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When someone you hardly know has died, it can be shocking to experience strong emotions. This happened to me several years ago; I read the morning paper and realized that the 15-year-old who died in an automobile accident was the daughter of long ago friends. I had only met the daughter once, shortly after her birth, and yet I remember sobbing as I read her name.
We can’t possibly predict how we’ll feel when someone we know dies; and it’s even harder to imagine how a loss…
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Even those with the best intentions might say something inappropriate to the bereaved. Hurtful sentiments can damage relationships; so many individuals stay away, fearing they’ll say the wrong thing.
So what can you do? Stick to the basics when speaking with the bereaved. Communicate in some way your sadness at their loss and if you have some knowledge of the deceased, mention a quality you admired. For example: “I was so sad to hear of Jill’s death. Her wonderful nature…
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on February 18, 2009 at 7:30am — 61 Comments
Q. An old friend of mine has died, and I’ve been asked to give a eulogy at the funeral service. I’m very nervous about it because I’ve never done this before. I’m afraid I’ll sound boring or trite. Can you give me some tips so I don’t make a fool of myself?
A. Today it’s rare to attend a funeral without at least one eulogy, and sometimes many people speak. We seem to need formal, thoughtful words to make sense of the death and give us closure in this era of…
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It can be really awkward when someone you know is grieving a loss and you never met the deceased. Should you participate in the burial and mourning rituals at the funeral, cemetery, or home? Do you pay a personal call days or weeks following a death? Maybe you did know the deceased, but you’re afraid to say or do the wrong thing and contemplate staying away.
Many folks have questions on what’s appropriate etiquette following a death. I’ve come to the conclusion that just…
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Whether you use Get It Together or handle the job on your own, there are a few basic steps to completing and maintaining your personal planner.
1. Get started! Set aside one- to two-hour windows—sufficient to be productive, but not overwhelming. If using…
Added by Melanie Cullen on February 3, 2009 at 11:00am — No Comments
First, let’s consider the process—preparing important documents, collecting related records, storing them securely, talking with loved ones and maintaining your personal “planner” (the name I’ll use for your compiled records). You can prepare your planner yourself, relying simply on the tips in this column. Or you can turn to Get It Together (…Continue
Added by Melanie Cullen on February 3, 2009 at 10:30am — No Comments
Welcome to Get It Together Now, a new column about organizing your important records—for yourself and, eventually, for your loved ones.
If you’ve ever pitched in for someone who has become incapacitated, or if you’ve helped to wrap up an estate following a death, you know how hard it is. It’s hard emotionally to step in to the void left by that person, however temporarily. It can be hard spiritually to lose the companionship of one you love and the partnership of one you rely on.…
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