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Posted on January 23, 2011 at 9:22pm 4 Comments 0 Likes

Four months have gone and passed and I have not resolved that my daughter is gone. I miss her so much that I ache, I want to scream and just lash out at something. The what ifs are stilling hanging around me, the guilt for not doing things differently or not recognizing what was going on enough to do something about it. My daughter died of something that was totally preventable and I didn't recognize it, as a healthcare professional I should have seen what was going on in my own daughter. I had… Continue

My daughter Tiffany passed away 4 weeks and 3 days ago. I still can't believe that this happened and that she is gone. I keep waiting to wake up from this nightmare. Everything I do and see reminds m…

Posted on October 23, 2010 at 7:20pm 4 Comments 0 Likes

My daughter Tiffany passed away 4 weeks and 3 days ago. I still can't believe that this happened and that she is gone. I keep waiting to wake up from this nightmare. Everything I do and see reminds me of her. When I am alone I do nothing but cry. I go into stores where there are things that remind me that she isn't here, like kid's things, it reminds me that I won't ever have the opportunity to help her name a baby, I won't have the opportunity to cradle my grandchild, her child in my arms. I… Continue

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At 6:58pm on November 20, 2012, Tami said…: Happy Heavenly Birthday Tiffany

At 6:57pm on November 20, 2012, Tami said…: Francine, will you email me about 10 photos of Tiffany so that I can make a collage for you? Thinking of you and Tiffany. {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}

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At 2:29am on September 10, 2011, Tami said…: Francine, I make little fairies, if you will email me and let me know colors Tiffany loved, I will make you one, you can hang it in the garden, or from the rearview mirror of your car as your guardian angel, they are made from wire and embroidery thread and material, I had one in my yard for a long time, but they last longer out of the elements, would be my pleasure to make her for you..... Tami
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At 12:29pm on January 28, 2011, Sharon Eickenroth Mitchell said…: Francine...left you a lengthy post on your October post...i ache for you..:(

At 9:36am on January 28, 2011, JoAnn Brozowski said…: Dear Francine - my son Tyler, my only child, died one year ago on January 26, 2010. If you had told me three weeks before that my son would die from a drug overdose I would have laughed. But it happened. And for an entire year I cried and screamed at him for not coming to us for help or telling us what was going one. But I have learned that it was his choice to make. It doesn't make it any better or any easier, and I still can be wracked with guilt and remorse, but it proved to me that it can happen to anyone. I share your pain and I want to tell you that after a year it has gotten slightly better - not good, not even halfway decent, but not as totally horrifying as it was. i pray that you will find peace and love as you walk this dark path with us. Know that others are ahead of you and sadly, others will be following you.

JoAnn

At 5:32pm on January 20, 2011, Melinda Ellen Guinn said…: It's been 10 months and i don't have that "it just happened" feeling any longer. It's still a huge emptyness in me and I know I'll never get over it. I'm reconciled to this pain, but it does get less painful. So I guess it took OVER 9 mos. to feel better. After dr's scrip she refilled even though she didn't want to. Candace is 30 and I didn't see her in 2 years although we spoke on the phone. She was always busy w/the girls, no time for Mom.

At 5:25pm on January 20, 2011, Melinda Ellen Guinn said…: Maybe she'll come to you in a dream. I dream about Candace but she "came to me" when I was awake.I felt her standing behind me and she rubbed my arms up and down. I was so flabbergasted I couldn't even speak to my Baby! I hope Tiffany (nice name) does "show" herself in a way that will comfort you.Maybe if u speak aloud to her and ask her. I don't know.

At 5:25pm on January 20, 2011, Melinda Ellen Guinn said…: Maybe she'll come to you in a dream. I dream about Candace but she "came to me" when I was awake.I felt her standing behind me and she rubbed my arms up and down. I was so flabbergasted I couldn't even speak to my Baby! I hope Tiffany (nice name) does "show" herself in a way that will comfort you.Maybe if u speak aloud to her and ask her. I don't know.

At 8:20am on December 11, 2010, Carrie L said…: Hi francine though i know we are really not in the mood for happiness I thought I would write and tell you how sorry i am we are in this situation. our children are our everything and everyone around us thankfully has not experienced this but yet it leaves us so alone. love to you and hope you are ok. carrie L

At 7:05pm on November 3, 2010, Susan - Donny's Mom said…: Thank you for your posting today on the main website. I will take your challenge! sometimes it is all too much reading these posts.....our lives are too long to be so sad all the time....a happy thought of our children is a good way to try and start a day. Can't hurt for sure.
Great suggestion! thanks again and hugs to you and your family