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Posted on November 17, 2008 at 1:10pm 6 Comments 0 Likes

2 weeks ago today on November 3rd, 2008, I lost my son Alexander James. Losing him was completely unexpected and since he's gone, I've lost myself somewhere.

Alex was my third pregnancy. The first was in 1994. We lost our daughter Elizabeth Lynn at 20 weeks due to my incompetent cervix, which we didn't know was incompetent until it was too late.

My 2nd pregnancy was in 2006 and was twins. We lost the first baby at 10 weeks to disappearing twin syndrome. We'll never know what sex… Continue

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At 2:05pm on September 28, 2013, Peter D said…: My heart is so broken I don't know if a repair is ever possible. Certainly I've changed drastically since I lost my son on Dec 1, 2006. I wonder how people ever find the strength to continue after losing one child, not even to mention multiple children.

Giving up is an option that's always there but, in light of making some good come from my child's loss, it's not a plausible one. My heart goes out to new parents that have recently, or will in the future, loose their children. It is so hard.....no one should have to endure it. If I can bring any honor or 'good' from losing a son it is to memorialize his memory by trying to help others. I pray that he will be rewarded in Heaven for being the inspiration for good things that happened on Earth. I pray that the Lord will turn to him and say " Well done Phillip".

I pray that your children, and you, will also have a multitude of Blessings - until that time it appears the one thing that truly matters in this life is to help others through this short, confusing journey we call life.

At 4:19pm on December 28, 2008, A R said…: Im really sorry for your losses, I know it's really hard for you. But know that one day when god takes you up there you will get to meet and reunite with all your 4 children.

At 4:15pm on November 17, 2008, Guy Dusseault said…: Hello Tammy: Sorry for the loss of your son Alexander. There is no greater pain then the loss of a child and for what it put you and your family through. Our son Billy died on June 24 2004, we also have a website in honor of Billy www.oursonbilly.com that you can visit a read our story. I did visit you flickr photos of the heart shaped signs,great photos. The heart shaped signs are my favorite. Take care and God bless.

Guy

At 11:05pm on November 16, 2008, Cheryl said…: I too have lost my son, maybe we could chat sometime... they just don't seem to understand that lossing a child is so different... I would like to share the page we made in honor our son... It helped me to be able to go their, and talk with him... maybe such a page for your son might help you?

You might have to copy / paste the link...?

http://memorialwebsites.legacy.com/alexk33/Homepage.aspx

At 8:20pm on November 14, 2008, Lee said…: Oh Tammy, I just read your comment on that article and my heart went out to you. I'm so sorry that the people in your life aren't giving you the support you need. I'm sure that most of your co-workers didn't know how to approach you about your terrible loss, and chose to just avoid the situation - not realizing how you need their support right now, and how much their absence would hurt you. People get so awkward around someone who has experienced a tragedy.

It is my hope - even if you never return to that job - that your co-workers will reach out to you in ways they haven't done yet. It's not fair for them to pretend like nothing happened, like you hadn't lost your son.

You'll be in my thoughts, Tammy. Hang in there.