I understand what you mean,but even if they ever try to get in touch with me,and we do talk again,it will not be the same,its over in my books.I went to my brothers grave today to put some flowers for Easter,what was nice is,they did put on his tombstone,Loving,Father,pap,SON,AND BROTHER!! That sure shocked me!!! I dont miss talking to them,and if they would call,iI know that I would cry to hear their voices,so it better for me that they dont call  I guess,but what they did was so selfish,uncalled for,and it was so wrong and hurtful.thank you,and have a great Easter,

Rowe,it is just so mean the way family can be,and Im sorry about the way your sister said,NO HISTORY!!! ,What is that to mean?you were her daughter also,there are plenty of memories of you and your mom!,I have not had the chance to ask my 2 nieces why I was left out,also my mom,my nephew,he didnt have anything to do with the funeral,he listens to his sisters,as he is going through a tuff time with his marriage right now! But he sure could stick up for me.Like I said,the youngest daughter exiled me,my mom and my 2 sons from the 3 kids,well Im not gonna lose sleep over them 3 kids,,Im more mad at them then anything,mad that they did that to my mom and me,mad that they deprived me and my mom from saying goodbye to my brother.I will not get into a war of words with them. What does hurt me is how I was so close to all 3 of them ,then when they get married,and Im not important anymore. Its just hard,as I dont have any friends who have only 1 sibling,all my cousins have 7,8,9,other siblings,I have no one at all,my 2 sons talk with me sometimes,but they have their own lives,and they both told me,Mom,they didnt really bother us before uncle Matt passed,and now they feel that the path is gone,and they do not need to keep in touch with us,so just let it go,we do not need them in our lives,I hurt because I was their only Aunt from their dads side,and only aunt who was a good person,their mom has 2 sisters,one is dead,the other is worthless,my brother and their mom has been divorced for at least 18 yrs.It is so sad that family has to do this to another family member,shame on my 2 nieces and nephew,and shame on your sister,please take care,and you are in my thought,your friend Sarah

Im sorry about your mom,and for the way your sister is,I can relate  to what you are feelong,as my brother just passed in Jan.2013 and his 3 kids were nasty to my mom and me,Acted as if we were not part of the family.Like you said forgive and forget,but I will never do either,what they did was so wrong and so uncalled for,my mom is 84 yrs old! That was her only son in that coffin,My hearts breaks for my mom,you and me,why do people feel the need to hurt your own family?such a sad thing to do,well Iam hurt,and I miss my brother so much,They didnt even call me or my mom to go see him at the hospital while he was passing,and the hospital called them and told them to get the family there.Guess my mom and I were not their family! shame on all them and your sister too

AWE GOSH I FEEL YOUR PAIN.  MY BROTHER PASSED AWAY AUG.30-11 ONLY 32, IM HIS YOUNGEST AND ONLY SISTER...MY MOM WANTS TO TAKE THIS BIG TRIP TO STAY W/HER SISTER FOR THANKSGIVING (ALSO MY BIRTHDAY) and all I can picture is how  much thats going to kill me inside.  I just want to be with my family ofcourse....including mom and my poor brother.  but i have a 2 yr old son, i feel like i need serenity, esp. after a nice er visit because my body was shutting down from "stress" as my moms grieving (the anger) is laid out on me...am I worng:?