Going through my phone contacts the other day, I spotted the name and phone number of a dear friend of mine. I smiled at the thought of her and imagined her reassuring voice that greeted me whenever I called and the way she was so interested in the mundane details of my life. How I longed to have one more conversation with her, but she died two years ago from cancer. I found the number I needed and dialed; Donna’s name still securely in my list of contacts. I will never delete her…

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The New Year inspires us to begin anew; to assess how we can start the year in a positive state that will hopefully set the tone for the months ahead. In this frame of mind, I began the morning by dumping my in-box on my desk and sorting through all the items that were not priorities in the busy weeks and months that ended the year.

 

Buried in the heap was a holiday…

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Q. I’ve heard that a woman’s risk for health problems increases after her husband dies. I didn’t know that. What are the most important issues I should be aware of as a widow?

 

Many studies show that losing your mate affects your own health. Most recently, a 2011 study at the University of Pennsylvania Population Studies Center found that widows had a 47%…

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My boyfriend was shot and killed a almost two years ago. I was living a happy life, then it was taken away from us. I think about him all the time, on New Year's Eve we stayed in. My daughter comes in my room and tells me she felt someone touching her hair and felt

I choose to pursue solace, seek it out every day with each breath I take.  If my pursuit takes me to helping another grieving parent or saving a life so be it.  It is part of who I am. 

This is my own personal declaration to find peace because it is who I was before my son was taken, and it is who I am since.  I cannot afford to torment myself, family, friends,…

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I'm co-authoring a book of materials for heartfelt memorial and funeral services and ceremonies.

The focus of this book is for things that would appeal to non-religious and unconventional preferences.

We're looking for contributors and collaborators of things that are easily followed when read aloud.

And if you can share some creative things you did or know of that you recommend to to people who are planning for a loss and thinking about things to say or do for…

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Missing you is a normal feeling tears still fall daily. I love you my Beautiful Boy