Thinking of you Jill...

Jill:

 

Im so sorry that you had to go thru all of that, lawyers can be so uncaring

when my son died even though we knew it was his fault a friend of my cousin wanted the case and work on it, well as I said he learn't it was my sons' fault but the seat broke and pushed jonathan into the sterling wheel, this lawyer was oh seats can't break it's the manufacturers fault and so on and so on, now he won't even return our calls we have the pictures from the wreck and even spoke to the head detective on the case and yes the truck buckled under my sons seat and the seat did break, we just want answers and since now you would have to sue a big company this lawyer just ignores our calls my husband still wants to get anothe lawyer involved but i just need to be finished with this and end that horrible day, our lives will never be the same but sometimes you need one closure so you can at least get that part over with, my God bless you and your family they same time heals everything i don't think time will do much for any of us except for the time we all can be with our child again.

Jill, I am so sorry for the loss of your son, daughter-in-law and father.  My son died on June 8, 2009 from complications of pneumonia, 9 days after he went to his doctor with symptoms of a very bad cough & cold, difficulty breathing, etc. She dismissed him, saying, "You're not that sick.  You don't have pneumonia or flu". This diagnosis was given without so much as an x-ray.  She wouldn't prescribe the antibiotics that would have saved his life.  She was callous and uncaring, but the various lawyers we've spoken to said that if this went to court, she would win.  It seems, so far, that the Board of Medicine thinks she "followed protocol" and is not responsible for his death. We don't care about money, just the fact that she hasn't been held accountable for her substandard care of our son.  He was so kind, intelligent, funny, loved animals, especially cats, helpful to everyone.  His sense of humor was wonderful, especially when anyone felt "down".  I don't understand, as I'm sure you don't understand how this could happen.  We are not supposed to outlive our children.  Our son was always healthy, except for allergies.  I too am so thankful for this website...to meet other bereaved parents who understand the continuing pain and agony that is our lives. I feel as though I died too, and wonder why I'm still here.  Peace and hugs to you.  Todd's Mom, Janet

Jill,

I am truly sorry for all the losses you suffered so close together, I can't even imagine.

Thank you so much for responding to me, your words were very helpful and encouraging.

It's so strange, when you imagine losing a child, it's nothing like it actually is.  It is so horrible that it's unimaginable.

Your response really means a lot to me.  Thank you.

Jill I am so sorry for the loss of your son, I feel like you, losing my daughter was the worst thing in this world. I can not get over this and I know I never will. I come on the computer but sometimes I just read what people write and I still just freeze up and I start to cry. Christmas will be 6 months without her and I no I can not make it throgh that day. I wish all the best to you and your family I will say a prayer for all our children Hugs to you Donna

Your message is a good one Jill. So very sorry for the losses in your life,
especially your son.

I have such very bad days and it has only been 7 months since I lost my
treasured son, Chad. Somedays it seems like just yesterday and other days it
seems like its been forever since I was with my beautiful son.

I know Chad would want me to fight. He was a brave, good and awesome son and
human being.

On my good days I tell him "I will not disappoint you just as you have never
disappointed me". Then there are the bad days.

He and I will do this together (with a little help from our friends). A journey
of faith is a journey of love, so I ask God to help me be strong. Strong for
my husband, my three other precious children, strong for me and most especially,
strong for my heart and soul ... a kid named Chad.

Lisa (Chad's mom)

jill , the problem was taken care of. i am the co leader of compassionate friends in longview texas.... i do not need any feed back. the person i needed to talk to called me.thank you for your concern.

Jill,

I really got a lot from your posting. You made me think about us not understanting eternity. I believe my son to be with Jesus; however, where you said your son would not want to come back to the pain and suffering of this world; my 18 year old son was loving life, adored by his family, loved by his friends. He would not have wanted to leave, and I think ... just me thinking mind you ... he would want to finish the things he dreamed of doing. He wanted to ask a girl someday, the right one, to marry him. He wanted to say "look mom, dad .... this is my daughter or this is my son". I don't know. There are no words, but I will think on what you said. Thank you. And I do believe, religion is not something we should fight over. Lisa (Chad's mom)

YOU ARE SO TRUE I DO SHARE MY FEELINGS HERE IT SEEMS LIKE NO ONE UNDERSTANDS, I MISS HIM SO AND FRIDAYS ARE HARD THATS WHEN I FOUND OUT. I NO I WILL BE WITH HIM AGAIN BUT MY HEART IS TORN APART,HE WAS MY BABY I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD LOSE ONE OF MY SPECIAL KIDS,WHO MENT SO MUCH TO ME. I HAVE HAD A DAY IN BED HOPING TOMORROW I WILL FEEL LIKE DOING SOMETHING,I NO HE WOULDNT WANT ME TO BE IN SO MUCH PAIN HE NEVER COULD STAND IT IF I WAS UPSET, SO FOR YOU MY DEAR SON JUSTIN MOM HIS GOING TO TRY HER BEST,ILOVE AND MISS YOU SO,BUT I DO HAVE ALOT OF GREAT MEMORIES OF MY BABYS IM SURE ALL YOU MOM DO. LOVE AND FEEL YOUR PAIN MOMS LOVE JUSTINS MOM PAM