Well next month it will be 5 years since my brother passed away from alcoholism at 32 years old.  It feels crazy that amount time has passed... I think I may have been living in a bubble the first 2 or 3 years just managing daily life and trying to get through.  Other people share that it gets easier ..... I cant say I agree.  Although I moved on with life and have a great life, it has not remotely made a difference in the amount of pain I feel, or the fact that he inst coming back.  It…

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Nine days ago I lost my other half.  The 29th of this month will be our 3year anniversary, although we had been friends over half of my life.  I've never had to deal with losing someone this close to me and I never knew a person's heart could hurt so much.  It feels like my world was turned upside down and I don't know when it will ever turn right side up again.  My chest is tight, my stomach is in knots, my head is hurting.  I feel like I am on a roller coaster of emotions; torn between…

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When loss hits, it wipes you out. It can be hard to get out of bed each morning no less resume daily routines. How can you make you way back while continuing to mend?

1. Re-enter slowly being careful not to overwhelm yourself.
2. Exercise is one of the best ways you…

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My name is James but most people call me Tommy.  I am the oldest son of 4 brothers.  But my story starts with the fact that there are only two of us left.  18 years ago my first brother died in a car accident. I got a call near midnight from another brother telling me that he had died. He was only a year younger than me.  Of course his death was hard but in many ways it drew our family closer together.  In some ways I felt like I had closure with him.  Fast forward to 2011. I got another…

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I see others that grieve but we all grieve differently. I lost family members before, but when one dies in their sleep, there is no closure.

Q. My elderly aunt just died, and I’m on the fence about attending the funeral. I loved her, but the funeral is far away and will be so depressing. Will it really matter if I don’t go?

The big question is: matter to whom? So many rituals, which bind us together, have fallen by the wayside in our…

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Are you grieving for Carrie Fisher and Debbie Reynolds? Still saddened by the deaths of …

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Another New Year without you

So many times I hear your laughter and see your smile.

I've lost count the times I think I see you and I speed up to the truck only to realize the driver was not you.

You are missed beyond the realm of words and everyday you seem to pop into my mind and make me smile or cry.

We brought in the New Year once again with your child,the boys are getting too old for New Years at Cocoas lake lol.

You are with us everyday and I know you are smiling… Continue