Steve Cain
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Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Dear Steve ... Don't forget up North it's dry so you didn't feel the cold that bad like I did once I came back to the coast (Vancouver.)  Oh, memories of being younger and summertime 'when the living was easy.' …"
5 hours ago
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Mary Jane ...   So good to hear from you.  I can imagine those fires so close would be frightening, but glad to know you have everything ready if you should have to leave on the spur of the moment and I pray you don't have…"
5 hours ago
Steve G. commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha, I cannot imagine living in a place that has -45 F weather, but, then it is what each of us becomes acclimated to.  When I was younger I had no problem living in humid Florida summers, where  98 degrees felt like 110.  We…"
22 hours ago
Steve G. commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Good to hear from you Mary Jane! As we all continue to recover and re-group, the one thing I have to remind myself is that this life is temporary and the world we now live in has changed.  It is no longer the safe haven we grew up thinking it…"
Mary. Jane commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Wow,,it is wonderful to see y’all posting! I have come here many times, to see no one was here..for a very long time.iIt has been 2 years, since I moved back to the SF Bay Area..and, yes, Bob is finally here. He wasn’t until…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Deborah ...  I was married before too and it wasn't a good marriage so I don't have much to worry about there.  Ernie was the light of my life and I keep hoping one day all of us will meet again.  No, the hurt doesn't…"
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Steve ...  great to hear from you.  It seems the weather all  over the world is crazy.  I shudder to think what our winter will be like.  Your last winter sounded terrible.  I use to live up north during the 60s and it…"
deborah peck commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I hope all our friends and family are safe on the West coast with all the fires raging there. It is supposed to be 105 here today so going to be a craftroom day for me."
deborah peck commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"So nice to see everyones post on here, glad everyone is well, Marsha I am so sry you dont have the help you need, I am truly blessed.. Yes 10 years is a long time but its not at the same time, the hurt doesnt go away,my 1st husband has been gone for…"
Steve G. commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha, Glad to hear you are out of the heat wave, we had an artic winter this past February.  We had snow, ice, thunder snow, and temps as low as 1 degree f.  This lasted two weeks, and we were some of the lucky ones that did not lose…"
Jul 19
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Deborah ... Wonderful to hear from you and I had left a post to see how everyone was doing quite sometime ago, but no bites.  I just assumed and prayed everyone was OK.  I am so happy your brother moved in and is able to help you.  I…"
Jul 19
Steve G. commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Debora, Good to hear from you!  It has been a while for us all on this site.  Nice that your brother was able to move in with you.  Being alone is the second hardest thing one has to endure, we all are social beings and we depend on…"
Jul 19
deborah peck commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"I look on here often to see if anyone post anymore, its so quiet so thats either a good thing or bad. I depended so much on all of you when Greg first passed away and you were all so supportive. Its been 4 years this past May and I cant believe that…"
Jul 19
Marsha H commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"DJ ...  You are a dear wonder!  I was so surprised to see your post.  Yes, it's been 10 years and I don't react as deeply as I did for the first 5 years or so.  I did talk to him on the day (call me crazy) and wished…"
Apr 28
Mary. Jane commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Nicely said,DJ"
Apr 27
DJ commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
"Marsha; our thoughts are with you on this 10-year mark.  Be healthy, keep safe."
Apr 27

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Just a quick note to thank you all for supporting each other. When I started this I would have NEVER thought this group would grow this big and have the amount of activity that it does. It's great to see you all supporting and helping each other. With 3 jobs it is hard to spend as much time as I'd like but it's good to know I don't have to spend a lot of time here administering things. Just remember I'm around if you need me. When something gets posted I do get an email and I will respond as soon as I get that. Thank you all for taking care of each other and remembering your loved ones here.

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At 9:10am on August 12, 2017, Joanne Dobrow said…

My Jack was my world. It has been eight months since I lost him and yes somehow you go on but I will always be half of me. I have lost half of what made me me.

At 11:08am on June 18, 2015, Cynthia Murphy said…

It has been a while since I have been here. My husband died 19 months ago after 17years of suffering from diabetes related problems. I didn't think I would ever get better but I have. Eight months into a horrible grief a friend called and asked me to come over, her brother was there. I dated her brother in high school. He had lost one of his sons in 2001 and grieving as much as I was. We've had so many discussions about what we have been through and where we are now.. We are dating now and loving life again. We still talk about our loved ones we lost but we remember with smiles and happy memories. I don't know what the future holds for me but I have to trust that God is leading me in the direction that was meant to be for the second half of my life.

At 2:19pm on September 1, 2014, Karen W said…

Joyce, welcome to the site.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband Ed almost 9 months ago and I have found myself back at this site often looking for comfort, encouragement, understanding, or just to vent my feelings.  Everyone here has been where you and I are and understands what we are going through.   I wish you strength for each new day. 

At 10:45am on September 1, 2014, Joyce M said…

I too am new to this site...and am not sure how to post a comment...I have read so many comments by others and have found some small measure of comfort knowing that what I am going thru is so normal...I lost my husband just 3 weeks ago and every day is so hard right now....

At 9:44am on May 26, 2013, Jan said…
How do I talk to people on this site? I posted and did a blog and no one responded. Maybe I didn't do it correctly.
At 9:02pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
I just realized I posted
I have read others post and it seems no matter whether the loss of our loved one is recent or years ago What I am feeling is what others have posted
I feel a large piece of my heart died when he did I feel like I have to be another person at work and then go home to our home we shared for 45 years and feel so alone I just crawl in bed and zone out to movies or sleep When I think about how much I miss him and being there when he took his last breath it's like I have to put my feelings away because its too hard to deal with them. I get mad then sad and cry I just want to go to sleep and wake up and he is back home with me. The question I have is I feel bad when other family members call with problems they are having or if they are sick. I feel like I can't handle it or be sympathetic and say the wrong thing to them. I really don't want to talk to others I feel bad I can't listen to there problems Does anyone else feel this way. I have always been the strong one helped others and was able to fix my problems. This grieving I can't fix me. I know everyone says it takes time but this is the worst thing to go thru and I don't feel I will ever be me again. I married Mike when I was 18. Moved from my patents house to be Mikes wife then became a mother and now 45 yrs later alone. I was always a wife and a mother never a me I don't know how to be me. Mike and I were friends too and did everything together I really don't have friends Sorry my post is so long. Mikes birthday is coming up then Xmas. Thanks for listening
At 8:40pm on December 7, 2012, Babs said…
Hi. I am new here how do I post a question My husband of 45 years passed away 10 months ago tonight I don't feel it will ever be better I miss so much. GOD BLESS EVERYONE
At 2:35am on September 13, 2012, Marilyn kroge said…
I am facing the 1st anniversary of the loss of my beloved Jim and I still can't accept that I am alone for the first time since I was 18 years old, almost 50 years with the same man and my only love. I wake in the night to sounds that I realize are coming from my very soul. I find myself calling out to him, begging him to please come back to me, that I can't go on without him and I can't stop the tears that won't stop and I don't want to stop the pain I feel because that would make it real, it would mean that I finally know that I will never feel his arms around me, that I'll never kiss him goodbye when he left each morning. This man I met for the first time and we knew that first meeting that love at first sight really happened and we were together from that moment until I kissed him and felt his last breath, warm and so amazing that I felt his breath as he closed his eyes and so quietly left me forever . I know how maudlin my words sound but I so need to finally tell someone of my pain. I'm not allowed to say any of this to my sons or anyone in my family. Their grief became anger and so this has been my life, alone and terribly hurt that no one wants to hear what I've said here where I feel safe sharing my deepest thoughts. Thank you......."m"
At 9:13pm on September 12, 2012, Margie Thrash said…

I am coming up on my second month without my rock (Scott) it is hard but I do have good friends that check up on me every night if I dont contact them so I am fortunate that way.  Had to already go thru his birthday without him was very hard to do.  Then we always did a 100 mile horse ride week of labor day did it this year by myself with a few friends and was hard but I did it.  Not a day goes by I dont cry.  One of his last text to me was please dont get depressed like I am right now (he had 3 months to live from diagnosis made it 3 1/2).  So I try to think of that text everytime it gets too bad and I go outside or work around the house and listen to alot of music.

At 2:21am on January 10, 2012, Rowe said…

Welcome to all new members. I Lost my first husband 31 yrs ago at the age of 38. Remaried 6 yrs later and lost my Late husband after 10 yrs. He has been gone for 15 years. I am living proof that after the grief, Life will go on.  Not at first, but about 5 yrs later you will be living again.. even though you thought it would never happen. I Recommend that you do not try to avoid the grief.. you have to deal with it because if you dont it will be waiting for you to come back. I am here for you if you need to vent, or just want someone to give you an ear.


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