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Almost a year since my husband passed away

Posted on September 23, 2011 at 1:53pm 1 Comment 0 Likes

Its going to be me a year on November 21, 2011 lest than 2 moths away since my husband passed. I life hasn't changed. I still stay home on the weekends by myself with the dogs and no one to talk too. It seem that its going to be that way til the day i die. My work is good. My finanical situation is kinda of tough right now. Going from paycheck to paycheck. And sometimes that isn't enough. I have no true friends. They were all my husband's and they don't even call me since he died. I…

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How do I continue on with my life

Posted on November 27, 2010 at 9:38pm 1 Comment 0 Likes

I just lost my husband on November 21, 2010 in his sleep. He was a diabetic. We were married for 15 years. For those 15 years, I made sure that i did everything for him. He worked so hard that I didn't want him to work when he came home. I took care of him in and out of hospitals. I endured his pain that he felt from his diabetes due to neuropathy. I am to the point that I don't like November or December anymore. November because i lost my dad 6 years on Thanksgiving and now my husband, and… Continue

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At 11:02pm on November 30, 2010, Ellen Brant said…: Monica, Wanted to stop by and check on you and let you know you are not alone. The pain is immobilizing at times and I too have to stay in the moment. Please vent or let me know if you need to chat. HUGS. Ellen~

At 5:28pm on November 28, 2010, Ellen Brant said…: I hear your pain. Life is so different. It has only been one week for you. I feel that pain. I am just 8 and a half weeks and I am not sure what to do. Since you are local would you like to chat on the phone sometime? Let me know .

At 5:17pm on November 28, 2010, Ellen Brant said…: So is that too far for you? I would be glad to search out ones closer to you.

At 5:06pm on November 28, 2010, Ellen Brant said…: Monica, Just wanted to stop by and check on you today. It sometimes helps me to get out of myself for a moment or so. I have just VERY rececently joined a face to face grief group in the museum area not far from the medical center. The group is small and all women and run by a counselor. It too has been helpful. It meets Mon. nights from 6 PM to 7:30PM I don't know what side of town you are on but I would be glad to share the info. if you are interested. Sometimes for me it can be a struggle just wanting to do something for me. I am so used to helping Doug. I hope you are doing as well as can be today. They say that tears are healing. HUGS to me are too. Ellen~

At 12:44am on November 28, 2010, Ellen Brant said…: Monica, I feel your pain and am so sorry for your precious lost. YOU are not alone. I too live in Houston and have lost my husband of near 12 years. The holidays plus being here, Doug and my 12 Anniversary would have been the day after Christmas. He died Sept. 29, 2010. I am haven't stopped crying yet. I have lost my Father in the long ago past and Mother too. This site has been a Gift. HUGS. Ellen~

At 10:11pm on November 27, 2010, Barbara Roth said…: Hi Monica, Sorry for your loss. You have come to a very helpful site. I lost my husband on Oct. 21,2010 to lung cancer, he also was a diabetic. We were married for 38 yrs. You will find alot of nice and very helpful people here. This site has been my lifeline. I hope you will find it the same. Please take care of yourself,feel free to scream, holler,cry,talk ---- someone is always here to listen. Take care.

At 9:48pm on November 27, 2010, Patricia L. Herrera said…: Hello Monica,
So sorry for your loss. With time, you will have a different outlook about the months that you lost your loved ones. It's so hard to heal but you will. Have faith in God, he will help you recover. I lost my husband on 3-22-2010. We were married 34 wonderful years. He was a diabetic, had a lung disease called "pulmonary fibrosis" and several other medical problems. He was on oxygen for over two years and was diagnosed in 2005 with the lung disease and was given five years. He lived five years and two months exactly. I miss him so much. Thanksgiving was my first holiday that were not together. It was really hard but I decided to still cook dinner for my kids and grand-kids, that way I didn't have so much time to just sit and think. I did go to the cemetery and took him a plant and wish him a Thanksgiving. He wasn't at my dinner table but we all felt his presence with us in spirit. I see you live in Houston. I live in Bryan/College Station Texas, Aggieland!! I went to my local Hospice Org. not too long ago and attended a six week grieving session with five other ladies who lost spouses. I'm so happy that I attended those sessions, it' has really helped me. You meet people that are going through the same emotions and life experiences as you. Well Monica, I wish you luck. Sorry we had to meet this way and hope you can find comfort somehow with your loss. God bless you. I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts.

Hugs!
Pat in Texas
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