Janelle,Sorry for your loss.In reference to your question,I would like you said ,divide amongst family or donate to a charity that your lost loved one had any connection to / or passed from in their memory.Welcome to Legacy and sorry you've had to join us here.We're all here for different losses but our grief brings us together.Hope you find the support you seek here.I'm here because I lost my brother,my only sibling in a drowning in 2014.Grief has no timetable,with me it will be the rest of my life.