Patricia

To those who tell you to get over it you give the perfect response. There is a line from a Thin Lizzie song that I will paraphrase "If they don't want to know, forget em!" No one has the right to tell you how to grieve because no one knows what you are feeling but you. To try and deny your feelings just makes it hurt that much worse!

Our anniversary is June 1st and we would have been married 31 years. I miss her more everyday and will probably do so for the rest of my days regardless of what direction my life takes. Keep using this website to vent and hang in there as that is all we can do. 

Dear Patricia, welcome here.  We are all here to listen and support each other.  I just read your post and I truly understand what you are saying.  I love the idea of your wedding rings combined.  I have some of my husband's ashes in a heart necklace with me all the time.  I too have is wallet in my drawer, his comb, some of his work uniform items, his old shoes he wore every day, and his jackets that I wear and hug.  I decided to sleep on his side of the bed, I find it comforting sleeping where he did.  Right now I am going to sit and have tea on the deck, this is where I share my time with him.  Jack was 57 when he passed away last August.  To say we miss our loved ones, is at the least a total understatement!

Hope you find some support and kindness here Patricia.

Carol