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Posted on August 9, 2009 at 10:02pm 2 Comments 0 Likes

I just lost my 28 yr old son in June. I am searching for comfort and advice because I feel as if I am drowning in sorrow. H ewas very close to me and often called a momma's boy. My husband also died 10 yrs ago and alot of old grief is cropping up also. I'd appreciate any suggestions from other moms or anyone with some suggestions.

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At 7:55am on October 12, 2012, Tami said…: Hi Lorelie, I am going way back to when I started this site and seeing how parents are coping, I hope that you are doing well.

Tami

At 7:50pm on April 10, 2011, Mary Ann Squires (Macs) said…: Hi Lorelie, Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you. I know it has been awhile since I last wrote to you, life is very busy for me which I guess is a good thing, It helps keep my mind off how very sad I am. How are you and hubby getting along? I know it is very hard when your both not on the same page and when they are not there to support you or each other for that matter. It sounds like we are going through the same journey with our husbands. I just read a geat book " We are they're Heaven" It is such a comforting book, a must read book about how our loved ones are always with us and watching over us. I truly loved every page of the book.

Please keep in touch and let me know how you are doing. A really big HUG to you. Macs

At 9:24pm on February 18, 2011, Mary Ann Squires (Macs) said…: I know this is a crazy question, but how are you doing? I just read your comments to me and I feel so bad for you. It is an awful hard time to go through alone when you do not have support from your husband, I too feel very alone in my grief. My husband is an alcoholic and with the passing of our son it only got worse. This is truly the tuffest journey we will ever have to go through. Maybe we both can help each other and bring comfort to each other. I'd very much like to know more about your son, he looks like he was alot of fun and I'm sure you have many fond memories of him. I was lucky to have spent some time with my Logan in Viet Nam last year and we sure did have some wonderful Mother and son bonding. I still cry every day and I get so afraid of what the years to come will be like, it seems the sorrow is getting worse instead of more bearable. Did you experience that too? I can't change what has happened so I must move forward. I recite the serenity prayer everyday. "God grant the ability to change the things I can't accept, accept the things I can't change and give me the ability to know the difference." I know each of our stories are different and each of us handles things in different ways. I know your pain and I know our journey will not be easy, but I am more than happy to walk beside you while our stories unfold.
Hugs to you Lorelie, Macs

At 9:52pm on December 18, 2010, Mary Ann Squires (Macs) said…: dear Lorelie, I wish I had the solution to make all the parents on the website feel better. I too lost my only child Logan, he was only 32 and living in Vietnam. He had just started a new management job and when he didn't show up to work for two days that was when they found him. So many questions and no answers. I have found if I tlk about Logan, I feel some comfort. He was so funny and witty and just made everyone feel good when he was around. I miss him sooooo much as we use to chat on FB all the time. Please tell me about your son. I'm here to listen and hope it will bring you some comfort too. Hugs to you, Macs

At 9:35am on December 18, 2010, Carrie L said…: Lorelie how long have you lived in montana. i am from maryland and moved to kentucky 5 years back but we had thought about montana.... do you like horses? Carrie L

At 9:30am on December 18, 2010, Carrie L said…: Hello Lorelie I am sorry I don't have the solutions for feeling better. I am constantly reminded of my beautiful child. the tv does it going out in public does it everything does it.I mean what am I supposed to do. I can't turn it off nor do I want to... For those fools who think I am going to get better they just better forget it. the sadness is intense as our love was.... I am sorry I had to walk away go to get a tissue. and come back. It is that I know we are conncecting on this site but i know there is so much more. a hug a cry..... thinking of all of us and hoping somehow we have helped eachother... carrie L

At 6:32pm on November 1, 2010, JAY GRABOWSKI said…: Dear Lorelie,
I so agree with you , I think what happens is that to us we have lost our little boy our angel where to other people he was a man - i always saw him as my little boy even though he was 34 when he died. I just hope I get to see him again

At 12:56pm on August 6, 2010, Sharon Eickenroth Mitchell said…: Hi Lorelie...I am thinking your profile pic is of you and your sweet son..."love it" I don't have any of Nickolas and myself like that, so sweet. I am so sorry for your loss the heartache we experience is unexplicable...our children are our lives...and when the leave this terra firm we ourselves are at a loss as how to fill that void. Only by seeking our peace in the one who knit our children together in the womb will we be able to find some solice. Even then our hearts will ache till we see them again. I don't understand the draw that our young have to these dangerous drugs...perhaps our world has grown so cold that they feel they must try something to ease the pain...not sure. my thoughts and prayers surround you. Sharon

At 3:31pm on April 18, 2010, Carrie L said…: I lost my son also. I love him and will continue his legacy somehow. I just wish I had spent every waking moment with him I always thought there was tomorrow I was wrong. carrie L

At 3:50am on October 5, 2009, Tami said…: Oh Lorelie, I so feel your pain, I lost my son in a motorcycle accident on 06-22-09, this is a journey no parent should ever have to take, We all know the despair you feel, everyone grieves differently, you just need to hang on, write you feelings, write to your beautiful son, We are all here to listen to you, PLEASE write whatever you are feeling, It sometimes helps to get it out.

I hold you in a tight hug,
Tami