Hi Geri I am glad we can share this tragedy because it seems like we are all alone and this is not true we have all suffered horrible tragedys and forever losses and the nightmare continues until we also join them.. i see that time doesn't make it better as i thought it would not but talking to another mom whose heart is broken passes the time and changes the thought a bit.. hope you are ok love to you carrie
Hi Geri,I'm sorry for the loss of your son,you said you don't let on anymore and that's something you should not have to hide and the reason I say this is because I had to do that for a while and I stopped,if I'm having a bad day because of the loss of my daughter I make it known and I don't get ill with anyone I just go and think by myself if others have a heart and see you're having a moment they should do one of two things either come and just say nothing or sit and say how can I be an ear,but you should not have too bottle up your pain and watch others feel good.that's just a suggestion because your heart matters too.It only leads to silent frustration because then you think they really don't care because I know they know that you are hurting and your hurt, should be their hurt.Be Blessed
Hi Geri my computer is acting up. anyway i was reading your blog and feel so bad for you. and me. we are eternally without our sons and should be with them not eternally but on this earth. without. them. our beautiful babies. turned men thank goodness. I want him. i want him and i know you do also. please. i saw it has been a while for you not me but i see how i will be when those years pass just the same. how horrible. i feel your pain and know you feel mine and talking to strangers seems strange but there is a bond that we cannot explain our beautiful children where on this earth for about the same time and taken from us at about the same time so we are the few sharing this tragedy. not those people in our families yes they feel some but not all they are not their mothers. Carrie L
Geri, I can really relate to you. As you know I lost my Travis on 2-15-2005 at age 25. He died by suicide and he was my only child. I have very few good days, but I know he is with me and I will see him in Heaven one day. My Travis is a yellow butterfly that I see every day. He is watching over me and I am sure your son is watching over you. They will always be with us in our heart and never leave us. We will see them and just keep the faith that God has promised us. Love you Linda
GERI, I AM BETTER TODAY, BUT HATE THE THOUGHT OF STARTING ANOTHER YEAR WITHOUT MY PRECIOUS FALLON. I WILL START BACK TO WORK ON MONDAY SO HOPEFULLY THAT WILL HELP SOME TOO. AS ALWAYS THANK YOU FOR YOUR COMMENTS AND COMPLIMENTS ON FALLON'S BEAUTY. KEEP IN TOUCH. GOD BLESS YOU DURING THE NEW YEAR. FALLON'S MOM-- PEG
GERI, ON THE 23RD, I HAD A BIG BREAKDOWN AFTER GOING TO THE CEMETARY. IT WAS MUCH WORSE THAN LAST YEAR. CHRISTMAS EVE WAS A LITTLE BETTER, BUT CHRISTMAS DAY WAS JUST HORRIBLE. I HAD 30 PEOPLE AT MY HOUSE -- NEICES, ETC WHO WOULD BE FALLON'S AGE GROUP. THE MOOD WAS SO DEPRESSING THAT THE NEXT DAY MY HUSBAND AND I LEFT TOWN AND HAVE JUST RETURNED. WE HAVE DECIDED NOT TO DO ANOTHER CHRISTMAS AT HOME IF WE CAN POSSIBLY AVOID IT.
I'M TRYING NOT TO FOCUS TOO MUCH ON MY OWN GRIEF AND I APPRECIATE SO MUCH YOUR COMMENTS FOR ME. I PRAY THAT YOU ARE HEALING. THIS IS MY 4TH CHRISTMAS WITHOUT FALLON AND I AM STILL NOT WELL AND NEVER WILL BE. TIME HELPS SOME BUT THESE SNOWY DAYS THAT WE ARE HAVING IN OKLAHOMA ONLY ADD TO MY SOMBER MOOD.
MAY GOD GRANT BOTH OF US THE PEACE THAT WE SO DESPERATELY NEED DURING THIS APPROACING NEW YEAR. FALLON'S MOM---PEGGY
Hi geri i am so sorry for the sudden depature of ur son Paul mijo left suddenly 5-3-08 at age 21- I say left suddenly because that is the only way i can think about what happened and i know i will see him again when it is my time to leave i do have other sons (2) and 2 daughters so i think it is harder for you both and i will pray that ur children will let u know that they are ok and in a peacful playfull place i took pics all year long "searching " for mijo and i think i "found him" in the pics i took please visit Marin Angel page and view all comments I hope the pics will comfort u as they do me Take care
GERI, THANKS FOR POSTING. I AM ALSO VERY SORRY ABOUT THE LOSS OF PAUL. HOW DO WE DEAL WITH LOSING THE ONLY CHILD? I STILL CAN HARDLY COMPREHEND THAT I WILL NEVER SEE HER AGAIN. WOULD IT BE EASIER IF WE HAD OTHER CHILDREN? PEGGY
Hi,my name is Geri, and I too have lost a child, my son Paul on Easter Sunday,March 23rd,2008.A senior in college,he was on his way home from a vacation with his friends,when a car hit them,Paul was gone,instantly.It is truely the worst day I will ever have in my life. When my husband told me that evenning,that our only child died in a car accident, the love of my life,23 yrs. old.I thought I would die. I do have good days now, and I really think it is Paul giving me the strength and courage I need to get thru each day.And that's my comfort knowing Paul is still with me.I can feel his strength helping me.For that I am greatful.For me there would be no other way to get thru the days without him.God speed to us all.Love, Paul's mom.