Dear Rita, we all know the horrid state of shock that comes so very soon~ I sure have seen it being different for everyone. Please, just know this phase will move on.. and then another and another. but i have to admit that the New Shock stage is the scarriest. Hold on for it shall pass. Prayers help much and so does a little time. dont rush anything. And definately sound out your thoughts here anytime u get a whim. God Bless You in your very new loss.

You have to pray and find things you can do that will help you. When my mom died I cried alot, watch old movies with her in them, went through old pictures and found out about them, made collages with her pics, made a video with her favorite song and pics, created a memorial web site, carried on her tradition of Sunday Lunch with the hold family about once a month, etc. I still do things that I know she would have wanted us to do. I go to the cemetry often and talk and cry. I cry a lot and have nightmares and people tell me it takes time. I will keep you in my prayers.

Rita, I am sorry to hear about your loss. I feel so lost myself, for i lost my mom 1/10/10, i feel as if i'm here but not really. I can't sleep, when i feel restless, i try and read my bible to give me strength and solitude of some sort. The traffic has stopped so I'm all alone now. I wouldnt have never in a million years dramed joining this group but glad i have. Just when you think your alone i find comfort knowing i am not alone.