Gina, I noticed that you just lost your second parent. I lost my second parent a year ago today. I have two older sisters but they don't make sure I am OK. I live alone in my parents' house. It is SOOO depressing. My doctor wants me to take Paxil because I cry at the drop of a hat, but my boyfriend of 9 years doesn't want me to. He lives 40 miles down the freeway and is caretaking his elderly mother. He doesn't always have time for me emotionally.

I'm sorry to read your heart aches with sadness for your Father I am praying for you, I pray God will provide the strength for you to face each day’s cares and apprehensions. Be assured that he does care for you. Keep your confidence in him strong, and continually seek refuge in his protective care. (Psalm 27:10; 91:1, 2; Proverbs 3:5, 6

Hi Gina,
Thanks for your kind, supportive words. I was amazed at the number of people who are going through the exact same thoughts and feelings as me. This seems to be a great site for being able to open up about your grief, without being judged by anyone, which already helps me to know I am perfectly normal in feeling the way I do about losing my Dad. We had such a special relationship with me being the oldest of 4 and the only girl. I knew that Dad loved us each equally but there was always that little special bond with me being "Daddys little girl" that never ended. I mostly miss looking forward to his hugs that could make me feel like all my problems were solved, and our talks that no one knew about but the two of us. I have started going back to church, and that does bring me some comfort. I am also so very sorry for your loss of your Dad. Is your Mom still living? I am at least blessed with a mother who is also my best friend, and we talk every day, sometimes 2 or three times a day (thank goodness for unlimited long distance) She is my rock even in the worst time of her life (she loved my Dad for 53 years through things most womeon would never have put up with) But she knw how much he loved her and the last few years they had together were truly wonderful ones. I am at least thankful for that. Write me whenever you feel the need to talk or have a shoulder to cry on. Thanks again for your support.

Dear Gina,
Just thinking of you and wanted to send you this thought, as you share stories and your memories of how your dad lived life and how very much he meant to you, may you find comfort. Remember: “God is near to those that are broken at heart; and those who are crushed in spirit he saves.” (Psalm 34:18) May you find comfort in your fahters memories that are yours to cherish.

Dear Gina,
May you find comfort in your dads memories, and strength in the companionship of the life you shared together. Facing the death of someone so close to your heart is emotionally devastating, to say the least. Even Christ Jesus "became troubled and gave way to tears" at the death of his close friend, Lazarus, although he knew that he would resurrect him just moments later.(John 11:35,38-44) Although your deep pain will not easily disappear, prayer to God will bring comfort to you as you grieve. The Bible assures us God "is healing the broken hearted ones, and is binding up their painful spot." Psalm 147:3 .......kathy