Happy Birthday to your son. Hope you have some comfort and peace on this day. I too lost a son (39) in 2009. I have a picture just like the one above when Donny visited relatives in Oklahoma with his Dad and they went cat fishing. Great memories.
HAPPY HEAVEN:Y BIRTHDAY RICHARD 1/27 Hold your Mom with all your might. Let her feel your love. We celebrate their Birthdays because it was the happiest day of our lives, That hasnt changed just because they are in Heaven. I believe. You are a wonderful Mom, for eternity.
How are you doing? and what have you been doing? I am ok getting ready for Jared's would be birthday is a wonderful thing and is bitter/sweet. It's a long story and i will have to share it with you later i just wanted to check on you and see how you were and am sending my love to you and to your family. I know the holidays will be here before we know it and i don't want to get to busy that i don't remember to drop you a line or two. So here is a line and another will follow. Love you and i am thinking of you and praying for us. Love Daphne
Hello Dearest Lynn;
I have not been on the site for a very long time, some of it is just the business of living, and some of it is the newspaper stuff the DA stuff and the insurance stuff. It's just stuff. I would like to say that i am sorry that i have not written to you for a time we do have a special bond, and i always enjoy sharing with you. I will not promise that i will always be here, but i can say that i am ok for today, everyday is different.As of late it's been a monster lol, but i know that all things come so that we may go through them and come out on the other side of it to see how far we have come with the grace of God and the blessings that come with that time. How have you been? when i came back on the site and saw Richard's pic with the big fish it made me smile, He is so beautiful i have to admit that the day started out rough and seeing him (Richard) just gave me that little extra push i needed, these are the blessings! those little things we miss when we are too busy. When you get a chance write me at my e-mail this is where i seem to be as of late! firstname.lastname@example.org and i will get back asap, Lynn, thank you for thinking of me, and thank you for Richard i am reminded that he and Jared are brothers now with Christ. Thank you so very much. I love you! and am blessed xoxoxoxox! you have no idea of the push you and Richard gave to me today.
Jared's Mom Forever/Daphne
richard is a very nice looking boy, and i see he liked to fish allso, my heart hurts for you, thank you for the comment you made about my boy's and there grand kids, my name is janice i pray that your hurt will some way easy up on you , jush keep praying i know he is up there somewere and i know he's o.k. jush like all the other son's that went to soon, god bless you, he will all ways be with you, as long as you live he dose to, your friend janice
Hi it's been awhile since I've written. Scott will turn 40 on July 29. This is the Birthday I always kid him about being 40. I will take a bunch of ballons to him that has your 40 on them. And I will still cry for him as always. I'll look at his pictures and still say I just can't believe your not here with me. Some days I'll look at his picture and I love you Scott and smile at him. I hate the saying with time it'll get better. Not for me. The lord took my best son. I talk to Scott at times because I know he hears me and I believe he sees me. I believe in the after life. It's written that you choose to come back to earth after your life is over. Not this time if I have been choosing to live again on earth. Life is hard and crule, too many worries. This time when I die I'm staying in Heaven and I'm not coming back to earth. And I tell Scott save a place for me and wait for you mom.
dear richards mom, thankyou for your kind words, and am equally as sorry, for the loss of your son also. ben passed over in 1996, and as you read just 17 years old. it took me along time to get passed and deal with the whole ordeal, but with the help of many signs he gave me, and my strong belief in god, and justing knowing that he made it to somewhere, made things a little easier in my mind. also my mind in 13 years never let me do was to invision my boy swinging on the end of a noose. not once has my ming gone there. i call that one of my many gifts from god, he knows my heart could never of took it. after 13 years, i go to the grave, 4 to 8 times a year, as he was barried in his fathers town , his town to, at the local cemetary. 60 miles away. i used to cry, i cry no more. i,m finally at the point i have let it go, and stopped blaming myself for things i had no controll over. i talk to my son all the time, and made him a memorial from me right out side my window, so it reminds me every day. a small bunch of maple saplings, when we moved into out half built house, we had just bought land and was building our home, which was half done when ben died. right out front was a little bunch of maple trees, with a rock in front of them, i made that bens tree, and over the years have put many items, lights, and mostly birdfeeders to let the birds and little animals breath life into it. after 13 years it,s grown into many tall maples still together. i did this i think because it was a fir tree, that ben had done the deed on. and i needed a new tree, a different tree, to help me. as i live a mile in the woods, and our nearest neigbors, a mile away, so it makes sence to me now, it was away to keep him alive, in my heart, and i guess it worked. it was my own therepy. he left behind 3 younger siblings, which 2 i,m very porod to say are us marines, and my oldest son under ben, is a successful musician. they were 16, 10, and 8 when ben died. and yes we all went through it together. how they survived, i,m not sure, because this mom was a train wreck, for a cupple years. and the next years after that just prety much numb.but i pulled myself up by my boot straps, and tried as hard as god would let me to be a good mom for the other 3 children. today i can talk about ben, with out comming undone, with out crying, or the anger, but with a peace of mind, it does, and it will get better. time has a way of healing the broken heart, and though you will NEVER FORGET, you do move forward, it does take time. thanks for sharing, and i,m so sorry for your loss, we're all in this together!!! hugs and prayers to you luv.
Thank you for your comment. I agree with you, no one is going to tell me when and how to grieve. Thank you for your support. It is nice to hear from someone that knows what I am going through. I wish you the best... Big Hug! Lydia
I haven't been on line much but how are you doing? It was two years on March 5 that Scott had died. I went to put fresh spring flowers in his vase, put up new pictures and clean his stone. And then I sat down and talked to him about things going that I'm sure he already knew about. And then his first girlfriend when he was a teenager showed up and I listen to her stories of Scott. It was nice to share with her because she still cared about Scott even tho she has married and has two children. Let me know what and how you are doing.