Hello Trish. How are you today? it has been awhile since I've been on internet as there has been illness in my family but things are better now. I am Denise. I left a letter with you before on december 15th. Time is certainly needed to heal the wounds of our grief. Have you been keeping yourself busy as this is so extremely important. I am thinking of you and hope to hear from you soon. Sincerely, Denise
Hey Trish; I am so glad to know that you got a chance to see your family and that you had a chance to talk. I am assuming it was your father, right? The words "I love you" was so sweet and what you need to do is hold on to those words, because that's part of your healing. I know there are days when you may feel that you are on a roller coaster. One day you are up and the next day you are down in the dumps. Because I was so young when my father died, I did not understand the feellings or emotions I was having. But when my mother passed away, I was 47 years old, so I could relate to my emotions, but still I did not know how to handle the feelings because it was the first time experiencing loss of a mother. Again, I had to face the anger, pain, depression, sadness, etc. But knowing and having a relationship with God today, I can truly say even with the passing of my Dad and Mother, God saw me through it all. Keep trusting God through all you are going through. Trust in Him and no that God will never leave you. He's right there, just a prayer away. My email address is firstname.lastname@example.org. Send me your email, and I will send you to my book, "Healing Through God's Love." God Bless.
Hello, Trish; I read your site, and am asking what happened? I understand the suicide, but what lead up to it? I was 15 years old when I lost my father to suicide. The worse thing about it is that I witnessed him commit suicide and there was nothing I could do. I wanted to think that there may have been something I could do, but learned later when I was in my 40's that there was nothing I could do, because it was his choice. But that choice he made left an angry girl behind and with lots of emotional problems that haunted me later in my life. I wish I did have someone to talk to back in the day, but in my era whatever happened you sweep it up under the rug and move on with your life. But little did I know that it would come back and haunt me later in my marriage, with friends and family, because there was anger, sadness, and a lot of unresolved issues that I did not know how to handle. So get back in touch with me and let's communicate on what happened and the emotions that are going on inside of you at this very moment. And one thing you have to try and see is the fact that God loves you when you feel or think no one else does. He's the only one who can love you like no other.
I would like to share what I have learned with losing two sons 40 days apart but the youngest one, he was only 19, committing suicide & I was the one who found him! It happens to be one of the worst things that can happen to a parent first to lose a child, but by Suicide even makes it more unbearable!! It took me quite awhile & lots of Therapy to finally realize that you have to learn this "You have to move on but you do NOT forget"... I had to learn to breath & live again by doing something in the honor of my sons, which I do! I speak to young people about thier deaths trying my best TO SAVE OTHER YOUNG ONES SINCE I COULD NOT SAVE MY OWN CHILDREN! And I know they are together and in Heaven & some day I will see them again!
Hello my name is Denise. I would like please to provide comfort for you because we also have loss loved ones to death and it is very painful and can hurt for a very long time. grieving is a process, it really is. When someone commits suicide members close to the person suffer severe mental turmoil, some of us even blame ourselves for the tragedy. Remember though it is not always easy to recognize signs of suicidal feelings. The Bible says: "The heart alone knows its bitterness, and no outsider can share in its joy (Proverbs 14:10) So sometimes it is simply impossible to discern what anotehr person is thinking or feeling. Many times a person cannot commmunicate their inneermost feelings to others, even those close to them. Rather than torment myself, I have found comfort in the words of wise King Solomon: "The living are conscious that they will die; but as for the dead, they are conscious of nothing at all." (Ecclesiastes 9:5) Your loved one is not being tormented and the metal and emotional anguish that led to his death has ended. He is not suffering, he is simply at reast. Real assurance comes to us now knowing that there is a very beautiful and positive hope for our loved ones, even those who may rest in death. The Bible even promises that there is going to be a resurrection (acts 17:31) and so for now we must allow ourself to go thru the grieving process, shed tears where and when we must as this helps us thru the process. many sad days have come to us but as we allow ourself to grieve we find that we begin to allow room for cherished memories of our loved one and we hod the hope of the resurrection ever so close and dear to our hearts. may you too have peace.