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A Widow Story

Posted on March 23, 2011 at 10:16am 0 Comments 0 Likes

I just finished reading this book by Joyce Carol Oates and recommend it to everyone. She shares so many feelings that we do in beautiful detail. It helped me some relating her story to mine and she lives in Princeton, NJ where I spent the first 17 years of my life.

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At 8:43am on November 22, 2016, Victoria (Vicky) Owensby said…: Thanks Tami for reaching out. I lost my husband in 2010 and now my 26 yr old daughter has taken her own life. Most days I cry everyday, all day. I have a grief counselor a psychiatrist and a grief group. I'm on my third anti-depression mimed. None have worked. I feel most of the time like I want to die now too but my only other child, my son would be left with no one so I'll wait for my turn to come. I wish I could see her one more time to tell her how much she meant to me. She was the joy of my life and now it's like I'm only a third of a human. Why is g-d punishing me.

At 12:05am on May 4, 2016, Tami said…: Hi Vicky, I'm sorry you had to join our group "Loss of a child" but I'm glad you found us, I hope you can reach out and get some help, you can always email me privately

Atonsgirl@aol.com

Hugs
Tami

At 8:41am on May 6, 2012, janeo said…: Good, thank you for asking.
Cyber hugs and enjoy your day. Ok

At 12:29pm on December 3, 2011, Kim said…: Hi Vicky,

Its been awhile since I last wrote to you. I'm sorry about that. I hope you are doing ok. Its very hard for me at times to come onto this site because it really makes me sad to hear everyone's story. It brings so much of my own pain to the surface and I am trying so hard to bury it the best I can. I am so dreading Xmas this year. Not only is my husband gone, but my son moved out about 5 months ago so waking up all alone on Christmas is going to be very hard. I'm still very lost without Jerry but am making the best of things. I hope things are getting better for you. Even though I do not write to you often I do think about you.

At 8:22pm on May 29, 2011, Kim said…: Vicky,

Things have not been so good lately. Not only is the 1 year anniversary of Jerry's death approaching, my friends 8 year old son passed away this morning. He stopped breathing sometime during the night. Life is so cruel. The death of his son brought out so much of my own pain.

I'm happy you are going back to school for your Master. For me, keeping busy helps with the grief process. I know what you mean when you say you are ready to leave your house. Part of me is ready to leave, but the other half isn't. Sometimes the memories can be too much to handle. I still can't get through a photo album without breaking down.

Take Care

At 7:56pm on March 14, 2011, Linda G. said…: Vicky, so glad you read my comment. I just have started getting dressed everyday. Neal passed away 5 months ago tomorrow. I have been so depressed and along with my grief, I did not think I could go on any longer. If it were not for my doctor changing me for the 3rd time to a different antidepressant I do not know what I would do. This last change seems to work some. At least now I can get dressed.

Neal and I were married for 40 years and I am just totally lost without him. There are not words to describe how much I miss him. I wish we could all wake up from this terrible nitemare. HUGS

At 2:03pm on March 14, 2011, david said…: vicky i sent you messages trying my best to answer the questions you had . i hope it helped . david

At 2:03pm on March 14, 2011, david said…: vicky i sent you messages trying my best to answer the questions you had . i hope it helped . david

At 9:21pm on March 13, 2011, david said…: hope things are better for you. david

At 8:34pm on March 10, 2011, Kim said…: Hey Vicky,

Just checking in with you to see how you are doing? February was a rough month for me. With Valentines Day and then Jerrys birthday 3 days later, I kind of fell apart. I wanted to die so bad just so I could be with him. I am doing better so far in March. Grieving is hard. One day I am ok the next I can cry at the drop of a hat. I still can't look at Jerrys pictures without breaking down. I can't believe he has been gone 9 months already. My life doesn't seem to have meaning without him. I hope things are getting a little better for you. (hugs)