"OMG, I see a post from DJ on August 4th about Joseph's anniversary. You have such a phenomenal memory, DJ! Thank you so very much for remembering and for posting. Your thoughtfulness and kindness mean a lot to me.
How have you been? Okay, I…"
I see you sent me a message for Joseph's anniversary on August 4th (and yes, it was the nine year anniversary), but I didn't receive the notification. I am so sorry!
You are such a wonderful and thoughtful friend, you…"
"I am scrolling down the posts and see that this forum is active. For some reason, I don't get the notifications anymore. Only Steve's post from yesterday was in my email Inbox. I am so glad that Steve's post came through, otherwise, I…"
"Hello You All Wonderful People!
It was incredibly comforting to see the post by Steve yesterday (for the first time in more than year?), followed by Sara, Chuck, Marsha, Pete, Chicago, and Mary Jane. Just the other day, I was thinking of this forum…"
"Hello Diane C,
Ten years on August 1st since you lost your beloved Rich? Yes, life goes on; as the saying goes, Time and tide wait for no (wo)man. Life goes on, but it's never the same. The missing and the longing for our lost love goes on…"
Great to hear from you. You write so well and express your thoughts and feelings so well, too. So yesterday was your and Larry's 39th anniversary? I can only imagine what kind of day it must have been with a walk down memory…"
"Dear DJ, hi,
I just saw your message from August 4th now! I was in Bangladesh on August 4th--Joseph's 8th anniversary of death--and didn't see your post on that significant day.
I am deeply moved that you remembered the date and that you…"
"Dear Chicago Beard,
Reading your post about what would have been your 42nd anniversary brought tears to my eyes. Steve put it eloquently that our departed loved one will forever remain in our hearts until our time comes to leave this planet.
Your post about the nature of grief is so very apt! It is stated simply, but it is so very true. There is no closure to grief; you just deal with the loss as best as you can for the rest of your life.
Hope you and Charles are doing…"
"Mary Jane, Charles, Sara, Todd, Marsha, and Steve and Everybody Else Who is reading This,
I wish you well and hope that Valentine's Day was not too sad for you. It was a hard day for me, but after reading the encouraging posts here, I found the…"
"Steve, what an amazing story! You must have been over the moon at coming upon this unexpected gift from Mark! You gave Mark your camera, and what a gift he left for you! And for you to just come across the precious memories and hear Mark's…"
"Sara, your message made me laugh. Even though we are talking about something solemn and serious, your comment about the upside of not throwing things away is very funny. I am also a pack rat--it would seem like you--and Joseph would tease me about…"
The tattoos look beautiful! Very artistic. I am impressed to learn how you actually got Ken's own handwriting from a fax for the tattoo. Ken will now live forever with you in a very creative way. Your niece's birthday tattoo in…"
Thank you so very much for your affectionate message for Joseph's seventh anniversary of death. You are such a kind and thoughtful friend! Marsha emailed me separately on the day. DJ also very kindly inquired after me on August 4th.…"
"DJ, thank you so very much for remembering me on Joseph's anniversary of death. It really means a great deal to me! I looked at our happy photos from over the years with friends and family, and it helped to fight the sadness some. Doesn't…"
Dear Trina ,,, I'm akways around and we have so much in common so if you would like to email and keep in touch this is my email address: Maday1@shaw.ca If you are uncomfortable about it I will understand. Sometimes when Legacy is slow it's good to email someone off the board.
How nice to receive your friend request! I'm still getting used to the fact that we can do that with other members - I'm just not well-versed in "cyber-communication" I guess! My email address is : firstname.lastname@example.org
I tend to be like you and only check Legacy when I see certain names, but I check my email much more regularly. You are one of the people I always read because so much of our communication has been so healing for me, and I hope it has been also for you.
Dear Trina ... My email address is: Maday1@shaw.ca
No pressure if you don't want to email me, but hope to hear from you. I do care how your life is going and I am so very proud of how you are taking charge of your life as best you can. Joseph is watching over you.
I hear you Trina, these whole year has been surreal, I look at the place where Pablo used to sit & still can't believe he is no longer here with me, I miss him more & more everyday, I can't stop crying, I feel the same way, why couldn't I have left with him, I want to be with him again but then I think that it would be devastating for my sons & sister & now my first grandson, it would be too hard for my sons to also lose their mother after having lost their father, never in a million years did I envisioned my life without him, I always thought that we would grow old together & now that both my boys were married, we had started to enjoy going on vacations more often, now to never be again, I simply don't know how to live without him, I also feel guilty because too many things were left unsaid because I thought I had more time to tell him, I sure hope he can listen to my words & hear what my heart feels, sorry for my rambling on & on, having a pretty bad day & not looking forward to tomorrow or the next few months for the matter, I sure hope we can all find some peace at one point in our lives.
Sorry for your loss Trina, this was also my first Christmas without my husband, he's been gone for 10 months, my first holiday without him was just 5 days after his death, it was Valentine's day, I know exactly your feelings, we all here do, one way or another, sorry you had to come to this forum but it has helped me a lot knowing I am not crazy & that I still cry every single day since he died, I had to also go thru what would have been our 34th wedding anniversary in October, & next month, both our birthdays with his anniversary death on February 9th, I wish you some peace & send you some hugs, we all need them.