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Memorial Service Ediquette

Posted on July 6, 2010 at 10:03am 0 Comments

Please read my page and leave a comment about my situation. Am I being inconsiderate of my husbands family by taking time to create a memoral service that he would have wanted with thought and meaning behind it? My circumstances are explained in more detail on my page. His older brother and step mother are pressuring me to do a hurried up service to get it over with because they feel I am taking too long. He suggested I agree to a service at his Methodist church and have his minister do a… Continue

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At 11:20pm on July 5, 2010, Suzanne said…
My husband past away June 09th in Texas at the hospital. Took the drs. and the funeral home there over a week to release his body and creamate him, with 18 yr. old daughter in tow I decided to drive home and stop at my mothers quite small town home place for three days where I spent many of my childhood summers. I longed to be somewhere safe and secure to get my senses about me. After being by his side for nine straight months and the last three hardly ever leaving the hospital I just needed that down time. I get home and I have two weeks to get my life back in order, included setting up new living arrangements, before I have to report back for work. I have many photos and videos to go thru before I can present to have a dvd produced for his memorial, friends to contact to request they speak at the memorial. I am also waiting on funds to pay for the service. We did not have income coming in all this time I wanted to find a place for the family to spend the day on the lake afterwards cause that is what he would have liked cause spending time on the lake was his favorite pastime. First his stepmother keeps pressing me for a date so she can schedule around things she has to do. Then his older brother who has supported us financially thru this whole ordeal, whom I am very appreciative, wants me to agree to have a service at his church and let his minister say a few words who has never met my husband. Then have whatever I want to do later. I told him I checked with the funeral director and he has told me sometimes there is no hurry that some wait till their loved one birthday or the holidays to have a service when one is cremated. He pretty much accused me of lying. So do I have a reason to be upset or am I being inconsiderate of everyone else? If we had been home all this time or if we were expecting the worse I might have been better prepared. But that wasn't the
case. We were very positve for a good outcome.

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