, are here, but hope that we can support each other.

My 29 year old daughter died 5 months ago.  I'd give anything to just be with her.  I wouldn't do anything to hurt myself, but the longing is there, and the pain is often unbearable.  I had no idea it would be this physical and emotional.  There are others who are ahead of us on this road, and they have found ways to manage.  Perhaps we can too.

Hi Daniel, I know, I feel the same way, just want to be with my son...it's normal to feel that way, just PLEASE don't ever act on it. I am in my fourth year, it isn't easy, I really believed I would die from a broken heart, I wished it over and over, but I'm still here, and you will be too. I try to live my life for him, he was such an active kid, loved life, never a dull moment with him around. I know you have a grandson, I wish that I did, remember, he is a part of Tyler that lives on, he needs you around to tell him about dad, you can tell him everything from Tyler's childhood like no other... If you ever need to talk about Tyler off the site my personal email address is atonsgirl@aol.com sometimes parents don't want to ask certain things on the site, so they email me. I hope that you will find some help here, I started this site because I felt so alone in my grief, I have learned a lot over the past 4 years...