Dear Norma, I am so sorry for your loss, I feel your pain, I know all too well about the trembling. My son died on March 1, 2010 and it still feels like a dream. I also tremble on the inside, I just want to talk to him and I do, but I get nothing back. I am a christian and by faith we are supose to think of them in heaven, but as a mother, like every mother I am sure, all a mother wants for her child is to know that they are happy and safe. You see even though my son was a christian, I struggle everyday with the way he died. He died from an overdose, something that he was so afraid of happening to him. His death upsets me so much because instead of him being with people who loved him, his family, christian people, he was with non christians, drug pushers, who just watched him die. Now I just pray that God will show me that my son is in his arms now and that he is safe and happy. I search everywhere for answers but come up with nothing that seems to satisfy me. Lost in sorrow, Cheryl
MY BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER......TILL THE DAY WE SEE EACH OTHER AGAIN.....PLEASE HELP ME WITH THE DECISION THAT I NEED TO MAKE. IT'S HARD TOOO HARD AND I FEEL LOST WITHOUT YOU....I'M DOING MY BEST FOR YOUR LIL SISTER BUT I FEEL BECAUSE I HAVE NO ONE AND A HOLD BACK SO MUCH, THAT IT'S MAKING ME MENTALLY FLIPPY....YOU KNOW? AT TIMES I FEEL LIKE I'M EVEN TREMBLEING....IS THIS NORMAL? LIKE I'M ABOUT TO HAVE A NERVOUS BREAKDOWN....! SO PLEASE TELL ME SOMEHOW WHAT I SHOULD DO....LUV U MAMAS!
THANK YOU NORMA V CUBIAS;AS A BIBLE TEACHER & AVID SERVANT OF GOD FOR MANY YRS I STILL NEED TO BE REMINDED OF GODS GREAT LOVE & CARE FOR US - HIS CHILDREN. YOUR WORDS THAT JESUS IS LIKE OUR BABY-SITTER & CARE-TAKER OF OUR CHILD THAT WE HAVE LOST SOUNDS SOOO GOOD TO MY BROKEN HEART - - THAT WILL HELP ME WHEN I THINK OF MY RYAN IN JESUS GREAT ARMS OF LOVE.I ALREADY KNEW THAT BUT IT HELPS BEING REMINDED!WE ARE ALL HUMAN & GO THRU HUMAN EMOTIONS- & CRYING DOES SEEM TO BE HEALING & HELPS ME TO FEEL SOME RELEASE AFTER I HAVE A GOOD CRY.SO WE SHOULD FEEL FREE TO CRY WHEN WE NEED TO - AS ONE MOM SAID- GOD GAVE US EMOTIONS FOR A REASON - THAT HAS HELPED ME TOO .I WILL REMEMBER YOU IN MY THO'TS & PRAYERS TOO !!! GOD BLESS YOU & GIVE YOU PEACE !!!`` hugs & prayers~~~ your friend DEL
I lost my daughter Annie in February of 2009 in an accident involving two tractor trailers. I was helpless to do anything because the police did not get the log books and lost all the accident scene reports! When our children are ripped away from us it is a loss that is unique in that there is no leading up to it. It just is. Now. Then we are left with trying to make sense of the senseless. How? Grieving unfortunatly is something that we can not aviod. It comes on you in waves and we must learn to somehow ride that wave until it passes. I hope that there is justice in your case. I hope that the boyfriend that did this gets what he deserves. I equate my grieving to carrying a rock. Sometimes it is so heavy and there is no place to put it down, but if you talk about it,write about or cry about it, it makes the rock a little easier to carry, but you will always carry the rock. I hope this helps in some small way Norma and know there are others out there that are going through this loss. You are not alone. Compassionate Friends is for parents that have lost children. I have not gone there yet but feel that I'm almost ready. I hear good things about them and they are a free group. I wish you peace Norma and the strength to see this through..