January 2010 Blog Posts (75)

Maybe this will help

I'm hoping that journaling will help, but I don't want to do it on my own computer. I don't know how to start this so I'll just start with "it's Sunday night and it's just hitting me that I'm never going to see him again."

My husband died on Jan 19, completely unexpectedly. He was fine on Monday - we had gone out and done some shopping, gotten some lunch, spent time together. Monday night I went to my dance class and he practiced his guitar. I kissed him goodnight and he went to bed… Continue

Added by Chris B on January 31, 2010 at 11:00pm — No Comments

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STOP THE KILLING

Added by Rose Davis on January 31, 2010 at 9:19am — 1 Comment

LIFE IS SO DIFFERENT, WITHOUT YOU DAD

SEEMS JUST LIKE YESTERDAY, WHEN YOU WERE HERE, SMILING AND MAKING JOKES..NOW YOUR GONE..ITS SO HARD FOR ME TO GO TO MOMS HOUSE AND NOT SEE YOU SIITING IN YOUR RECLINER, TAKING YOUR LITTLE NAPS..

MY DAD PASSED AWAY ON Nov.15th 2009..HE HAD ASTROKE AND PUT HIM IN A COMA..I WAS WITH HIM UNTIL HE TOOK HIS LAST BREATH..BUT WHAT HURTS ME THE MOST IS THAT I NEVER GOT TO SAY GOOD-BYE TO HIM AFTER HE SLIPPED INTO A COMA..ITS SAD WHEN I THINK OF HIM ON A VENTILATOR AND GETTING FED THROUGH A TUBE,… Continue

Added by monica on January 30, 2010 at 8:00pm — No Comments

I didn't Know

My mother died July 30th 2009 as a result of injuries suffered in an automobile accident. She was 87 years old. The person who hit her was 30 years old he died at the scene. I did not know how many peoples lives my mother had touched until she was gone. Ialways thought she was incredible, but I had know idea so many other people knew.

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Added by Vera on January 29, 2010 at 12:33pm — No Comments

Missing my mom

My mother was murdered on 8/11/2004. She was beaten to death by someone whom she claimed as a friend. They were both using drugs and drinking and got to fighting and it got out of hand, at least thats what he told me. I was in prison serving 3 years for some stupid stuff I did. I wasn't allowed to go to the services, never told why not. My mother was cremated like she wanted and my aunt was supposed to hold her ashes until I got home so that I could bury my mom. She got on drugs, got evicted… Continue

Added by Cassandra on January 29, 2010 at 11:59am — 2 Comments

Over=Start Palindrome

The video you are about to see is called a “palindrome.” From what I understand it is something that reads the same both forwards and backwards…but with a different meaning in either direction. In other words…it means one thing when you read it down…and another thing when you read it up…but the words don’t change at all.

It’s one of the things I’ve noticed about life since everything changed. The paradox thing…that we can’t know “good” without knowing “bad”…that great sorrow can… Continue

Added by Andrew Koehn on January 28, 2010 at 9:55am — No Comments

Missing my Mom

Mommy, I love you more each day. I miss you terribly. I need you but GOD wanted you ... Rest peacefully my "Ladybug" in HIS presence.

You were the best mother anyone could ever have, you were so loving, thoughtful, strong and you were everything to me. I hope I can someday be as great as you!

always your baby girl...

Added by Tamarah1271 on January 28, 2010 at 8:34am — No Comments

How I lost my only child.

hello, my name is Angie and my son passed away 31 months ago. He was involved in a motorcycle accident on June 16th 2007 and he passed away June 23rd 2007. This has been the hardest experience that I ever had to go through. I haven't had the nerve to connect with the person that my son hit, I'm still dealing with the grief of losing my only child. My child bearing days are over, not that would help me any at all. If anyone has gone through something similar I would appreciate hearing from… Continue

Added by Angie on January 27, 2010 at 8:54pm — No Comments

Ian' Story

The cool night air was in his face as Ian Tilmann made his last run down the hill on Hercules Avenue in Clearwater, FL. Police later said Ian was going about 20 mph.

The 28-year-old U.S. Marine Corp veteran and two friends had been skateboarding down the street for several hours. But this would be Ian's last run.

At the foot of the hill the front wheels on his longboard locked up. He was hurled into the night, tumbling headfirst to the hard pavement. Like many other… Continue

Added by Marcy Tilmann on January 27, 2010 at 11:13am — 1 Comment

Highs and lows

I went to the Dr. the other day just to find out if I was crazy or not. Sometimes I feel just even and in about a half second I can be down in the dumps. The lowest of the low. Never in my life have I ever been so low. I thought I was loosing my mind. Sometimes I found it hard to take another step or say another word it was just to hard. I don't understand all this sadness. I would love to hear his voice or see him in a dream but I know it wouldn't be enough just the one time. How am I going to… Continue

Added by Kim on January 26, 2010 at 11:05pm — No Comments

Loss of my Mom

It has now been one month as of January 18, 2010 that I lost my Mom. Mom died from Pancreatic cancer which had metastisized to the liver...the odd thing is that I believe that she knew and just didn't tell my sister and I. Mom called me on the first Thursday of December 2009 and said that she was in the hospital and then called me that Friday to say she was moved to ICU. I booked my flight that Friday and flew up to her on Saturday. It went downhill from there and we lost her December 18, 2009.… Continue

Added by VLynne on January 26, 2010 at 3:35pm — No Comments

Being supportive from afar

Do you wonder, “How can I be supportive when I live far away?” Or, have you concluded it is too difficult to support someone from a distance and think, “I wish I lived closer so I can be supportive.”

There’s much you can do to show support from afar, and you can still make a difference in helping loved ones deal with loss. What you choose to do depends on your willingness to be involved and the needs or desires of your loved one.

Here are some ideas of what’s worked for…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on January 26, 2010 at 3:00pm — No Comments

How Are We Doing?

This is something I posted on my Thirty Seconds Site that got a fair amount of views and comments. I thought I would post it here too.

I guess this is pretty darn personal…but that’s what a blog is for isn’t it? I made it over the past few days…and while it’s about us…the living…I hope it makes Laura proud somehow.

Just putting this together gave me some insight that I never would have had if I decided it was too personal. No… Continue

Added by Andrew Koehn on January 26, 2010 at 1:47pm — 5 Comments

Who do they call at work if something happens to you?

If something happens to you, who should your loved ones call—and what should they ask about?

If you work for an employer, your loved ones know that you go off to work each day—even if you “go” to work in a home office in your pajamas. But do your loved ones know who to call if something happens to you? Do they have contact information for…

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Added by Melanie Cullen on January 25, 2010 at 12:30pm — No Comments

Replies from anyone are welcomed!

Within less than two days time, I learned of three (3) deaths:

(1) My ex-husband - 49 years old. Died August of last year. (Married 13 years, no children, divorced since 1995, spoke with only a couple of times since then over the phone)

(2) My very good friend - 46 years old. Died Jan of last year. (A widow with 2 young sons in their late teens, early twenties, spoke with often over the years, but not in the most recent past two or three years)

(3)… Continue

Added by Mourning Miller on January 25, 2010 at 7:27am — No Comments

An Opportunity To Tell Your Story

Recently, I was introduced to the concept of the “thin thread”. A thin thread is a moment, event, setback, crossroad, or encounter that connected you to a person, place or an opportunity that changed your life for the better.

Losing a loved one may very well be one of these moments, but, in the darkness of grief, this “moment” may be overlooked or ignored.

I truly believe that there are no coincidences in life. Everything for which we desire is put in our path, and… Continue

Added by Ellen Gerst on January 24, 2010 at 11:00am — No Comments

LOST MY ONE AND ONLY PERSON

I JUST LOST MY HUSBAND IN AUG. I JUST RETIRED IN 2008 AND WE MOVED TO BE CLOSER TO MY SON AND OUT OF THE COLD WEATHER. MY HUSBAND COULDN'T TAKE THE WEATHER BACK HOME. HE CAME HERE FIRST AND I AFTER 4 MONTHS. WE WERE VERY HAPPY HERE. THEN IN JAN 2008 HE GOT SICK AND WENT DOWN HILL. IN AND OUT OF HOSPITALS IN MAY 2 DAYS AFTER MOTHERS DAY HE LEFT HOME AND NEVER CAME BACK. I WAS SO HAPPY FOR MOTHER'S DAY HE WANTED TO TAKE ME OUT FOR LUNCH BUFFET AND DO A LITTLE GAMBLE HE WAS SO SICK HE HAD TO DO IT… Continue

Added by SUZANNE MCLAUGHLIN on January 23, 2010 at 9:51am — No Comments

Grief

Today's subject is grief. Been thinking about this a lot lately and can't seem to get a handle on it. I just have never been so low. I know at times I feel a little normal but for the most part I am just sad. What is the proper way to grieve? I don't know. Somedays I can laugh about the silly things he done as a child and other days it kills me and brings me to tears just seeing his picture. How does one get over this. I know I have read all the grief process and seems like non apply to me. I… Continue

Added by Kim on January 22, 2010 at 7:56pm — 1 Comment

Pet loss must be validated as legitimate cause for grief

Each time I come across a website designated to offering support and comfort to those who grieve the loss of a loved one, I am most pleased because human beings are at their best when both reaching out to others for help and reaching out to others to offer help.

However, I more seldom find grief sites that offer that compassion to those of us who have lost a beloved companion animal. Check your own prejudices here. Did your mind instantly go to the too-typical response, "What's the… Continue

Added by Sid Korpi on January 22, 2010 at 5:03pm — No Comments

When I breathe

I noticed I get so caught up in my daily life - and then when I settle and reflect and then I breath i feel some pain - its good - I just feel - I love this site - It was meant for me to find it - so I can share and know that others are seeking freedom from loss of loved ones - maybe not freedom but a way to ease some of the discomforts and to let others know that the healing does take place and its ok to continue to love as they have passed on

Added by Terry H. on January 22, 2010 at 2:29pm — No Comments