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Living In An Apartment

Posted on October 2, 2010 at 10:28am 0 Comments 0 Likes

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I have settled in to my new apartment here in my home town of Roanoke, VA. I finally have the place the way I want it. There have been some issues, however with the couple living above me. He works nights and she has OCD. She vacuums everyday sometimes twice a day. She washes clothes everyday, sometimes multiple times during the day. What in the hell could she possibly be washing? I believe she is running a laundromat above me. Anyway, after being used to a…

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Moving for the Third Time in Six Months

Posted on July 19, 2010 at 2:52pm 0 Comments 0 Likes

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I have made a critical life decision recently. I have been living with my son, his wife and my grandson for the last six months. We all moved in together in Nashville, TN thinking that it would be good for me to be around my closest family. It was OK in the beginning because I really was numb and had no clue which way to turn. Now, after six months has passed, I am beginning to realize that I need a life of my own again. I love my family, but they need to be on their… Continue

The First Anniversary Without My Husband

Posted on June 24, 2010 at 9:26am 0 Comments 1 Like

I haven't made any posts in quite a while. I have been on a roller coaster ride that never ends since January 9, 2010 when my husband was taken from me by that horrible disease lung cancer. Monday, June 28, 2010 would have been our thirteenth wedding anniversary. But there is no anniversary, because there is no longer a marriage. It ended on January 9, 2010. "Til death do us part" I think are the vows we took. I have been trying to find another life since then. Mainly I have been reflecting on… Continue

Getting Through The First Holiday, Valentine's Day Without My Husband

Posted on February 15, 2010 at 10:17am 1 Comment 0 Likes

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I made it through the first Valentine's Day without my husband. The day before Valentine's Day was very hard. I cried most of the day. My husband, Noel always prepared a wonderful dinner for me and always had a dozen roses and a sweet card. I spent the day with my son, daughter-in-law, grandson and family members. It was pleasant and it kept me from constantly thinking about what I don't have. I have kept every valentine that my husband ever gave me. I re-read them… Continue

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At 11:17am on July 19, 2010, Dixie Olson said…: Shelia: you are in my thoughts and prayers, Christmas was hardest for me, I went to church christmas eve 4 mos after my husband died, and when everyone was singing I was sobbing, It was not a merry christmas for me, but since then Ive walked through the valley and came out to the other side, God Bless you, hang in there

At 11:58am on April 26, 2010, Deb said…: Hi Sheila. Yesterday I went to dinner alone for the first time. It was quite an uncomfortably lonely feeling!! I felt as if everyone in the restaurant was staring at me. I too bypassed our favorite restaurant - - too many memories! Good to see that you are taking online classes and "branching out". Hope you have a great week. You are in my prayers. I agree with your statement - May God continue to comfort each of us as we mourn!

At 10:36am on April 19, 2010, Kay Flowers said…: Shelia,
It was 4 weeks yesterday since my sweet baby Tim passed away.He also had lung cancer(small cell) which they do not do surgery on. The Dr. did not expect him to live as long as he did. God kept him here with me for almost 4 years after he was diagnosed.I am so sorry for your loss and the pain that your heart feels.I know how you feel-it really really hurts and there is nothing anyone can do for you.It seems better when I am at work or with my family and grandchildren but when I am at home by myself it just sucks.Tim always said that he could not stand to see me cry-but there is no way to not cry at this time. With me, like all of us,everything we do,see,watch on tv,eat,everything reminds us of the ones that we will never be able to see and hold and kiss again.It has been 4 weeks and I cannot bring myself to even take his toothbrush out of the holder.I know everyone says that it gets easier but right now it seems to be getting harder.Maybe reality is just sinking in.Our dog knew that Tim had been sick and she just lays on the porch and waits for him to come home.I have to make her come in the house at night.I pet her and tell her that her daddy went bye bye but and it will be ok then I just lay on her and cry.I guess we all must do the same thing-get up each day,go to work or do our daily routine and try to make it to the next day. During that time,I feel like I am on an emotional roller coaster-ok at times and then crying-but the hurt and sadness will never go away for any of us,hopefully it will get better.I just miss my husband so much and do not like to go home after work.Thanks to all for listening-I know we are all going through this together. Kay

At 6:14pm on April 8, 2010, Shelia Painter said…: Well, I got through the Easter Holiday without too much crying. I did have a few moments where I began to remember the fun we had on Easter and cried. I have joined a couple of Meet-Up groups here in Nashville. I ate dinner and went to a movie alone last night. That was something I haven't done in quite a few years. It felt very lonely. I passed by a Carrabas while choosing where to dine and immediately bypassed it. That was one of our favorite restaurants. We used to eat appetizers and drink champagne at the bar. Too many memories. It would have been overwhelming. I continue to read all the messages I receive and I pray for each of you as I read them. May God comfort all of us as we mourn.

At 8:36pm on February 7, 2010, Deb said…: Hi Sheila, Hope you are having a good Sunday! I live in Alabama, about 60 miles northeast of Birmingham. It is so cold here-about 33 degrees now and so windy!! Take care of you. You are in my prayers. Debbie

At 12:27am on February 5, 2010, Bill Geddings said…: Shelia,
I lost my partner of 24yrs. this past July 21,2009 of pancreatic cancer.We were very faithful to each other
all those years. I took care of everything and now I don't know what to do!! It is like I have amnesia or something! I just can't seem to go on with my life! I feel so lost and alone! God bless your heart! Just pray as I do and we all will get through this eventually.
Always,
Bill

At 11:08am on January 19, 2010, Shelia Painter said…: My husband, Noel died January 9, 2010 from lung cancer. We were married 12 and 1/2 years. He was the love of my life. He put up a brave fight to the very end. He was conscious until hours before he died. I have always been afraid of death until I experienced his with him. He was a beautiful spirit, full of life. This horrible disease changed all of that. The suffering associated with this disease is indescribeable unless you have experienced it first hand. I am trying to cope. It is very hard. Please e-mail me. I am so very sorry for all of your losses.
Shelia