You have suffered a tragedy and you no doubt cry out with great sorrow. Your tears are not unnoticed by the Creator of Life. Never was it God's will or purpose for our human lives to be taken away. Never allow anyone to tell you how long you should grieve grieving is a part of healing. Although your deep pain will not easily disappear, prayer to God will bring comfort to you as you grieve. The Bible assures us God "is healing the broken heart and is binding up their painful spot." Psalm 147:3
Linda, I am sorry to hear about your sister. I too lost my brother to a car wreck. It has been 4 years ago today. Your story sounds so similar to mine in how people think that we should "move on" and be normal again. I don't think that they can truly understand the amount of pain that we are in until they experience it for themselves. My husband would tell me that my brother was like a brother to him too but it's not the same. My brother left behind his son, who is now ten. He is a carbon copy of him. It hurts so bad to look at him because it brings back so many childhood memories but then again, I love to be around him because it is like my brother is there again. In time, things will get easier but there will always be those days that are just difficult. The first two years were the absolute worst for me. I hope that you can find some closure soon and can start the healing process.