Dee, My heart aches for you as you begin this encounter with his employer.  They will take advantage of your vulnerable state of mind that is why you need to document everything.  It is not easy to grieve and yet they push you over the edge, but God will carry you through and give you the strength you will need, so stay strong.  NEVER sign anything and if you do always get a copy.  When it becomes too much for you, walk away and return when you mind is ready to handle it and you will be amazed at what you missed.   

My husband's, first of many being rushed to the hospital, his first and second line supervisors came for what I thought was a friendly visit here they came and assessed the situation and wanted my husband fired.  That was the beginning of our many battles. They were quoting procedures and practices they followed and I asked for copies of whatever they were quoting to me for them to make such a decision.  One time my husband was intensive care and I received a letter telling me they terminated him and he has no benefits.  I told his supervisor straighten it out or he personally will be held liable ... he straightened it out!  Bottom line I'm still waiting for a copy of the quoted procedures/practices.  Stay STRONG, it is about you and your children.  Many hugs, Jane P.

Dee, My husband was sick for 17 months and for 11 months I fought with my husband's company.  The bottom line for them is MONEY!!!!  The one time his supervisor called our home and I told him before we even started talking that if the call was monitored in any way it is a federal offense and I will prosecute, the phone went dead and within a few seconds he returned on the phone and I told him whatever had just transpired was underhanded so this conversation was over and I hung up.  Dee, get a special notebook and keep a good log, document everything, dates, times people's names, any phone call made or received, little things people tell you about that day when they were working w/your husband, everything.  Your case will be as good as the information you gather.  You will need to be strong and fight a good fight.  It is hard, I know I was there, but through all my tears and grief in the end I received what was rightfully mine.  Stay strong my new friend. Many hugs, Jane P

DEE, I am so sorry for your loss and even sorrier you had to join this group.  I too am experiencing multiple deaths.  2 weeks after my father passed my mother was diagnosed with cancer she survived for 9 months , then 7 months later my husband was diagnosed with cancer and 17 months later he passed so I am now grieving them all.  My heart is so broken at times I cannot breath but some how I make it!

Loosing you soul mate is the most devastating to the list of losses.   There is no one to lean on, no one to share you inner most feelings, no one to laugh out loud with, no one to hold you and say it is going to be OK!  

You will experience a roller coaster full of emotions. Throughout this journey you will find there are no right or wrong answers, there are no time frames in which you need to follow, and it is a long road.  Stay with us we are all grieving but in different stages of grief.  We understand just what you are experiencing and at one time we have experienced these feelings.  You are not crazy you are grieving!  Come here often even if it is to read posts but please come.  Many hugs, Jane P