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MISSING FRIENDS TO HELP ME COPE AND INSPIRE ME

Posted on January 12, 2011 at 9:29pm 0 Comments 0 Likes

i HAVE NOT BEEN ON THIS SITE FOR A WHILE AND TRULY MISSED WHAT OTHERS HAVE WRITTEN AND BECAME FRIENDS WITH ALL OF US WHO MOURN THE PASSING OF SOMEONE WE LOVE

another empty year

Posted on December 22, 2010 at 9:23pm 2 Comments 0 Likes

It is three years dec 20th my love passsed and how I hate christmas eve the day I had to say goodbye and lay him to rest.I am still so lonely and empty I just sit and mourn everyday ,wishing I had one more moment with him,when your soulmate dies you die to and no one can understand those feelings until they are in the same shoes.holidaays are so bad when you are alone after so many years with your husband,missing him forever till I go and rest beside his side.

NO FRIENDS

Posted on February 14, 2010 at 9:02pm 2 Comments 0 Likes

WISH SOMEONE BE A FRIEND AND WRITE TO ME ,I DO NOT KNOW HOW TO INVITE A FRIEND MY E-MAIL?vickson2@verizon.net really need friends to communicate with before i have a complete breakdown

THE CLOSER THE HOLIDAYS THE MORE MY HEART ACHES

Posted on December 12, 2009 at 9:36pm 3 Comments 0 Likes

CHRISTMAS IS COMING AND I HATE IT,MY BELOVED HUSBAND WAS BURIED ON CHRISTMAS EVE AND I AM SO SICK MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY THINKING ABOUT GETTING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS AGAIN,PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME THROUGH THIS WITH WORDS OF WISDOM,COURAGE AND HOW THEY MADE IT ,I REALLY DONT THINK I CAN DO IT THIS YEAR IT IS HARDER THAN EVER NOT SEEING HIM OR TALKING TO HIM ,COFFEE IN THE EARLY MORNING WAITING FOR THE CHILDREN AND GRANDCHILDREN TO COME ,NOW THEY DONT LIKE TO COME HERE BECAUSE THEIR DAD AND… Continue

holidays are now heartaches

Posted on November 8, 2009 at 9:58am 1 Comment 0 Likes

as the holiday season approches I find my heart getting heavier,thinking of the past when happy and my husband with me,now all I can do is remember christmas eve is when he was laid to rest,.I feel as though it gets harder everyday and to think of thanksgiving what is there to be thankful for? does anyone feel the same as I as the only peace we will have is when we are laid to rest beside them?

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At 8:56pm on December 7, 2012, Come Be Refreshed 119 said…: Violet how are you faring? You have been on my mind and in my prayers. Just remember that God is a refuge for those crushed at heart. And please remember His promise at Acts 24:15 and Revelation 21:4,5 that is held out for our loved ones who have fallen asleep in death. Prayer is powerful so do not leave, God Jehovah out of the equation. I will be checking back with you soon

Jackie

At 3:42pm on November 29, 2012, Come Be Refreshed 119 said…: Dear Violet, I sincerely hope and pray this message finds you doing fair under the circumstances....I just want you to know that I was thinking about you as the holiday season continues to climax. These can be the hardest times to cope with because of the loss of a loved one. Im praying that God grant you peace of mind and heart, as well as comfort, so that you are not to overwhelmed or saddened by the seasonal festivities around you. Remember, surround yourself with positive people who will be there for you. Its okay to cry Violet if things get next to you. It's totally understandable that you will have an array of emotions and at times feel utterly all alone in a room full of friends and relatives. Violet even when you smile or laugh around others the Bible says at Proverbs 14:13: "Even in laughter the heart may be in pain....", however, the latter part of that verse mentions the outcome of grief: "....and grief is what rejoicing ends up in." Please know that you have my sincerest belated condolences.

Jackie

At 6:06am on November 23, 2012, Come Be Refreshed 119 said…: Hello Violet my heart truly goes out to you especially around this time of the season. Please, know that at your saddest moments and at your loneliest times God will be there for you always to strengthen you so that you can make it through this day and those to follow. (Philippians 4:6,7; Psalms 9:9).
Violet, the loss of you husband has been heavy on your heart and mind and living without him has been quite a challenge and that is very understandable. The Bible speaks of married couples as being "one flesh" which illustrates the intimacy and permanence of the marital bond. And so when this marital bond is severed by the death of a spouse or other means, the pain and suffering of the surviving spouse can be great (Genesis 2:24). Just know that the Bible holds out a beautiful hope and promise for our loved ones who have fallen asleep in death (Isaiah 26:19; Revelation 21:4,5)
Be patient with yourself during your period of grief. No one grieves exactly the same way. There are no set rules to the amount of time a person should be through grieving over the loss of a spouse or any family member. The important thing is to take care of your health by getting enough rest, fresh air and eating nutritious meals. Surround yourself with positive people that will do more listening than talking. Because sometimes during the grieving process all you may need is for someone to be there and listen, someone who will allow you to express your feelings and let you cry if you must. That is why we have tear ducts......(:^). I will be checking on you to see how you are faring or coming along. Also I will be praying for your well being and that you have peace of heart and mind.
Jackie

At 9:53pm on December 31, 2009, violet la pollo said…: thankyou all for your support,I would like to add you as my friends but dont know how i could use all the friends i could find right now as my greif is overpowering me thankyou

At 1:31pm on December 19, 2009, ROBERTA SALYER said…: hi violet thank you for the message,today is the day he passed and im a wreck im gonna go to the cemetary and decorate his grave for xmas i hope i can do it its very hard but i think my kids keep me going i know what u mean i wish christmas would just never come back.but i know exactly what ur going thru and my condolences r with u.im here if u need me......Roberta

At 10:43pm on December 11, 2009, violet la pollo said…: vhristmas eve is the day I had to lay my husband to rest after 9 months of paina nd unbearable suffering due to colon and bone cancer,I am so upset about what I will do that day ,I know I wont be able to face it or listen to people saying merry christmas,there is no more,to be honest I would rather die than go through christmas eve knowing how horrific it was and still is,how can I block it out,I have no friends close by as my husband and I were best friends the only ones we needed now I am left alone in my grief and getting so upset and sick I wish god would have taken me first

At 9:51am on November 24, 2009, Wendela said…: Violet, your words are so true! Those of us who have known True Love are truly blessed, even if our loved ones have gone before us. That wonderful Love lives on, and with the help of God Love will sustain us through this difficult season. God bless you, and God bless us all.
Wendela

At 12:21am on November 22, 2009, Wendela said…: Thank you, Violet. Sometimes I think prayer is the only thing that keeps me going - not my own praying, (I hardly pray to God any more for myself, but I talk to David as if I were praying and that seems more real now) but I know that other people are praying for me, and it lifts me up. Like you, I've lost a husband and parents, but to lose a daughter - what a terrible loss, what a combination of losses! My heart goes out to you, Violet! We'll get through this season one step at a time, one breath at a time. We can do it, I know we can. God bless you!
Wendy

At 11:13am on November 21, 2009, Wendela said…: Violet, I read your message about how difficult the holidays are, and I think I know how you feel. This is the first holiday season since my husband died in September. It is so hard. People care, but they don't know what to say or do, and no one can make it better. When I get a message like, "Have a great Thanksgiving!" I think, how can they even say that? How can I begin to have a great Thanksgiving, without David? But, they don't mean to be cruel. They are either mindlessly saying or writing the same thing they write to everyone at this time of year, or they really wish I could have a great Thanksgiving, but don't know a better way to communicate that they are thinking about me and that I haven't been forgotten and dropped off their list just because I'm a widow now. There's no easy way to get through the holidays. I need to find the ability to look at a cheerful holiday card, and interpret it as an attempt to reach out to me, sent by someone who cares, even though the sender doesn't have a clue what to say or do for me. They are doing the best they can, and I am doing the best I can, and that's all any of us can do. I'm saying a prayer today for you, and for me, and for all of us on this site - a prayer for strength and compassion. God bless us, we need the blessings!