I worked as a medical technologist in the hospital before I went into teaching and I am so sorry that your wife had to go thru all of that and you too. It is hard knowing that they wanted to live so bad and it just wasn't in the cards for them. Charlie told me after this last surgery that he was thankful that he had the 18 yrs. that he had with me and he never figured he would get that and he hoped this last surgery would buy us some more time. He wanted to live for me but now I feel guilty that he even had the surgery, I never figured that he would die. Maybe he would have lived more years without it. I will never know and it hurts so much. His family all has heart disease so I tried to feed him right and take good care of him. No one thought he looked sick at all. But he was only pumping on 25% of his heart for all of those 18 yrs. In the picture is our little Toyota mini moterhome. We bought it in Bastrop, La. from the female Mayor there and her husband. They kept it in a big garage and only had taken about two trips in it.It is a 1992 and they quit making them in 1994. It is like new on the inside and gets good gas mileage. I will never get rid of it, too many memories and all good. Guess I will have to drive it now.

Thank you for accepting my friend request. My husband just passed away Jan. 22 and I saw you were from Jeanerette, La. My husband and I loved coming to La. and were in your town and had the best time a couple of years ago. We went to the Yellow House? a restaurant near there and they told us about Jeanerette and the Sugar Cane museum. We stopped there on our way back from Morgan City. Charlie wanted to see the Mr. Charlie at Morgan City and he loved taking the tour on that oil rig. The little lady at the Sugar Cane museum was so sweet and happy that we stopped, she gave us the grand tour!

But the bread from the brick ovens at Jeanerette was so good. I used it all the way home in our little camper and we talked about it a lot. Everyone is so nice in La. We went back last Spring Break and went to the Liberty Theatre in Eunice and stayed at Poche's Campground again. We ate at Pat's down by the levi and took an air boat ride on the Atchaphalia Basin, I can't say it or spell it! But it was so much fun to see the big alligators out there. We loved it around Breau Bridge and stayed at Betty's Rv in Abbieville a night or two. We went to Holly Beach and we were the only ones there, it was wonderful to have a whole stretch of beach to ourselves. Bought crabs and shrimp and stunk up the whole camper cooking them!! But they were good.

How do you go on without the one you loved? How does it get any better? You are further out in this journey than me so I was wondering how do you stop the hurt? I came to this site searching for these answers and maybe some people that understand the pain of it all. No one that I know understands what I am going thru, they have gone on with their lives and are just glad it isn't them. I loved my husband for 18 yrs. it was a miracle that we even found each other and we were totally alike and always liked each others company.

Hi Edler ..

I know what you are going through right now.  My husband passed away April 27, 2011.  We all have to come to the realization that unless someone has lost a spouse others who haven't cannot possibly feel the pain we feel.  The worst thing is to avoid people forever.  Take small steps and ask a male friend to come over for the evening and watch sports or whatever you want.  I have girlfriends over to help me ease back into society and walk my two dogs often. I must admit I get jealous when I see my family or friends with their spouses and begin to feel like a third wheel.  In time, it does pass, but it is in the time frame we are in that counts for us now and I am so thankful I have found this forum and all the good people to get me through the bad times.  I don't feel so alone.  Women are more apt to go for grief counseling then men are so perhaps think about going to a mixed group.  It does help.

Big hugs

Marcy

Thanks for the well wishes. I wish you well also.

Prayers for peace & strength~

Christy

Good morning Edler,

I just read some of your posts & responses and wanted to wish you a day of peace and moments of joy. I know that just brief moments of joy does wonders to lift my spirits. I saw a toddler playfully running from her father in the store yesterday- they were giggling and smiling... It made me feel so good. I have no joy of my own these days and appreciate sharing in other peoples joy whenever possible. I read that your house is quiet and that you would welcome a phone call or company; perhaps you can make the first move and call an old friend or family member. Last week, I made the difficult step of going to visit someone and it was a real blessing. Prayers & best wishes for you-Christy

Hello Edler, thank you for your kind words, they mean a lot and they really help with comfort during this difficult journey.  I am sorry for the loss of your wife, she is very pretty.   One can only get through one day at a time, some are better than others, and that is to be expected.  We all miss those little day to day things that filled our lives with so much joy and now know how much we loved and were loved.  I take my comfort from knowing my husband Jack is right here with me, each moment, as he promised he would be and that we are being loved from "another room" now.

Edler, what does Minor Outlying Islands mean?  I live in Canada.  West coast, 2.5 hr plane ride to California.

Take care,

Carol

Hello Edler, thank you for your kind words, they mean a lot and they really help with comfort during this difficult journey.  I am sorry for the loss of your wife, she is very pretty.   One can only get through one day at a time, some are better than others, and that is to be expected.  We all miss those little day to day things that filled our lives with so much joy and now know how much we loved and were loved.  I take my comfort from knowing my husband Jack is right here with me, each moment, as he promised he would be and that we are being loved from "another room" now.

Edler, what does Minor Outlying Islands mean?  I live in Canada.  West coast, 2.5 hr plane ride to California.

Take care,

Carol