I am so sorry to hear about your lost. The Bible gives us comfort for the loss of our love ones...Letting us know that they are unconscious, as if they were sleeping.
Just waiting for God's great day when they will be resurrected, as Jesus mention in the Bible book of John 5:28,29.
Your love one is in God's memory. God's word is a great encouragment for us today, his word the Bible can help keep you going so one day you will see your dear husband again. The Bible writer Paul offered hope of relief from that “last enemy,” death. He wrote: “Death is to be brought to nothing.” “The last enemy to be abolished is death.” (1 Corinthians 15:26, .
Linda, you know why Paul was so sure, because he had been taught by one who had been raised from the dead, Jesus Christ. Read(Acts 9:3-19) That is also why Paul could write: “Since death is through a man,(which was Adam) a resurrection of the dead is also through a man which would be ,Jesus Christ. For just as in Adam all are dying, so also in the Christ all will be made alive.”—1 Corinthians 15:21, 22. Linda isn't that good news.. So Linda, you keep the faith, and continue to endure. If you ever need to talk I am here for you, you can email me at anytime.
Thanks for giving me your e-mail address. I just wrote you, please check your e-mail. Take care for now. You are not alone okay...I am here. You have my e-mail address.
God bless you friend...talk to you soon!
How are feeling today honey?
I hope you're doing better. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved husband on November 21, 2008. From cancer I understand exactly the way you feel Linda. Me too just lost my beloved husband John of 10 years, he just passed away not even a month yet, it was October 26, 2009. It has been very hard on me too Linda, specially on Thanksgiving and Christmas it will be our first holiday without him. It hurts, I feel lonely too like you. What keep me going is my daughter and God. Linda, I know that we have lost not just our husbands, we lost our life partner, our best friend, our soulmate, our lover, the shine of our lives our everything. I can imagine your pain, you spended 28 years with him almost all your life. You got so used to him, like I did with my John. But remember one very important thing your beloved husband was suffering so much from a devastaded cancer. he was on pain, a lot pain. Also it was very difficult on you too, taking care of him see your husband going through such a painful cancer treatments. I am sure that you didn't want to see him suffering anymore right? Well, he is not suffering or feeling any kind pain, it is gone. He is heaven now, he suffered so much already. He finished his mission in this world beside you for wonderful 28 years. He gave you three sons, and part of you husband,lives on each of them Linda. Look around you, I am sure that have so many people who love and care about you. You did everything you could to save your husband but his time came. Each of us will die one day. I know we feel empty, lonely, insecure, lost, numb, depressed every day we have to push ourselves in order to go on with our lives, be strong and survive. I feel the same way,my emotions like a rollercoaster. God forgive me but days after my husband died I was so angry and depressed that I told my daughter that everyone in the world should die as well. That was a very CRAZY thought. God give us time to born and die. He place us in such a difficult situation to test ou faith on him. Please do not even think about die, just to be with your husband...because if you do that before your time you WON'T. When we are depressed specially after a loss of a loved one, those kind thoughts cross our mind. It is not from God Linda. You must find strenght like I do, I have no family in here, just me and my daughter. I have up and downs but I believe God has another plan for us, everything happens for a reason. I know everything seems gray and fog right now, but time is the best healer. I have been crying every time I walk in my kitchen, my husband loved to eat. I look around and think how many times I cooked during the holidays. Now I just see empty pans and ampliances, it is so depressed:(
But I will try to do the best of it, for me and my daughter. I am sure my husband is next to me watching me as an angel, you husband too Linda your are NOT alone. Your husband lives in your heart and memories forever. Be thankful to God for the 28 years together. You were so luck have him that long.
You must try to have normal life again without your husband, it will make him happy and rest in peace.
Try to decorate the house for the holidays, envite some friends or relatives over. If not, just do it for yourself. Do you have any pets?
Your husband will be next you. Pray for God give you strenght to go on with your life. When I am depressed I cry for a while then I realize that my husband is death, and gone forever that is nothing I can do to change it or bring him back. So I must continue because I still ALIVE, and my daughter needs me. I know the pain is unbearable, takes a lot mental & physical energy from a person. Loneless, fear, concern about future is all related to the grieve process. Most of time I ask, where did my husband of 10 yrs gone? Sometimes I feel bad because I even don't dream of him. I feel abandoned by him. Oh God but his death is NOT his fault! I keep remind myself that. I have no motivation for anything. I know I am depressed but I am trying to think positive, and looking forward for a best future. I I have faith and always ask God for guidance. Linda it never will go away, but will feel better with time, but you must think positive and try your best. Have you try to buy one of those books grief for loss of a spouse? I got one at "Barnes & Nobles" bookstore, also you can look online at www.Amazonbooks.com be strong okay. You are in my thoughts and prayers Linda. Take care of yourself. Let me know how you are doing. God bless you. Talk to you soon!
I lost my wife of 40 years earlier this year. Maybe this story will help. I had a friend killed in Viet Nam and as I was sitting in a chapel that night being mad at God, God told me I was not smart enough to know why things happen. I have also seen a sign that says that God has promised a safe landing, not a smooth ride. I have been lucky enough to find a widow that has helped me through the pain and showed me this web-site. Since you husband loved you he would want you to be happy--he would want you to always remember him but to also try to make yourself happy.
Not easy, but that would be what he wanted.
Always remember his love for you!
HELLO I AM LINDA,
MY HUSBAND PASSED AWAY NOV. 21/08.HE HAD TERMINAL COLIN CANCER.HE FOUGHT FOR FIVE YEARS.I TOOK CARE OF HIM AT HOME.HAD MAJOR SURGERY.CHEMO, RADIATION, IT DID NOT SAVE ME LOVE.
IT IS NOW ALMOST NOV.21/09. HOW HARD THIS IS FOR ME.I DO NOT KNOW HOW TO MEET THE REST OF MY LIFE.I FEEL SO EMPTY.
WE HAD 28 WONDERFUL YEARS.HE WAS MY VERY BEST FRIEND TO.THREE SONS, SEVEN GRANDKIDS.OF NONE DO I SEE NOW.
THIS IS ANOTHER STORY. CHRISTMAS IS ALMOST HERE AND I DO NOT WANT IT!! I AM SO LONELEY.I DO NOT WANT TO EVEN BE HERE. I WANT TO BE WITH MY HUSBAND. HOW LONELEY LIFE IS NOW.
I CAN,T EVEN GO TO CHURCH ANYMORE. THE PICTURE OF ME IS WITH MY NEW NEPHEW, TAKEN LAST SUNDAY. I HOPE TO MEET SOME REAL NICE FOLKS IN HERE. JUST TO TALK.
THANK YOU, LINDA